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When the Narcissist’s Parents Die
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My ex, who is diagnosed with BPD, and I believe to have NPD, seems to have married a very controlling person. His mother died during our divorce. He re-married before it was legal. Could his mother's death be why he has married someone who seems to have the same traits? He's truly getting a taste of his own medicine. However, it is confusing to me as to how the controller is now being controlled.
My father is a narc particularly like his mother. His parents unfortunately had a quiet marginal role in their children and grand children's lives. My father's father was more like a guess in his home; he was the financier, and a womanizer, and his wife, granny, had to treat her guest right, and to condone his whims, to have a roof above her head and food. My father told me that his parents never communicated about crucial matters such as the education and/or marriage of the children- 11 children by the way. Smoking heavily, wearing cheer clothes, and flirting each other brazenly before their children, the parents didn't inculcate any good traits or values that would help their children establish happy families of their own, especially my father. The latter married against his will the the one his narc mom chose; therefore, he has always been tenacious and acting contrariwise to what we and mom expect from him. And it's been almost 2 decades that I am living in a forceful celibacy because my dad either sends my suitors away for no good reason or he dusts off his hands from looking nationwide with me for Mr. Right. I really don't have the guts to go alone to unfamiliar places, a card that my father has used cunningly against me. He also asked me to compete my master's which I did in 2008, yet he doesn't seem satisfied. His narcissistic disorder is worsening after being totally overwhelming and juggernaut for almost 30 years….
This may seem like a dumb question… it is… but if you watch a video, is there some way to contact the person posting it (in this case Sam) via email? I could swear there used to be but don't know if YouTube has changed that as I see no method to do this Thank you! And, yes, a good video.
What happens when the Narcissistic child dies before his parents? How does the Narc mother react?
Wonderful video. It addressed my worries about my mother passing away. She has many narcissistic traits and so do I. Ive felt trapped my whole life & have been worried about her passing due to the guilt I will feel about my "freedom" at long last. Thank you for this
My ex-husband has a narcissistic mother (and grandmother who passed) and a normal father who died in 2006. The effect I saw was that he became very serious after that point and his narcissism seemed to get a bit worse. He began running …. doing marathons…. and neglecting me and my children even more than he already had. Total emotional withdrawal and denial of that withdrawal. It was always my fault. 😉 Glad I was able to leave.. even if I waited longer than I should have.
Brilliant analysis.
Poignant. Thank you
Isn't it Stockholm syndrome -type of setting that keeps 'enabler' (victim) in relationship with narcissist?
Well explained and Verry frightening as I unfortunitly am facing this situation and I feel you are spot on with your analysis of this situation. All I think about is all the horible things from when I was young and blame my folks for it all And don't know if I'm right or wrong I'm terrified of them dying because we have never got on and I'm starting to realize we never will ?
My narc went to live with his parents after I threw him out. Dad is a serial cheater and his mom sexually humiliated him in his youth. I imagine he is more miserable with them than he ever was with me.
I once told my mother… "My life will begin when yours end".
She did not say anything. She is more narcissistic than I am.
What if a narcissit was treated like a little God as a child? Fawned over, told he was special, going to be famous so on. This is what led to my ex becoming a narcisisit.
How about when the adult child of a narcissist passes away? How does the narcissist react to that death when there was no contact?
How about when the adult child of a narcissist passes away? How does the narcissist react to that death when there was no contact?
… And then your narcissist sibling steals your inheritance.
I'm so screwed up In the head. these vids make me more depressed
Does any one who had a troubled childhood ever come out of it without mental illness?
Is the Narcissistic trait inherited? Passed down thru the family line?
Face the fact that he/she was initially a victim as well…
That knowledge will empower you not to be made a victim too!
Face the fact that he/she was initially a victim as well…
That knowledge will empower you not to be made a victim too!
Face the fact that he/she was initially a victim as well…
That knowledge will empower you not to be made a victim too!
Valuable content. Thank you!
I am such a MAGNET to narcissistc. WHere the hell do they all come from and how do I find them all and ask them to torture me????? WTF. Thanks for your videos. Very articulate and has given me some guidance in a world of winged monkeys (term compliments of denisethepainter, lovely artist … I am so fffffffing stupid. How could I help the very people who destroyed so many opportunities and happiness in my life and have given them so much help time money and so on….. I must be insane. No one has been as stupid as I have.
