What are most of us looking for today when we enter a relationship? Actually, I am going to address this article to women because, the truth is, most
That said, let’s get back to considering whether or not you even want to try to have a relationship with a
I guess you need to understand something about narcissism before we discuss this question further. First of all, realize narcissistic tendencies or narcissistic symptoms can occur in varying degrees. In other words, someone might be diagnosable as having full fledged Narcissistic Personality Disorder, while another person might merely display what you’ll see referred to in internet articles as unhealthy, pathological, or malignant narcissism. Even lesser degrees of narcissism can be problematic in a relationship, though.
How many of the criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder must a man meet in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders for him to be bad news for a relationship? Frankly, I can’t answer that question. But what you need to realize is this: Often you can be seduced or sucked into a relationship with a
Indeed, you might be sucked into a relationship with a
But then, after awhile, you might come to realize it is more about him. You might feel he has to give a great performance, and you’re always expected to commend him for a job well done, too. And rather than feeling closer to him, instead, you might feel you’re becoming more and more like an object.
No, you don’t feel like he really loves you, or he wants only to be with you-though he probably acted that way in the beginning.
Perhaps this shouldn’t surprise you, however. See, a relationship with a
The transition might be so gradual that you don’t actually see the truth about what was happening-or where you have ended up. But if you stop and think about your sexual relationship with the
If you are in love with a
The day will probably come, however, when you bemoan the fact he doesn’t bring you flowers anymore.
In time, you may have many complaints about your relationship with this
You might discover it is hardly a relationship in the sense that you define the word. Rather, it is about you always worrying about what might please or displease him. It is about you doing things that you don’t like, and that might even be against your personal values, for that matter.
You are trying so hard to please him, and for a couple of reasons, too. You might believe this way, you can avoid his narcissistic rage. You also hope and pray he will go back to acting like the man he was in the beginning. You shouldn’t expect this if you are in a relationship with a
Remember, that was an act to suck you in. Now, though, is he walking around being his self centered and grandiose self, engaging in emotional abuse and verbal abuse that cause your self worth to slip away daily? If so, you are confronting the man he will probably continue to be.
You might be able to survive a relationship with a
Don’t expect that from the man displaying unhealthy levels of narcissism. No, remember, he doesn’t have to be diagnosable as having full fledged Narcissistic Personality Disorder to make your life miserable.
And really, isn’t life too short to spend it loving a
Source by Dr. Diane England