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Is the Narcissist Happy with this New person
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Perfect message at the perfect most needed time. Thank you for your directness and keeping it real.
Thank you! You have helped a lot. Regards
Very well said.
Oh shut up. She is talking from experience. Exposing you.
I dated him a mouth, its been over 2months and I still hurt very bad. the lies he told me , ect I use excuess and blame my self. his reasoning to not talk to me keeps changing, I bring up " quote on quote exactly verbatim what he tells me" and he changes his reasiing again and again .
none of his promisis he has kept. he says I need space I need time…but I just want to know….when the hurt will go away?
his gas's lite me strongly!
You Are "Awesome"
Thank-you !!
This is great! Thank you sooo much!
My ex, he died of cancer last year..he was a sexual narcissistic psychopath. he had been diagnosed. he never once said "I'm sorry, not even on his death bed. he continued with the false self routine and blaming others, denying and making excuses for the things he done. He also claimed to be a christian, and claimed he was not worried about going to hell.
No, he..or she will never be happy, with anyone! They mock their emotions, except for their anger. It's all the same, all their relationships. The 'new' person will go through the exact same shit the others went through. It starts out, with them acting like their false god like self. These will be the best time of the relationship, but..it's all lies and fake!…Then, you'll find out their true self.They will go into, the same behavior they have always had, with all their relationships.
i rly like her videos but shes kind of funny. the delusion dispeller aka devout religious person lmfao
This one helped me out a lot.. I have been learning about the NPD and codependency. I had a 2 1/2 yrs horrible relationship. Currently enforcing no contact. Everyday is a battle, he has used baiting and hovering techniques. He knows I have moved on and out of the blue texts me as if NOTHING happen. As if we were still together. Thanks for posting your videos. They have been helping!
What about if the person they are with is another narcissist? Who would wear the pants in the relationship at that point?
Brilliant
Every relationship with a narcissist is doomed with an unpleasant ending. Nothing fulfills them; they are simply energy vampires who lives on your supply to them!
Do I forgive the narc, yes, but I am done!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I know I am saying a lot, but it is a process of discovery, no matter how many years have gone by. We, normal people, have a moral fiber; and it can be "shocking" to endure a narcissist. In my case, the problem is money; the almighty dollar; I don't have any dollars left, because the narc made sure that I could not escape. Year after year after year (you have seen the movies of the displaced and ruined spouse) I have put up with this crap! But, today it gave me a sense of really getting the hell out of here. What is the point? A primordial human being that thinks life is food, shelter, survival, or the people that are now civilized and have some kind of cohesiveness; some kind of civility. Life is not a jungle, but to the narc, apparently it is. I give up, and it has taken me months of delusion to finally realize, once and for all, that there is not choice, praying there could be, for family and to keep it all together. I have to leave and never look back. I pray God can open the door, financially; the rest is already there. I pray for you too. Get out. If it breaks other people's hearts then so be it; they don't have to live with an unfeeling narc for the rest of their lives. It just is not fair at all.
A new person, try a baby; a grandchild, just born today! There is no love; no concern; no attachment, even though it means the world to his daughter; my step-daughter. I don't want to rag on him (narc) to the point of extermination, but he really has no concern at all, and no one cares in return, any longer. (She did not even call over the birth of the child because they no longer expect any involvement on the narcs part; I am a recent marriage.) Yep, perhaps they do live different lives than we do, but they are family; they matter. I don't know about you, but relationships; love; family; caring; concern; nurturing, and belonging cannot be replaced with or scoured from the mind because a narc does not care. You will find yourself forgotten; dismissed; alone; lonely; and remorseful, while the narc finds nothing wrong at all. They just don't care! It is a disease. This is OUR GRANDCHILD–HELLO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The only concern he had this morning was his latest health crisis, and his brother is dying in a nursing home from Alzheimer's disease, but his he a "stomach ache." I wonder what is causing that stomach ache; I know I have one and it is the lack of love you have for anyone with the exception of yourself, narc." It is sickening and it is sad, and I just feel so alone because if "I" do not respond to the birth of our grandson, he never will. Once again, it is up to me to "cover" for us and do all of the love and concern, alone. Always alone, alone, alone, while he pursues every single trivial little thing, that will never matter in the end.
yikes
Great video. Really accurate. And you are right the abuser does not feel misery — they will also repeat the abuse of the new person and when that relationship ends (if the new victim gets out) the abuser will again feel no deep misery. He/she will just find another supply source and do it all over again.
