Behind The Mask: An Introduction Into Covert Narcissism – http://www.amazon.com/dp/B01ECNSI7W/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_0YOexb1WRHJBY The Devil in I is …
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How To Spot a Covert Narcissist: 6 signs to look for
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I Haven't Gotten From this Video, The Distinct Difference from an Overt & A Covert
Ima Be Honest, NO Woman WANTS to HEAR About Another Woman, Especially IF you are On A Date OR Trying to get to know a woman you wanna date!!!!
I can't wait to read your book because this amazas me !!! I know few woman like the ones you have mentioned – just never knew what the heck it's wrong with those people
I think this world is doomed! Thank you God that I have the faith inYou!
Unbelievable! You are amazing! I always suspected that my boyfriend of 4 years is controlling me and my son – ( not his) and today, after two weeks silent treatment I was served with I went to the gym he was tonight and confronted him
He was pleased to see me like nothing happened..
After a while I was asking this typical question you mentioned and he looked at me strange and said why are you asking me this?
The one thing I know I improved since I met you is my attitude – was his answer
And I kept asking : What would you improve in you?! List 3 please – he was avoiding it trying to get me mention what I would improve –
I actually had to ask another couple times until I found the answer that he is perfect – he has a career and financial safe for future etc..
I was speechless – I told him I have to give him a feed back that something is wrong with him and I'm hoping he will take care of it for his sake future
He is a great guy but often gets angry like he is a different person
yes your telling the truth I dent know a love one was a narcissist we had a verbal fight OOOOO MY GOD SHE MESSED ME UP BIG TIME she messed up my name got people against me and I am a loner I opened a can of king cobras with her I dent know she was very DANGEROUS I wish I had known I am so sorry about everything! !!!
Doesn't sound like you really wanted to do this video….not a great selling point, I'm afraid.
Hey Aydin. Great work. Having studied this subject and watched many video blogs on it I like alot of the points you've made and your own personal take on this. I'll definitely be looking for your book. Look forward to watching your other videos and have subscribed.
Thanks for explaining the traits about narcissist…Yeahh youre absolutely right…theyre a nightmare from hell those narcissists…I have met some narcissists in the past..they ridiculed me..theyre arrogant , very envious and think theyre the best…they backstabbed me and ruined my reputation when i stayed away from them for 9 years now…Youre right they make sure youre below them and destroy your life slowly….by pairing you with someone who got horrible lifestyle and bad personality…..i got a peaceful life now than before…i was happy i was out of their hell circle for 9 years….In the end one of the narcissists husband got jailed bec. hes a psychopath and she didnt know about it..So the narcissist got the karma she deserved….she cant put her head high now bec. her husband got jailed for being selfish and exploited an epileptic jobless to stand in an unsafe high scaffolding to do exterior painting to their big old house…and unluckily the epileptic victim fell in the ground from the scaffolding and died the next day….
Narcissists try to make others jealous, by never complimenting you, but by always talking about how fantastic, beautiful, rich, and blah, blah, blah somebody else is to them… my NM does this. Sounds like that's what you did with your girlfriend. It isn't right, and you said you did it on purpose just to see her reaction or just to test her. That's really sick, and not Godly.
great job! keep do in it!
I feel that one can win against a narcissist, but it's not a victory like most would consider "winning". Just getting the narcissist to exhibit his/her bad behavior in public is a major victory, and can be done if you get them angry enough ;-). However, the ultimate victory is exactly what you stated: going "no contact". They do not deserve your company, your ideas, or your love, so by going no contact you are denying them what they truly yearn. Deep down they want admiration, so denial of this is a victory :-).
