The narcissist, malignant narcissist, sociopath/psychopath spousal predator may give the target or victim stories that protect his/her facade, stories intended to …
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Answering the Question: Why is my Former Narcissist Hoovering if He Does NOT Want Me?
THE NARC I WAS WITH IS 48 YEARS OLD WELL OFF SO WHY IS HE TRYING TO GET MY FAMILY IN TOUCH WITH HIM AS HE THINKS MY DAUGHTERS PARTNERS MY GOOD FRIEND
YOUR BOOK IS A GOD SEND THANKYOU SO MUCH. I8M A HIGH EMPATH. MY NARC CHANGED I8NTO A MENTAL NUTTER GOT HIS OWN HOME AND PAID FOR ANOTHER GOT A NEW CAR. WENT ON A BRAKE DIDNT INCLIUDE ME. I TOOK HIM ON MY TRIPS AND HE DIDNT PAY A PENNY TO THEM. BUT MONEYS NOT THE THING THE WOMANS NOT THE PROBLEM, WHAT HAS GOT ME IS MYSELF. BEEN HOODWINKED. AFEW TIMES EARLY ON I RAN AWAY WITH HIM RIGHT BEHIND ME. ITS ONLY HAPPEND ONE TIME HE DRAINED ME DRIED ME UP IN ALL MOST EVERY WAY POSSIBLE. BUT THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR BOOK.
said i can have one if thats what i want. yes i knew he had a mental health problem but not a narcissist. ihe had some lady phone hiim she has a NEW BABY I SPOKE TO HER AS SHE SAID WHO AM I AND I WAS POLITE AND SAID HIS WIFE. BUT STILL MADE NO DIFFERENCE AS SHES BEEN TOLD TO NOT BELIVE WHAT HE SAYS AND SHE TOLD HIM. FEEL SORRY FOR THE BABY AS MY SON HAD TO GO IN CARE BECAUSE I DIDNT KNOW HIS MEDICAL ILLNESS,. YOUR BOOK YES
thankyou so muchll for your infomation, i lost in death a lot of family members. i met and married a impulsive pyscotic narc 3 times in fifteen years i seen crazy behaviour why i wasnt fully aware is his mum a 75 yrold was been looked after by him. she attacked me and its the first time in my life id seen a narcissit old lady. they wqhere like brother and sister so bizarre. she passed away last year.he has gone crazy she left him well off and hes turned to drugs i want a deovrce.he
lol @ squirrel nut pantry…gnawing & chewing lol……and keeping it stocked…That was hilarious
Thank you for this video… Came at a perfect time ..going through this at the moment… I'm trying so hard to be strong, and stand my ground!! I was convinced, that I wasn't good enough in any area , I started questioning myself analyzing everything … and as time has gone by …I've researched and educated myself on this very topic.. narcissistic abuse.. I was abused as a child ..and now as an adult…I know I'm better than this bull he filled my head with…it does take time ,and for anyone that reads this and is going through it too…please step back and focus on self love …when you love yourself…and see someone wanting to destroy that…well, that's what made me decided ,enough is enough !!!
Thank you for all of the great links!
My spath actually showed up at my home today and banged on the window …
Try that again.
He left before I could get the police here.
Hoovering? That's like, vacuuming right?
yes my narc/sociopath boyfriend wanted to have children with me, I laughed out loud, I am a 64 yr old woman, never would I even consider it, even if I could…so he said maybe he needs a younger woman who can get him children, I told him if thats what you go for it….he didnt know what to say…first time he was at a lost for words….ha the joke is on you sociopath….
you are so spot on…..the predator never has altruistic motives.
this can be hard for a normal person to comprehend. a victim often wrongly assumes the Narc feels guilt, bcuz thats how they would feel . when u spoke of the pantry, i thought yup, the target is like that old dented can of cream of mushroom soup that sits, but 'may' come in handy in a pinch down the road.
It's very kind of you to tell younger woman what is out there.
What perfect timing for me to hear ALL of your very clear response to this question. You have quite a deep grasp of the reasons this N is NOT reaching out to her…..all the things we would wish the reasons to be….and it just is not so. I am fully weary of the emptiness I feel after being used like this for supply. His emptiness exacerbates my own. I want to build a new life and fill it with authenticity. So there is no 'keep in touch' or 'friendship' with him. That's not really what he wants when he says these things…he wants to nose around for info to hurt me or make himself feel good/superior. He does not really know or respect me so why would I stay open to communication? This was hard though…really grasping this and to not feel like a cold jerk for blocking contact. Thank you for your videos!
"He is definitely storing her at the back of his little narcissistic squirrel nut pantry"… ah ah ah, this made my day, thank you for giving me such a laugh !!!