Something that's been needling me for longer than I care to remember. The new man "she" has gone to is 14 years my junior, is much better looking (and he's got great hair..) speaks her language and rides a bigger motorcycle…I know this sounds petty and trivial to you and no doubt people reading this but I read such features are very important to the narcissist to be seen associating with someone who can "raise their profile." I always felt like a poor second/third/fourth and, at one point (because she looks just like Agnetha from Abba – but with high cheek bones,) was prepared to "just be one of her stable of men." I'd rather try and be one of her men for life than struggle with this Aprhodite/Venus on my arm as her "exclusive" boyfriend for just a few months. She has recently plastered his picture on facebook with lots of sexual overtures – almost identical to the ones she was making to me. Everything was virtual though – we had sex-by-proxy soooo many times. Yet when it came to a kiss it was like this was for the beasts of the field and she regarded the sex act as almost objectionable – again something that just takes place in the farmyard. I just can't imagine her repeating the same behaviour with this man she describes on her post like a warrior/crocodile Dundee character. Finding it hard not to be jealous – she's had a very hard and frustrating life – yet looks about 25 years her junior. I did read that this also is a feature of narcissists – because of their other worldliness they tend not to age like most people. Thank you for your direct and soothing delivery and for further opening my mind to this fascinating if unnerving topic. P.
This is very well said. Are you reading something you wrote? Reading a book? Or is this all from your head? I found it very well spoken and explained. Thank you.
Thanks for making me feel better. I saw my husband a couple of days ago and he looks 20 years older and very gaunt and unhappy. You are absolutely correct about the empty shell, never content and never finding peace.
I have found the best way to deal with my over the top narcissistic husband who is living elsewhere and hooked on drugs and prostitutes in his midlife crisis (and perhaps this has always been the case, which would explain a lot) is to
MIRROR HIS BEHAVIOR.
Do not take drugs or do other bad things, just act like you have an even bigger ego than he does and can't be bothered with him any more. Be a diva, a prima ballerina, whatever mindset it takes to out ego the narcissist.
I don't remember who suggested it first, but treating them the exact way they treat you is very, very satisfying.
Let them wonder what the heck? Where did you go? What are you doing all day that you aren't calling him, checking on him, telling him the weather, the news and developments. Let him hang.
Create the void he created.
Hang out with the people he didn't like; like in my case his sister. The people they don't like are typically righteous people who called him out and don't like his behavior any way, which is the kind of people who are nice to hang out with.
I remember this was partially suggested by an Indian guru on Youtube whose name I believe was Ravi Shankar or something like that. He said to stay away from the house for 30 days (even if he is gone). He said it was a game and to out game them.
He also said, if you feel bad go to a funeral pyre (he was in India) and see all the deceased people who no longer have any worries or cares and that you shouldn't either, especially about a loser who treated you badly.
Like they say, the best revenge is living well.
It was beautifully put, and it puts closure on the story for so many broken hearts DD, thankyou so much. Very well written.
Hi, as part of my path to recovery I WANT to create a channel with EVERY one of your videos put into ExtraNormal Software animation like the other posters use –
Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Narcissist's ability to charm, deceive, then discard.
I will start with your oldest videos and move up to the present.
I am scripting everything you say in every video word for word and then creating the animations. But it is going to be a Channel for MEN recovering from a Narco Girlfriend/Wife. So whereever there is gender conflict I will change it to be about HER, the Narco Girlfriend. Its important and is a great extension of the therapeutic benefit that can be made from your very important contribution to Youtube and self-helpers out there who are at this time they start searching totally broken and confused inside.
I am not going to paraphrase you. I am only going to change whereever you make it sound like its about MALE narcissists. This will be a channel about Narcissist Girlfriend/wife abuser.
That's a good question and one I kinda wondered about.
LB~ You Rock! I really needed to hear that today. I am starting to be grateful for being dumped……loved the "it" reference. Awesome. Lifted me up. Thank u
Absolutly true.
It will never be a good outcome for the true, classic narc. I take great solace in knowing that.
I agree great answer, thank you. My question now is why would they boast about never doing anything to mess up what he has with the new person.
Spot on!