I wouldn't say they are good looking, they do care too much about their physical appearance though, this person I met was extremely worried about his hair … like 30 minutes doing his hair and you were not allowed to touch it and bad look at you if you made a comment about his appearance. They present themselves as very self confident and mature, they like being in social circles to get some ego boosted (which its a contradiction with that mature image they try to sell), they do not care about you if they ask how was your day its just a polite question, that's all, they are extremely cruel. To me is: shame (sexually, emotionally, physical) and they cant be intimate with anyone, everything is superficial… dig in to them and you will find nothing: no passion about anything, they mirror others in taste, in personal opinions, in values. They are a façade, cyborgs copying human beings… their self was killed in early stages. Yeap… no contact, learn how to detect them and good bye… you will get nothing of value to you from them.
I know a few narcissists. It's sad one never asks me how my day was or how I'm feeling. Never! I even brought it up to him. I asked, " why don't you ever ask me how my day was". Now it makes sense. I always asked him. I thought he was caring he fooled me.
never asking how your day went or how you are feeling…. so true!!! Never once have I heard a narc inquire about the welfare of their closest loved ones.
Min 20:47–23:09… I will try to follow that advice. Thank you!!!
please dont use the "F" word ,I hate it. You dont need to say it ,your insights are spot on but that stinking word is a reflection of whats really going on with YOU. AND ARE YOU "F"ed??????????
I smacked the shit out of my friend who's a covert, didnt wanna fight back but he did try to emotionally and psychologically harm me afterwards. He seeks out material items to fill the void, he never cries…. Its crazy I never detected this shit for 17 years.
Thank you…you have described my soon to be ex husband to a tee…ugh…I will be subscribing
im a narcissist so what do i do? can this ever go away or get better?
My mother never once asked how I was feeling, never asked if I was well again after an injury or illness, and never once gave me a hug in my life. Great that these discussions are now public thanks to youtube. Horrid nasty reptiles they are. One year no contact. Bliss.
hope that none covert narcissistic watch this or they can fake the signs haha
Good for you. You said you would be happy to get just two views and you have over 10k. Great video. Good luck with your book.
jesus fucking christ. just found you on youtube. I am a the female and he is the covert. it took me 1 year to totally UNMASK him. I am going to order your book soon. I TOLD him that he is LUCIFER. I have never met someone so fucking disturbed in my life, I am basically speechless now. I think you and I both went through EXACTLY the same thing. I can't even finish watching your video. This guy has no soul, no core identity, even gender identity issues. They are like chameleons. Shape shifters. They become whoever they are around. They are Grammy Award winners and MOST people would never suspect it nor believe it because they are such good actors. I can tell when he is lying because I am an empath and I just discovered that. I am 50 fucking years old and never knew that the reason WHY I always felt different from others is because I am an empath. I hate the fact that I am, I do not say it with pride, but I'm kinda glad because we are special. I have to go now. I am a BIT overwhelmed. My head is spinning. oh, BTW, MY COVERT is basically a blubbering mess. I have unmasked him and all his disgusting sick sexual perversions and HIS LIES, and all his pretending/acting, that he is basically AFRAID of me. hahahahahahalolololol…..God rocks!!!
PS he was SEVERELY abused mentally, physically and yes that too, as a kid. I wish I could hang all child abusers.
PSSS they basically ALL (all cluster b personalities) suffer from Complex PTSD. it just manifests differently in each person. Borderlines also. Abuse SUX.
nailed it! just went no contact on a girl that was dating for a few months and you describe it her to the T! Just happen to be that i'm a confident guy that loves himself in a healthy manner, just looking to share my love with a special lady and yes she did have a traumatic event in her life that included rape by a family member…thought for a while to be her saviour but figure that it's better to run for the hills
The last little comment sounds a bit vindictive and narcissistic. Hahaha. There are a lot of Covert Narcissists in therapy fully aware of their problem and some show forms of empathy and they work closely with doctors trying to improve themselves by finding the cause (or trauma as you mentioned). A lot of Covert Narcissists were raised by abusive Narcissists or one parent being a Narcissist. So make sure not to sound like malignant narcissist yourself.
