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Witnessing the Narcissist’s Glory: Secondary Narcissistic Supply
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I witnessed all this first hand. If there is a student of psychology that wants to know first hand the trauma and abuse of the Narcissist feel free to contact me.
All abuse survivors want to tell their story.
Mine is unbelievable and documented.
An excellent video.
Wow… "it is so lonely like a child's grave in Autumn…" omg…this is such powerful image… genius.
WoW !!!
I wonder how many other victims or codependents observe the narcissist as if he is a circus freak. That makes so much sense to me. My draw to my past narcissist – love interest was as much about my fascination with the personality disorder as anything else. The whole time, knowing what he wasI, would watch his patterns, then watch Sam's videos, amazed by their accuracy, then wait for the next narc injury, amused the whole time about how predictable and unimaginative a person my narc was. It's like I couldn't get over the fact that I was with such a cookie-cutter of a person, but then he'd cut and run, and my amusement stopped so the pain could kick in…
this perfectly describes aging rock stars to a tee….
'Like a child's grave in autumn' – a very poetic line.
You are the only one who knows what their talking about. People watch your' videos and then try to regurgitate it on their own video. 50 year old guys living in their mothers basement with unkempt hair and food stained sweat clothes wining how their mothers have sucked the life out of them.
Your videos just smack of the ugly truth of this disorder. Yes, this constant search for secondary N supply reminds me of one of your videos where you describe what characteristics to look for if you suspect someone you know is a N. I BELIEVE you mentioned in the past that "embarrassing or off-color remarks" are one of them. This is when the N, in an attempt to "relive" an event THEY believe should earn them adulation or praise actually causes "embarrassment" for those around them.
Case in point: a N wishes to relive a "prank" they played on someone that perhaps in their early adulthood earned them a "pat on the back" from their peers. The N knows these people remember this event and they try to revive the memory. HOWEVER, in reality, at the time, the N was humored…and in the present, people around them think "OMG, did he really want to talk about that time he was a jerk? Does he really think that was cool? I know that girl and knew her then, it was not funny! I can't believe this guy really thinks acting like that was ok…isn't he embarrassed!?" The N just looks puzzled at them, like "hey, come on guys…it was and is funny"…after all, messing with a memory they THINK was good is cause for being on the receiving end of one of those rage attacks!!
Thanks for the incredibly accurate and articulate insight…priceless!
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Im a medical student..im suffering from avoidant personality myself…i just cant deal with the narcissistic parent and brother who are both trying to control me all the time….life sucks so much at this moment..
"To some, a circus freak.."
Gotta love Sam!
very good
This video answers some questions I've had about narcs. Thanks.
There just must be some help for these poor saps. A true empath, I can't imagine any condition more hopeless. One one hand it sounds so devastating-both depressing and aggravating–for the afflicted, and on the other hand it seems that they would never even gain awareness of what is deeply stationed in their subconscious. If it is a dark existence, why couldn't a program of surrender like 12 steps or psychotherapy help shed some light?
Would it be possible to make a Hierarchy of Needs, like Maslowe's, which shows how Narc's differ than healthy folks?
Do people use Internet to get revenge on narcissist? I know that people often use Internet to settle scores.
“When people hurt you over and over, think of them like sand paper. They may scratch and hurt you a bit, but in the end, you end up polished and they end up useless.” – Chris Colfer
Sounds like the narcissist would be a nostalgia junkie. Constantly wanted to relive glory days that probably weren't as glorious as the narcissist would believe.
Who are these friends? Would they codependantly adjust their memories to the narcissist's recollection?
Narcs make up fantasy memories that flatter themselves, usually at the cost of the true author. They even plagiarize memories of the love some else was given, instead of themselves………….
My narc sister failed every time she tried to get my attention. Most of my early years till 14, was spent avoiding her and ever time she tried to get my attention by one of her destructive acts, she just reaped more failure.
Fast Forward 60 years……….when I rejected a "be my chauffer" request for a relatives party I was going to with a significant other.
Sis's phone message shocked even me…………her hatred spewing from her rabid foaming lips.
That 2005 message is still on my phone……………of course no relatives would even listen. But for me its a bucket of ice water thank you.
Hitler has been called "carpet eater" because of his rage attacks, because he would literally chew carpet when furious.
I would like to start from the other end of the puzzle ,
Is there such state a state as ' normal ' ?
Can normal be defined ?
One reason people become victims of narcissist and psychopaths is because they lack training in self-defense, maybe victims should take Krav Maga classes in self-defense to protect themselves from abuse. Sam himself probably knows Krav Maga since he was born in Israel.
Good to see another video from you. I've learned so much from you. Thanks
What an empty way to live; I wonder if they know how empty they are; instead of knowing that they are good, they need others to tell them so repeatedly. Why should someone one else be the expert on you? That gives those other people a lot of power-what if one day one of the admirers decide that they aren't so keen on the narcissist anymore? One of these types could easily manipulate a narcissistic person by saying, "you disappoint me!" I've seen people pressured to be the good looking one or the smart one and they are so eager to prove that they are what they are told that they are that they never get to know themselves and their worth is based solely on the shallow definition. How would a narcissist react to a bad grade if they were supposed to be the smart one? Would they fear asking for help? They would probably avoid anything that might lead to them failing. A person who is supposed to be the good looking one (supply based on looks) is probably fearful of anyone not commenting them on their looks; they probably stare in the mirror with trepidation, terrified that their looks will fade. If someone called them ugly, it would probably devastate them. What a horrible way to live; they are fearful and miserable and they make others miserable. Just my opinions.
So an individual should be considered a Narcissist re Secondary or both, if they "Can't see in their own fishbowl?"
? Many nearly all – humans require socialization – interaction w friend/peers and the positive stamp of acceptance even occasional praise, to "Self-Validate" – their acceptance, monitor the personal validity and/or successes – (the foundation of Sales Team Motivation)
Our society clearly post others acceptance and recognition (positively) as a marker that individuals are worthy/respected/successful.
I am trying to get the clarification of distinction.
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My narcissist employed religion to punish me, he made himself look like a Christian repented of all his sins; feeling omnipotent he declared me a servant of the devil. He wanted me to admit we had sinned together, because he married me…an older woman. That is how he threw me away. I thank God when he left me.
Excellent video segment! Full detailed talk regarding a recent thought I had. It fits so neatly and consistent with the previous videos!
I am living vicariously too, in a sense, having a relationship with the study of narcissism (NPD), rather than engaging in active recovery from codependency.
When I hear you describe these narcissistic people, I can't imagine how unstable their mentality is, they're very cunning individuals. Its kind of scary to think how much they can hurt their children and close family members. Keep these videos coming, you are truly an expert. The way you described them in this video gave me chills because I have witnessed the horror of their actions.
I was recently falling into a role of providing secondary narcissistic supply, but suddenly came to my senses (via my own foibles!) and removed myself from the situation. It was difficult and unpleasant, but I know I did the right thing.