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Waiting For Karma To Strike The Narcissist
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My heart goes out to this woman who was punished by her Narc.They sure know how to put on a facade/instigating fights and rages. Is there such a thing as Karma?
The Narcs I was with are still the root of all trouble.
beautiful picture in the background
The LW is a very empathetic person. This is my downfall. Narcs look for empathetic people because we have tons of emotions for them to feed from. It is a sick but a common relationship.
27yrs. of marriage. Always believing that one day he'd have to wake up. I couldn't ever really wrap my head are him not realizing the damage he was causing yet it's the only excuse I could come up with for his actions towards me bc nothing else came close to making sense. Finding affirmation for his tx book behavior, trying to catch my breath after feeling like I was gutt punched along with the nausea, my thirst for how & why Is finally quenched. It can explain everything that I couldn't understand regardless of my efforts to. I've yet to find the strength & courage to go back and connect his new identity to the endless pain filled memories in hopes of laying them all to rest & moving forward. Instead I gathered up what little I could find of myself & filed for a divorce. I can not even consider looking back with this new knowledge of him & Im thinking it's bc I wasted 27 yrs. on someone that was hopeless. Saying it is different than facing, accepting & internalizing it. I fear what I might feel about it and myself. On a positive note, I filed for a divorce even though I still haven't fully digested the truth about him. No way to deny it I know that Nothing could be truer I couldn't be more certain. It just takes a minute to swallow and feels like shit going down bc you're left even emptier, lonelier than you thought was possible and the answer I sought for so long did not provide the path for possibilities. Finding the answer made a bad situation even worse as it undeniably proved that it had been all for nothing with the finale being he never loved me & he won"t suffer a feeling of loss nor will he experience any sadness or go through a grieving process of our break after spending more than half of our lives together. There's never going to be one fair day. I can't believe the day will come when he realizes what he had & what he lost. Nothing everything pointless and a complete waste of time nearly destroying a loving person bc she had the misfortune of pure evil crossing her path with her only crime being that she had been capable of real love and unknowingly handed her secret enemy his most powerful tool to use against her. Is self forgiveness possible once you can accept it? Will I be capable of a healthy relationship in the future? I'm really worried about the anger that will undoubtedly be attached to dealing with this new and logical reality. Is is possible to let go of the anger? Will regret eat me alive? I swear even though I'm avoiding dealing with what's now true for me, and only bc I have to ensure my exit from this hell bc I refuse to die with this being my reality for my life.. I swear I can already feel regret starting to gnaw at me.. I have suffered enormous losses and extreme damages (many irreparable) and there is not a part of my life or anyone or anything that I even cared about the tiniest bit that he hasn't managed to harm, damage, take,destroy and or negatively affect in some way. This is true for me as a person and everything about me that makes me who I am he's be&n sure to leave his mark. I looked at finding the answer as me finding hope but I am left feeling exhausted and hopeless. This too shall pass I have to believe. And karma? Bs bc no way have I done anything that deserved him.
Every time you get mad, look back and thank God you're not where you used to be!
Karma? Just remember that these narcs are never happy. Never happy! No matter who they are with, no matter how much money they have, they are always plotting and searching for something to fill the huge void inside them. We can appreciate the sunset, we can love our children, the list goes on. They are deficient, they lack. That is karma.
I would be accused of 'liking the fight' but I really hate it. I hate losing control and giving it over to the narc, but I am very fiery as well and a part of me does want to fight or gets caught up in it. I think we all have that part of us…the warrior. But then after I'd be accused of liking it, when they provoked the fight to start with. It was so infuriating. I also went through a good phase where I was really zen and would not react and I wish I could get back to being that way. Not reacting is the ideal way to deal with them.
He went to therapy for a short time to appease you. But, he knew he could only "fool" the therapist for so long. I set co-therapy as a stipulation of continuing contact with my mother. She adamantly refused. That was that. We haven't spoken since.
Omg @trying to calm them down, it only makes them angrier….THEY LIKE THE FIGHT!! The more I tried to not go there, the angrier he got! It feels like I wrote this letter…Wow!!!
I had the same problem. I left him four times and he would charm me back into it. I finally left him four my ex husband, who isn't much better! So, but I had nowhere else to go. I know I'm sick, but I'm trying here. That jerk, who I'll call Mark, still has everything I own, including my china that I collected for 30 years. He goes to my dads church and has my parents so fooled. Still in all, I'm glad to be out and my present guy was the only way I could keep this crazy jerk from screwing with my heart. I had even tried moving 5 hours away. I'm down n out right now, no job, bad health, no money, no car, but I still feel better off. Thanks for what you do, Ollie.