This is very interesting and I would love to read the book. However I do not think you are completely psychologically correct/accurate in your personal findings. You make some good points but not all of them apply to all narcissists all the time, not even two covert narcissists are always completely the same symptom wise. You are explaining a lot of other psychological conditions. also there are 4 types of narcissistic personality times. if not more.
round, brown smooth hardwood in the middle, steel rise high into the sky , beautiful , well-formed crystal vase on the table but empty . Enhøring horse motionless in a picture on the wall . Everything is swung around by a hurricane but everything is held in its original position relative to one another
This is two months of the final back up with nac partner through four years , infidelity , degradation , economic exploitation and so on ….. I am in intense therapy. I have selected a total disconnect with him. Excuse my Engelse , I'm from Denmark . Thanks for all your vidios. I VILL LIVE….
hope your book also becomes a hollywood movie or even just a dvd or tv drama for wider exposure of these narcs and widespread general recognition and education of their existence
You really only talked about women. Any help for ladies dealing with male narcissists?
LOL
My daughter on the phone,. "Hey, Mum,. How are you?"
I start to tell her,. "God, Mum, it's not all about you, you know",..
Nailed it,!!! All of it,!!
what if you have a bad reaction to someone verbally idealizing another woman, but the person doing this treats you unkindly and expects you to take it quietly, is your bitter reaction still narcissistic?
its a red flag if i guy starts talking about his ex at length good or bad. i would think you were a narc and my attitude would turn
I know this guy that interrupts other people when they start talking, including me. He always cuts me off and talks about him. Is this a narcassit?
look at their hands.really for the ones it meant to help it will.look at their hands carefully.
They will never discuss their true (deep) inter feelings when in a relationship. You could pour your guts out and they will add very little or nothing at all to the conversation.
They never do anything wrong!! If they talk about past relationships its always how the other person failed them. They did nothing wrong and were perfect little angels.
I don't think questions like, "What could you improve on" is a good way to diagnose narcissism. There are many traits that make up a narcissist and these must be carefully observed.
Number 5 is chillingly accurate, they want you to be single, lonely and depressed. Very insecure and very very jealous. They break up families and hate happy kind people. They are very competitive in an unhealthy way
Youre dead on about the not asking about how youre feeling. Im just getting out of a 15 year relationship with a covert narc. They also give lousy or bizarre gifts, theyre usually quiet, hardly ever display random showings of affection (in 15 years i can count on one hand), mine tended to give cards rather than write out his feelings or sentiments, if they are forced to be "affectionate" its more of a check off system or lacking any real feeling or depth, my god can they lie. to the point where it can drive you crazy (it almost did to me), have bizarre relationships with their direct family….and money, will not always devalue you to your face (mine did behind my back years prior), will absolutely refuse to apologize, refuse to accept any responsibility even when faced with unassailable evidence, will make you end up talking about them no matter what, will ask you what it is about them that you love (supply bait) in a non-cute factual way, tend to have a place for everything, easy to mistake their feelings of failure for guilt, sneaky as hell with their phones, are in total competition with you if you excel over them in any way (they will stab you and explain how they were stabbed once and it didnt hurt as bad as you make it sound. Theirs hurt wayyy more), they might not actually cheat but will fantasize and go through the motions to the extant that they may as well just cheat, they cheat, will have vivid fantasies involving being with someone else to the point of talking to them even when theyre not there, If theyre over 30 they will constantly hark back to the days when they were "someone" not realizing (or caring) how offensive that is when you've started a family with them, will put on a public image but most people will tend see past it. Theres just something about narcs that most people dont like. My god I could go on but the fibromyalgia (the neurological disorder you get from being in emotional trauma for too long…) is kicking in.
my ex convinced me to the point of ignoring many red flags, right from the start I believed her every word, let my guard down when I thought it was safe, was eventually discarded with no mercy, only aftet reflecting on the relationship, how she portrayed herself, selfie after the salon, used her sexuality, liked attention, very competitive, didn't consider advice, very selfish and never really went too far out of her way for me, her persona was very false, had a fantasy about meeting her Prince charming…