As a child of 2 narcissistic parents, as the scapegoat role in my family,I am constantly finding myself in a scapegoat role, is their anyway to shake it. It is almost a magnetic reaction I cannot break. Your videos are A+.
I think my mom was a narcissist, but my dad would try to call her on it. I was the black sheep. My dad would try to fix the problem. My brother the golden HATED my dad. Interesting when my father died, the golden did help him a little, but the golden does nothing to help the elderly narcissist. I am left to care alone for the narcissist.
Can narrsisim be developed in a person from something other than abusive childhood. Or from parents who never verbally or physically abuse or smother.
I had a smother mother but not in love or comfort. She acted like she was helping me when she would tell others I'm using her or get me to fail so I would need more help. She used to cry about her parents and I'd watch her binge eat then take a nap. She has these fake outbursts of tears and then wide eyed tear filled eyes to see if you are watching her. for Xmas this year she got me the softest robe ever such a comforting thing and its the most comfort she's ever "given" me as I think she knows I'm onto her games and pulling away emotionally too. I need to heal so I don't become worse as I age.
all good points really!! in my hubby's family tho…his parents were not perfect but they raised my hubby ( a good man ) the exact same way as his brother…who is a garden variety sociopath…I think he has brain damage from a difficult birth and he had some physical injuries his mom had to do therapy on and maybe hurt him and caused his silly damn anger…he did not help even one little bit when they were old and sick but oh boy he came around when the money was being doled out…my hubby gave him his half, I was against it but then an uncle died and left us everything the next month…LOL
YET,, AFTER ALL IS SAID, People seem to love this person. REALLY weird!
Can a narcissist confront their parent and be healed???
Thank you. Your videos have been very helpful to me to understand my mother and brother both narcissists. My mother just recently passed away and my brother was with her for a month before her death. He was homeless and I believe that is why he went to her home. Many times over the years my brother would do things to get back at her, as you put it. He told me that he yelled at her at a point in the last days of her life. I am sure that there was much more abusiveness going on. He was so abusive to me while I was there for her funeral that I could not stay at the house with him and had to leave earlier than I wanted to after the funeral. She was 93, he is 64.
mommy
lol so sick
I thought he was going to say "where is my share of the will!" … as the main interest at the funeral.
As a victim of a narcissistic mother, I have been told time and time again by helpful people that I don't really have to confront my mother personally , in order to deal with turmoil I have inside. It was verrrry hard to do, and still is but it can be done without even being in the same room with the same woman who hurt me so deeply. The only reason a narcissist has so much difficulty with no longer being able to confront their own parents (if they were to die) is because they always take out how they feel about themselves, on people OUTSIDE of themselves.They do everything in this way. They cause so much pain everywhere they go. It may sound bitter, but the fact that they will feel locked out of any resolution with their parents (should they die), is only karma catching up to them. For once they would be denied of something they can no longer manipulate….and MAYBE be driven to look within for once.
Wow that was so hopeful. Much help. So wow. Very hope.
I've seen parents ignore and find excuses for the huge ego acting out of their narcissist adult child. As long as the narc child was doing something seen as worthwhile to their beliefs (christian beliefs) he could be as grandiose as he wanted to be. They would just laugh it off. Then they would reward him, and get others to reward him. Their reflected glory in his actions was interesting to watch, but frustrating to live with!
It NEVER Fucking ends! The best thing that ya could do is move forward and NEVER EVER EVER look back. Grab your shit and get the hell outta Dodge!
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And NEVER EVER EVER EVERRR Fucking look back!
Your depth of understanding is indeed impressive, and utterly depressing. Have you also done research on how to deal with it in order to get some humble bit of happiness, or at least a life with as less darkness and despair as possible? I know it cant be healed, but I am sure there a better and less good ways to cope, especially when you´re not the worst N. on earth. Never heard you say a word on that. Do you have any recommendations (literature, therapy) for people with narcissistic personalities? thank you!
+Sam Vaknin thank you so much for your videos. I was just wondering, I was sure I had AS for years. I believe after watching these videos that my father has NPD – I don't believe I have NPD; For example, I want to socialise but can't, I don't need power, approval or validation. Has there ever been a link found to children developing AS due to being raised by a parent with NPD?
you are changing my life