Living with a narcissist is a lot like living with your own personal psychological terrorist – and while this is obviously a situation no one wants to be stuck in, …
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Answered: How do you deal with a narcissist’s silent treatment?
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Thank you for this video! This describes my former relationship PERFECTLY! I tried harder and HARDER to reason with my ex partner when presented with the silent treatment. It would sometimes go on for two, three or even four days, and I was giving up my power by trying harder and harder to communicate. In the last months of the relationship, I would reason why I should leave, and then the next day, convince myself that I should stay. Finally, after many months of this flip flopping, I took the bold move and retained a family law lawyer. Best. Thing. EVER!
One week out of abuse. This is so hard and I can't thank you enough for all of your information. Your videos have given me hope. My narcissistic finances favorite form of punishment is the silent treatment. After incorrectly filming him when he was lifting weights at the gym… So he can watch himself… He threw a fit, called me every name in the book, didn't speak to me for two days and then left the house and he has been gone for a week. Of course, I didn't mean to mess up his video, I tried my best. This has been my life.. I can't seem to do anything to his standards… Except pay all the bills since he has no job and hasn't for seven years. I have finally decided that enough is enough.. He can go live with his mom at age 44. He can remain silent… I have found it to be quite nice.
you nailed it with this video. to me the silent treatment is the worst thing, because your whole day is in his hands. whether you will have a good day or not. or even spend the day together. you will never win because the narcisist is in control of the game and if "rules" dont let him keep control them game is manipulated by narcisist. you will never win. never.
I live with this on a regular basis with my husband. Its very hard to deal with. Our honey moon he practically ignored me for most of it. He is ignoring me now, its been about 4 days and it will continue indefinitely if I don't play his little game. i would say he's ignoring me most days of the week. i guess the only way this will stop is if i take our son and leave, im tired of living my life in the dark.
You have to get to the point where you don't care
well he give me the silent treatment I did the same back he didn't like that I read more about him his game he talks about his past relationship so much at board me so I did the same back he didn't like that I learn more about him how he is so insecure and likes attention he ask me back three times the last time I told him it was over nobody plays with me I saw right though him I read him so well I left him he told ppl he was draw to me I noticed so much bs it made me laugh so I kick his ass iam 411 hes 5 some thing I am happy it's over
They love you being fragile and desperate , it makes them feel on top of the world, next silent treatment I'm gonna just live my own life, we do not live together thank god!
How? Rejoice! You never have to deal with it again :-)
Monkey see monkey do. I reflected it back to him. Then after many years of silent treatment he switched up his tactic and began raging and threatening to leave me. I dumped him before he could dump me.
I've been getting the silent treatment since yesterday because he does not like the way I parent our 15 year old daughter. He always does this along with not "allowing" me to hold his hand (which we always do) or even so much as looking at me when I am right beside him. 25 years I have been putting up with this crap. I am so depressed.
Hi Angie! Totally agree, great video. I have experienced this and I can to the conclusion that I had to "play his game" to win. The thing is, for ppl who are empathic, it is soooo hard to ignore someone because you know the best way to work something out is through communication. So, in essence it's soul crushing to even have to play this game, when you would so much rather be upfront, like a normal person, wich the Marc will not do. Ugh, the empath in me want to help so badly, but I've come to realize that not at my expense, and he won't change if he doesn't want to. Another red flag I've noticed is the complete inability or unwillingness to self critique or self analyze. Also, never ever EVER will say " I love you" to me, his mom or dad. Also, he had a habit of asking for help, then everyone bends over backwards to help– and he's like umm, nah. Like none of it is good enough. Infuriating, but good to know that resources like your are there! Thank you for sharing..
Just go on a hookup rampage spree. Rainbows will be flying everywhere.
Yes, you've got the right advice Angie! Thank you. :)
Thank you thats so helpful, I have a friend who is lately ignoring me after he was so nice!
I tried so many times to go to him and ask him to hangout, he always gives me the impression that he has no time, e.x: he once told me that i dont want to hangout with you because i woke up today and I decided to just stay at home!!
she's heading to domestic violence web site now!!!
yep my wife says your right!!!!
My narc after several mini silence treatments, being like 2 days, 3 days, he left home without saying anything took some clothes and disappeared for one week, no msgs, no calls, I phoned a friend of him and his friend didnt have any idea where he was, I started crying on the phone telling his friend that i cant handle this anymore and his friend was trying to calm me down, probably thinking that i was the crazy one, after one week he came back and said he was on a hotel.
Does they know we fear being alone? Does they know that from the beginning when they meet us?
Thanks Angie, good insight & good name too (same as my daughters) Had silent treatment from my wife all-day, with exception of random mutterings under her breath. and before I even saw this video I repeated what she said to me back at her and added "I don't care" This was about some ironing- that I was doing(wrong of course) There followed look of mild confusion, whereby she made herself a cup of Tea and went ranting off to bed
…the last time my x gave me the silent treatment i packed my stuff and left…..that is really the only solution, sadly.
He went silent, I blocked him from all my media. I felt so much better not having to endure another round and got busy doing my own thing. After a few days, he showed up at my door hysterical, crying that he can't live without me.
He…………………………….?
This made me cry, remembering how our mother gave my little sister – she was only 7/8 years old – the silent treatment for days on end. It's going to be a rough night remembering all her narcissistic shit…
i yelled and screamed and made a total asshole of myself, when i went silent too he smashed and destroyed all my property-including my son's baby pictures
The Narcissist I was with, I just ignored him when he gave me the silent treatment period after the 4th time that's what I did. lo and behold he got really really really ticked off. I didn't know why I didn't because I wasn't studying the videos but now I know why and you have explained it's because I told him I didn't care which in reality I did not anymore. so he would throw a temper tantrum and literally say things like why aren't you listening to me? Will you look at me when I'm talking to you? get off the phone? Because I was on my phone
Super-Awesome advice Angie.