How to covertly counter manipulate a narcissist into voluntarily disengaging by pretending you have no idea what the narcissist is talking about. Narcissist …
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Counter Control The Narcissist – PRETEND YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND THEM
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Sacha, I love it when you give examples!! That's so great! Keep on keeping on….
amazing video. I need to share this….p.s. I'm your new subscriber
is this why when i really didn't understand what they are saying and i ask for clarification, they get frustrated and act like im an idiot drag on their energy?
There is actually a scene in the early stages of the movie The Wizard of Oz that depicts this very strategy. When the evil woman rides up to Dorothy's house looking to take her dog Toto away because Toto was a menace, the uncle does this double talk to the witch at the front gate. The uncle was very aware of her reputation so he instituted this hilarious word shuffle.
You are an absolute gem, hilarious and effective.
I love laughing in their face when they say something to make me mad. I know they r trying to get me mad so they can call me crazy. Lol. Point out a flaw of theirs until THEY rage. As the saying goes, "If one of us has to be upset it doesn't have to be me." They will disengage in under 4 mins. They will shut up and walk away. They r the biggest cowards. The most insecure people u will ever meet! Prove u could care less what they say about u.
Sacha, this video makes me look forward to the next attack instead of dreading it. You are totally helping me to see all this as a game instead of a life sentence. Thank you so much!
How do you handle a verbally abusive ex husband and his mother? She is just as controlling and manipulative as he is. Let's just say "the apple doesn't fall far from the tree." We have two kids together, (which his mother wants to raise as her own, but that is not going to happen because my kids know how she is) so avoiding him isn't really an option.
i am gaining understanding most of all!
thanks…ill try that. love your videos. have been very very helpful!!! :)
what would u do at the time when the narc is telling u u r stupid to counter manipulate?
excellent!
where is the best place to look for more techniques? I just ignore the aggression if it's by text or I hang up if by phone but I could use some more tricks. thanks
This will bug the CRAP out of them!
That is what they do to others. Ask that you repeat your comment over and over again, while they play a game with re-organizing your words, pretending they are mentally preoccupied, and haven´t got a clue as to what you are saying. And, a counter manipulation is to pretend that they are getting soft in the head.
That is actually really good information. … The abuser, from my experience, will claim that their victim is getting too wordy or possibly argumentative.
Perhaps this would be better:
Yea, I got what you said but I don't really understand your point?
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I hear you, but I'm confused… how exactly does this have to do with me?
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Not following…
Later, :)
Lmfao peas…… i do the exact same thing and walked my momster into admitting 5 felonies … hear watch this….https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WsKWdb0_kZw
I have one better,, (almost) My sister was late for my wedding..(deliberately) and she complained she could not get in … years and years of that lie and shaming tactic and story about how she was not allowed in. so one time when she brought it up is calmly said…Actually YOU were not invited…….( and acted like it meant nothing to me) … She almost died!!! I still can hear the silence and shock over the phone.
Great idea!!
lol
Just flat out call them a narcissist and keep saying "Go-Away, Go-Away". When I did this she didn't know what to do :)
I already use this technique on my mom and sister. One of my sisters is highly intelligent, but the less intelligent sister, who causes me so much grief, LOVES telling my mom that I'm clueless. It's much more effective than arguing with them. My sis gets dangerous when I set boundaries or just don't engage.
It's hard not to laugh when she goes into hysterics lashing out because I'm "acting healthy." "Rant rant rant, he acts like he's the only one in the house who knows what boundaries are, rant rant rant." She had a little counseling, just enough to keep her kids out of foster care.
ha! :V
Well that's using the narcs mode of operation. I suggest to you that in a spousal situation this may be dangerous. I do love your videos.
I'm tired of you forgetting things! What? I did better than him and I had brain surgery? She wishes she had done this one!!! Damn t would have worked this one on him. I let him lie to me leave me overnight have an affair under my nose and I believed his lies when the proof was so clear unbelievable a smart women like me fell for the outbursts instead of remembering the facts done!!!!
Like my ex threatened to leave the country when i told him i wanted him near the kids. He now lives in another town which is great. Lol fool. I told him i wanted him to be there for the kids so he took off. At the time i was upset but now im glad hahaha. Also, its often a win win situation. Ie- i told mine he can have the kids on wknds. If he shows up i get time to relax and recharge. If he doesnt its one less wknd my kids have to see his douche family. So its pointless either way for him. Most ppl dont realise how pathetic narcs are. They are actually easily manipulated.
Another tip is to flip your motive. If you want them to go away, you just need to tell them that is hurts you so much that they are not around nearby. etc someone who has to see thr narc could try this