I thought I was finally going to hear a good karma story. One where the Narc gets everything they deserve. All these Narc channels, I have yet to hear one. I know a few bad things happened to my ex-N, but I don't think it bothered him that much. I always say, I know it's wrong to want someone to suffer, but these people really do DESTROY anyone that gets close to them. And she says this guy was a sociopath. F-you and no contact. That's it? That's not enough.
we have something in the UK called The small claims court , I wouldnt let this go and a man like this probably has a criminal record.mind you if I was in this situation my brothers would get my stuff and quickly
I know she's angry, but I'd recommend ditching the idea of revenge. She really has to stop all communication with him forever.
As soon as she allows dialogue with him, it's his opportunity to get his foot in the door, and for the whole cycle to repeat over.
Yes narcissists know exactly what they are doing and saying and yes they alway play the victim. Stay away from them as much as possible.
Sometimes there is no 'revenge' to mete out that is equivalent to the damage done.
But there are moments when you least expect it that you will have validation for your new found self from other events.
We are human and the compassionate ones get abused. We have to protect ourselves a little bit more, that's all.
Do all Narc's think or project that their targets need to be in a mental hosp?? Mine went as far on quite a few occasions that they (her flying monkeys) had banded together to get me committed. What????
i swear yer gonna break out into "Funky Cold Medina"…….
Narcissists provoke fight to drain you of your energy. The use Stone walling, ignoring, and then use that to say you're abnormal,. when they are the one who are abnormal. They don't respect boundaries. And they will come back with sweet words,deprive you of sleep, and then they discard. Never look back. They will never, ever change. Do other things. Get a pet you can love. a bird,. join volunteers. Or most important pay attention to your child even if they grew up. And yeah, they will flaunt other women/or men) to make you feel worthless.It''s a game,
Thanks Ollie. I've been educating myself on NPD every since my wife left me. I have been skyping with a psychologist out of state, plus reading blogs by her et al. She says I suffer from PTSD and remnants of Stockholm Syndrome because five years of abuse and being raped in court after that. It is really amazing how these disorders have so many consistent earmarks. My issue is accepting the fact that she is a malicious, evil person with no care or concern how they damage others. I go into denial, which I'm sure isn't too uncommon. So finding your video and others it helps remind me of what I've read so I can stay on an even keel and not weaken.
Kudos
Great!
Ollie. I have a question. The Narcissist I've been involved with off & on for over 8 yrs. He has caused arguments & strtd cing other women about 7 times in over 8 yrs. But as usual I always took him back!! He wud even talk 2 me while he was cing these other women! He has NEVER gone any longer than 3-4 WKS w/o tryn 2 talk 2 me again after he wud get angry with me!!! I showed the last 2 women the txt msgs he wud send me while he was with them. This last new grlfriend I showed her his msgs & he didn't tlk 2 me for 4 wks. I ended up spendn New Yrs Eve with him this yr. On New Yrs Day he told me jst bc he "LET" me go 2 his house the nite b4 did not mean he wntd us bck 2gethr again. & that he cud not blieve I had the nerve 2 show his gfriend his txt msgs. He said he swore 2 himself he wud NEVER talk 2 me again bc of that, but he said, I did nyway. He had been telln me 2 wks b4 NYE, that if I acted right, I cud hve him everyday & tlkd about us being bck 2gethr. Anyway, he strtd an argument AGAIN on New Yrs Day. His grlfriend came 2 his house that wknd. I got mad & send her his txt msgs he had been sendn me 4 the past 2 wks AGAIN. The reason I did that was bc I figured if I did he wud NEVER tlk 2 me again. I knew that was the only way I cud ever stay away frm him 4 good!! So it has been 3 MONTHS & 4 days since he has said a word 2 me. This is the longest he has EVER gone w/o tlkn or txtn me. I guess my question 2 u is, do u think he cud finally be thru with me 4 good this time, or discard me for good this time? Our off & on relationship has been goin on 4 over 8 yrs & he has ALWAYS strtd bck tlkn 2 me but he has NEVER gone this long w/o doin that. I knw it's 4 my own good & I realize that. I guess it's jst been really hard on me bc he has always aftr about 3 wks tlkd 2 me again. But @ the same time, I have NOT SAID ONE WORD 2 HIM EITHER!! Thanks & I wud really appreciate it if u cud email ur comment 2 me @ cbaker12295701@hotmail.com. If that's not possible, cud u @ least comment on here or do a video on my question? Thank u so much!! I really look 4ward 2 your videos & I apologize 4 this comment being so long….
The way you describe narc topics in your solid ,unique and hillarious way is the bomb dude.Love all your video's.Thanks for helping me heal from narc abuse and glad to see your better and keep it up with your video's.They've helped me understand so much about this subject and recover and laugh all at the same time.Wouldn't have thought all of this at the same time while i was trying to recover from the serious abuse i was dealing with.Thanks DUDE!!!!!
I can not believe how relevant this video is to my experience I've had with a narcissist . It is astonishing how similar the Modus operandi are with narcissists. Almost like all narcissist have some kind of hive mind where they get directions from.
another good one Ollie…