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Why Do Narcissist Act Superior. Can They Be Cured? Do They Want help? Narcissism Expert Rosenberg
hey Ross how many therapists does it take to change a lightbulb?
one but the lightbulb really got to want to change
I can hear your interim music, but not your voice. Did youtube remove your sound to this video?
I'm a narcissist and I have hit rock bottom. I need help.
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i don't think narcissist want to cure it
my sister is a malignant narcissist. She plays dirty and not one thing that she has… has been earned. she's also abusive. about a month ago I cut off both her and my father because of abusive behavior. sadly I came from a dysfunctional and toxic family. at once she became enraged. so far she's had me disowned. she had my dad tow my car it's mine under his name. she's taken over the financial aspect of the family and attempts to make me beg for help. I don't. she's shared my personal information with whomever will listen. I might add that she's a twenty plus years crack addict that popped up two years ago after I raised her kids.
I think I might be a narcissist. I have a LOT of the traits. I really, really want to change and become a better, healthier person. How do I know if I'm a narc, for sure? Are narcs aware of their narcissism? What if I have almost all the narc traits, but I'm aware of my traits and feel HORRIBLE about it and really want to change? Does that still mean I'm a narc? Or I just have traits? Also, if someone has a lot of narc traits, do you think that reading self-help books and doing self-therapy will be enough as a treatment to get rid of those traits? Or do you think professional therapy is the only way? For me, I can't afford professional therapy at the moment (they cost a lot, like $190+ per session, from the psychologists I've seen). I'm doing self-therapy, but I dont know if I'm doing the right thing.
Good points.I' ve always wanted to ask these questions indeed.
I need help. I hurt other people and I feel guilty about it but I can't stop myself. I don't want to hurt them :(
that false image believes everything good she sees, is them and theirs. all thoughts of negativity are the targets. so they keep reinforcing this and projecting to people these dynamics.
So relieved to have found your videos. Beyond grateful to finally have answers . Thank you!! :D
What's wrong with the sound?
I wonder if the cure rate would be higher if the treatment where free?
There is a problem.
Two people don't get along.
One of them acts like an a-hole.
The other hangs around to be a victim.
I wonder who's fault it is anyway?
I think it's her/his fault.
No, you say -my fault..!!!
Remember (you say to me), I did this that the other.
Hmmm I say, ok. Yes I am wrong.
It is my fault.
Sorry for how I acted.
So now I am cured. True…?
Now because I admit the truth and I am cured, everyone who disagrees with me is a self serving narcissist.
This Is a complicated slippery slope.
Good thing I have money to spend.
So the question now is:
Should I buy a bus ticket out of here
or force the rest of you to go to therapy?
In general, it is my firm contention that people who suffer from narcissism, as well as brick-yard bullies, are people who suffer from elevated levels of self-esteem, thus they truly believe they are entitled to preferential treatment and/or feel entitled to inflict pain upon those who displease them.
It is a long held superstition that the narcissist and the brick-yard bully "act out", because they suffer from low levels of self esteem, when the adverse is actually true. Fact is, there is more narcissism, sociopathy and psychopathy today, then in years past, thanks, in part, to the aggressive promotion of self-esteem throughout the public school system and all major media outlets.
To further my point, I would like you to take a moment and ask yourself which countries are the ones who habitually raid their neighbors. If you said the ones who believe they are superior to their neighbors, and are therefore entitled to their wealth, land, and natural resources – you would be correct.
In the same likeness, when was the last time you saw Andorra or Liechtenstein invading the countries closest to them or insisting upon the enforcement of their foreign policies at the point of a blade? The truth is: never. And, the people who truly believe they are walking doormats are the ones least likely to object to maltreatment when someone steps on them. The imperial powers, bullies, and narcissists, however, strike out whenever they see their grandiose belief-system questioned or they perceive a threat to their power or feel an impediment to their selfish ambitions.
Only when you realize, admit, and confront- can you begin to change- and then, only if you want to. I should know.
I would actually love to have a discussion with you, Mr. Rosenberg!
I am 19. I am in high school so I have free time.
I am a covert narcissist, but I've accepted it, about to tell my mother. I do my best to (painfully) meditate every day.
I would like to exchange philosophies with you, to help you gain understanding of this "DIsorder"(deranged ego). I will try not to manipulate you ;). I am actually getting better I think. Taking life just a little less seriously. I love Psychology, Im kinda insane btw :). But I think that nothing would help me overcome this disorder more than trying to help you(if i can) (selflessness i hope) , and talking with you on Skype or something . I have a pretty good understanding of how psychology works (through real experience and reading) in my opinion. I've suffered panick attacks from stimulant drugs for ADHD, with heart rate high as fuck so I was in Emergency Room at least 5 times for the same thing.
Ive suffered Stimulant Psychosis which is basically a dose of Schizophrenia 😀 fun. I had that and was high on California Weed, thats why i went to the ER. 1 hour seems like fucking forever. thought i would die, didnt know who i was. ego death. all that stuff. high as fuck heart rate. basically hell. Hyperfocused on heart rate , crazy ass dreams. I think the fear of going insane made me panick every second since I have no real self-confidence to begin with.
