Being married to a narcissist is by far the most emotionally draining experience you can possibly endure in your life. Dealing with the emotional abuse brought on by such a person can make you feel like you’re the one with the problem. You probably feel controlled and manipulated around the clock, and it’s impossible for you the separate the lies from the truth because they convince themselves of a reality that does not exist. Have you ever had a conversation with your narcissistic husband and at the end of the conversation, felt like there must be something wrong with you because he is so convinced he is right? You could say the grass is green but your narcissistic husband said the grass was blue, and he is so convinced it is, you feel like maybe he is right and you are wrong. You then tell yourself he must be joking because it’s so far from the reality it’s got to be a joke, only to realize he really meant what he said.
I was frightened with the thought of how to divorce a narcissist husband but it was even scarier to think of staying with this person. How can you be with someone so disconnected with reality emotionally and mentally, someone who does not care about how you feel or how others around you feel, someone so self centered he considers himself to be superior to others and someone so arrogant he makes you and everyone around you feel like scum. You probably feel embarrassed every time he speaks to your friends and family, and not because of what he was saying, but because of how he was saying it.
You Must Have A Plan
Let me warn you right now. If you want to know how to divorce a narcissist, especially one with money, you better be prepared and have a game plan. Never let your husband know that you want to get divorced or that you’re thinking about it. A true narcissist believes he is above the law and feels like the rules do not apply to him. He will kick you out of the house and blame it on you, drain the bank accounts, cancel the credit cards, refuse to see the kids and tell the court your alienating his child, attempt to have you arrested and make up every single lie he can about you.
Here is a little secret
Your Narcissistic husband will blame every one of his own flaws on you. If he is an alcoholic, eats fast food for every meal, doesn’t stay healthy, sleeps in all day, parties all night, pawns the kids off at his moms and whatever else you know he does wrong, he is going to say you do all those things yourself. It makes it impossible to defend yourself and rather than being on offense during the divorce you’re on defense the whole time trying to prove all his lies wrong. The real kicker is because your husband is a narcissist, he will actually believe his lies are true, which causes him to fight tooth and nail for child custody to protect the children from your behavior, and he will do whatever it takes to ensure the divorce comes out in his favor.
A narcissist hates to lose and will never admit defeat, and because they are so competitive and self righteous they will drain their bank accounts in lawyer’s fees and questionable ethics to get the outcome they want. Protect yourself and follow my suggestions on how to divorce a narcissist without losing your kids, your money, and most of all your sanity. You’re in for a wild ride, but trust me, it’s better than sticking around, because only you will get hurt in the long run if you stay.
Source by Janice D. Rubin
