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listening to you is time well spent, thank you.
Amazing. Just the back up I need. Great advice. X
Thank you for this video! I have been instinctively doing these things for the past six months, and now I see why!
Wonderful video!! Healing more and more from my "training" of my upbringing, your words of wisdom ring true for me and my experiences. This video is a treasure wrapped in gold. It speaks volumes in a small package and I am so glad that you are out with your wonderful words of wisdom, light and love. Thank you for living your purpose!
Very helpful. I am definitely still experiencing attachment trauma. Thank you for this! Also– major side note: your makeup is so on point!
Thank you Lisa! I love to listen to you! I'm learning so much! I'm interested in your coaching program. I have finally realized that I have always been a co-dependant. It's such a feeling of relief just to know what my problem is and to know why I have always behaved a certain way. I am working on my recovery it am very happy!
superb!
you are so amazing and helpful. I'm getting it. You have such good inspiration. I appreciate it so much!!
Golden words !!!
"A narcissists agenda is to not see you, to not acknowledge you." That is so true. I can't tell you how many times I've caught the narcs in my family 'actively ignoring' every word I said. Or they contradict, interrupt, change the subject or pretend they did not hear/understand. It's all about emotional torture and they know it and they relish it. Their goal is to not validate you, your thoughts, feelings and opinions. You are just a peon to them. And resisting this is suffering. I am finally 'ok' with their narcissistic agenda and I've detached from them. I no longer care if I matter to them or not. In fact, in some strange way I'm glad that I don't matter to them because it absolves me of all responsibility towards them. And in reality, I really did not wish to be involved with narcs in the first place, so it's a blessing in disguise. In a way, narcs set their victims free simply by being narcs. Their very nature frees you from them.
Great tips Lisa. I like the idea of using a zipped up shirt to wear when speaking to them. I'm going to try that and the "I'm rubber you're glue' thing is not just Queens 🙂 I was raised in CT in we said that too. I think its just what we all said when we were younger. So funny that we can use that as adults and it can actually help us. Thanks for all of your videos. You have no idea how much you are helping me cope while I figure out how to move forward. You do inspire me. Love you and your energy.
Thank you!
Resistance is futile.. seen in a whole new way! Don't resist their narcissistic judgement of you, because your residence actually feeds their power and ability to hurt you. Allowing them to judge and think anything they want, while recognizing there is nothing that will change their mind, frees your mind and soul on such a level, it's hard to even describe. It's impossible to describe the freedom and piece of mind that comes from simply allowing them to think whatever they want. It actually stops being of any concern to you and life truly opens up with every color of the rainbow. :-)
You speak the truth and help me cope with the people I work with who are Narc's. Thank You!
thank u for this great video.i love it when u say 'Dear One' :)
I'm a recovering co-dependent thanks to counseling, books, and LISA A. ROMANO and ROSS ROSENBERG You Tube videos. GRATEFUL for all the healing truth you both have shared. Tonight I faced a narcissist in the family who questioned the decision my sister and I made regarding my 91 year old Dad entering a nursing facility. I felt attacked and I was defensive. What an impact your statement made to me that I wanted her approval and that's why I felt I had to defend our decision to her. WHY???? That is a ridiculous reaction. THANK YOU AGAIN. BLESS YOU . . . I LOVE IT WHEN YOU CALL US "DEAR ONE." YOU ARE A DEAR ONE TO ME. NANCY
absolutely love you! thank you for your time and help! <3 do you have any advise on a break up when children are involved? my children are my everything and i obviously do my best to do my best when it come to them. their father, the narcissist, uses them to get to me.
Thanks
There's a fine line between codependent personality and narcissistic personality, both are in effect codependent and have sustained the same type of injury in childhood, however, the narcissist is in rebellion against his/her own feelings of guilt and low self-esteem and overcompensating by seeking control while the codependent individual feels safe to submit to the feeling of low self-esteem. I would say the narcissist is very codependent as he/she needs to have their feelings validated as much as the attuning codependent does and both are equally hurt by rejection. I think there is a danger that we start to vilify the narcissist fueled by emotions of indignation and hunger for justice (which is always the quick way to populist appeal and youtube hits). The real challenge is to help both groups of people as they are both victims of emotional child abuse. The codependent needs to take the power from the narcissist away and the narcissist needs to learn that he/she doesn't need to be in control of relationships in order to have them.
Lady I dont know you,but I love you.You are a great person.Thank you for your smart words.
dear Lisa.. I have been listening to all your videos and I'm hooked! thank you for sharing this very valuable enlightening information.. I have a situation I'm dealing with and I really need your advise… I am about to meet my ex-husband..we were together for nine years…and it was hell..he was a narcissist and physically, verbally and emotionally abusive… I thank God I was able to end this disastrous union..I lost everything my house, my job and my money and I had to start all over again and I'm proud of myself for doing so…my question..out of the blue my ex called me and told me he wants to give me some of my money that he took when we were divorced.. by the way its has been 6 years now since our divorce… he acted as if everything was normal..and I acted cool and unreactive.. but within me I was anxious… I was happy he wanted to give me some of the money he owes me…but I don't want to see him… and after his call I collapsed and cried profusely.. remembering all the pain…I told him I would meet him but now I'm doubting this decision…should I meet him? and face him? my current boyfriend wants to tag along and I feel it would be nice to have him around when meeting me ex… but I feel the whole thing will be so stressful and might turn aggressive… so what do you think I should do ?
i will look into your coaching program, thank you for this helful video!
Lisa, you're always bang on target. 🙂 It's one thing for me to seek out my narc mother, which I've learned to stop doing. But is it normal, for a narcissist to just know when you're in trouble, even if you haven't spoken in eons? My mother has the ability to know when I'm going through something, and she'll use the opportunity to go for my throat. It is not at all unusual for me to for example, have a nightmare and the phone would ring and it's her. How is she doing that? She just knows. But she's so damn mean.
Thank YOU, Lisa! I am so grateful for your All the beautiful truth sharing and caring authentically! You speak straight from the heart, no holds bar, and in turn super inspiring, you're sweet, honest, genuine; sending you blessings of Love's Light to keep on shining!
omg this video really touched me im in need of help.