My point is, in my opinion, I know a lot about psychology. I've experiemented with entheogens. I would like to consult an expert for exchanging of ideas.
Question: Once I have fully accepted that I am a narcissist and desire to deflate my ego, am I basically 99% ahead in terms of overcoming the "disorder" compared to ones who do not admit it?
I know my mind a lot. I have Derealization/ DP disorder. I meditate through it though, thats another story.
I have both ADD/ADHD, Social Anxiety, borderline disorder(i think), social anxiety, and depression. My family has a history of mental illness.
You dont have to read this :(im just ranting)
I am ussually in a state of dread because I dont love anything, even myself, ( i might be gaining self-love a little thru meditation)
im actually depressed or hating myself most of the time. accepting it makes me sad. so i guess im sad. im pretty "emo" , internalizing everything.
IF YOU RESPOND, i WILL DEFINITLY RESPOND ASAP . THANKS
Mr. Rosenburg, thanks for the vid!! im a covert narc. and i have been COVERT NARC. for as long as i can remember? maybe middle school? cuz my parents were rather weak so i was very controlling, I have ADHD by the way and my parents aare divorrced.
as a kid, i was always taught to "do the right thing". sadly, i did the right thing for the wrong reasons, to gain approval.
anyways long story short, ive been doing yoga and meditation for months. plus i smoke weed occasionally which helps me view myself more objectively without freaking out of pain/repressed emotions!!!
ROSS, i seriously think that one possible cure to any EGOTISTICAL disorder is cannabis – sativa strains in particular.
cannabis sativa, rather than cannabis indica, is a stimulant rather than depressant.
its the one that makes people paranoid.
sativa, when mixed with a tiny bit of indica, provides self-knowlege plus the relaxation.
an experienced meditator can get lots of benefits from marijuana, but its defniitly a slippery slope because marijuana makes one content. content doing nothing too.
so with willpower and proper set and setting and meditation and a desire to become a better person, meditation (and marijuana in my honest opinion) can save from covert narc.. marijuana made it wayyyyyyyy easier
I think I'm a narcissist I would like to prove the statistics wrong!
At my school we use sports to tackle narcissism. Our aim is to get every child to feel valued in a team. This also promotes responsibility and reliability. It seems to work but Im no specialist on narcissism. Any thoughts?
They only portray as superior because they have the tendency to manipulate people – particularly the vulnerable – to make them feel affectionate at all costs. That's where they set up a trap specially designed for them to become the codependent, which leads them no choice than to follw the same route as the narcissists themselves.
It is really a hard thing to accept.
you need to something about the sound… it is very low…
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Hi Mr. Rosenberg. I have been watching your vids. I like your work. I put on my wish list your book the "Human Magnate". Do you know of any professionals in the Miami area that takes AvMed insurance? I'm looking for a therapist/counselor to talk with from time to time. The last one I was going to just stopped seeing me. No call, no letter, no nothing, No returned calls.
Hey ! ☺Thank You for this video! Very intersting. It was easy to understand what You explained. Well done! ☺Best wishes to You from me. ☺
Hi Ross I am a narcissist in treatment. yes its very hard, I am v manipulative and d even find myself manipulating the therapist with charm and psych info I have read ti out smart her.I suffered a trauma as a child and it is at the root. I am also an alcoholic but find 12 step programs hard as I believe i am tio strong to relenquish power! Good post Ross, i will let u know how i get on
Thank you Mr. Rosenberg for all this valuable information. You mentioned in this video that there is a treatment for helping the narcissist (assuming he/she agrees to it), You didn't mention the name of the treatment. Could you name the specific treatment you would use?
Can a person have narcissistic traits and be co-dependent at the same time? And where do they go if they are looking for healing? There is codependents anonymous but what do you suggest for people who struggle with narcissistic tendencies as it seems like the really struggle too. No one accepting who they really are, or the authentic self?
Ross, Very disappointing video and reasoning. There is the subtext here of "just get in line be happy". Don't strive for more, don't express your talent, don't share it. Your general assertion that all stars, politicians and implicitly successful people in the public are are ipso facto suffering from Narcissistic Personality disorder is Hogwash. The fact that US society and media creates "stars" may contribute to peoples desire to be famous, popular and on every magazine cover, but the act of being excellent, or striving to be excellent does not equal having NPD. It could be suggested that people in a high profile "stardom" state become Narcissistic based on a false sense of entitlement, but to suggest the reverse is nonsense. This country allows success through hard work, dedication to the pursuit of a result. There is no entitlement suggested in hard work and dedication. You are way out of bounds here. Perhaps a functional definition would help people understand the difference. This video could easily be construed as destroying peoples dreams, because to have dreams, and Goals does not make you a Narcissist, Otherwise all your viewers should just "shut up and be happy". Go to the factory and never strive for more.- Outrageous!