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Thank you, wow, I am a 52 year old daughter of my narcissist mom, and for the last couple of weeks I have been researching things about her for the first time, I am not on no contact yet but I am learning, thank you.
what if the child is a narcissist?..no contact?
Out of All your Most Excellent Videos. This One is my Absolute Favorite !
I watch it at Least once a week Every week… NO CONTACT !!!!!
You are my saving grace..I listen to your videos daily…I just cant thank you enough for your validation..you KNOW exactly what its all about..you get it..I just don't have the words to say how much you have helped me…Just to say..I am so grateful ..xx
Thanks
So validating! Thank you!
Thank You! I have friend like this. Working in mental for over 17 years, I realize it's best to stay away from these type of people.
it was difficult in the beginning. Somedays it still is. I feel my whole life is a lie.
Thank you for your kind words! I really needed to hear them. No more contact from my abusive, narcissist mother. I can do it, with the help of my lawyer.
how to have no contact with stalkers :/ ??
what can i do about that her cntacting everyone decieving them ? i mean it stresses me out even when she talks on the phone, she doesnt want me to hear what she says to others and yeah she had put people to stalk me (flying monkeys)
thank you sir. I am a 33 year old woman, i was abused very badly by my mother. She made serious damages to by mental health and physical health. i was divorced and happened to live with her for five years, situation became worse. i was insulted and degraded daily before neighbors. Now, by god's grace i remarried to a gentleman and i live happily, she calls me daily and speaks very sweetly about my life, i dont know how to avoid, but i am trying to the best of my ability to be in no-contact with her.
you're right. you're so right…..Deep down inside I already knew , but I so needed to hear this. Thank you so much!
Thank you for your help. Your videos are a true public service.
Thank you for helping me identify that a close family member is indeed a narcissist.
Tom you are a great inspiration to me. Thank you for everything!
Six years post divorce I still remain semi involved with my ex due to his ongoing legal abuse. All strategies you list, he uses. Trying to keep custody and the mental health of my teen daughter demands some contact. I truly wish I took her in the night for another country. Getting away from him has changed me for the better but I'm not good. Bizarrely I am being mentally defiled by a psychopathic boss, despite never confronting him, as I try to heal. I cry when you say "No Contact" because it gives me hope!
You have identified for me, without a doubt, that my 97 year old mother is a narcissist. Through therapy for Bipolar II and Clinical Depression during the last six years, I learned I have a right to set boundaries with her. I live 2000 miles from her, yet she still got in her jabs. It would make me soooo angry. I finally limited contact only by letters. Then I would also have proof of her wickedness. Nobody in my family understood what she was putting me through. Guess what? She stopped contacting me. She was always a daily negative reminder of why she never loved me. Now little by little I am not thinking of her daily anymore. Thank you for enlightening me.
I am with a covert narcissist and a few nights ago I was quite upset. I was pointing out to him a whole bunch of stuff that he didn't want to hear. (I was doing the exact opposite of what I should be doing of course.) I might add my N is an alcoholic and when he's drunk his real self emerges, which is pretty much any time he's not at work. Rest of the time he's fake-loving, fake-caring and doing everything he can to get me to feel sorry for him. He stood there impassively and calmly said: "I'm recording this." I said "what do you mean?" and he pointed to his head, and said: "in here."
I am in the process of disentangling myself now, learning as much as I can and joining the dots. I was married to an overt N for 35 years. Fell into this new relationship because this guy seemed opposite to my husband. But turns out this one is a covert N. I knew nothing about narcissism until I began research on co-dependency due to my new N being an alcoholic. I have lived with him for one year. I just want to be free now. I was so in love with this new guy, and fell for all his lies.
The 20 people that thumbed down this video are likely narcissists.
Should we have any contact with that narcissist?
Should read only asking
Great videos what do you do for work? Only a ski g as there are a lot of narassist in the workplace?
I have watched a number of your videos and thank you so much for them. I have suffered abuse from a narcissist mother for many years and have wondered what is wrong with me.i am 63 years old. I now understand that it is not me at all. I have been triangulated to the point that neither of my sisters speak to me. One of them is the golden child .Thanks you so much for your videos . I fell I can now begin my path to healing. Vicki
This was one of my favorite videos. I never knew about no contact. I found you around this time last year and made sure I watched them all.
Thank you sir for sharing your clever words. I hope, they Will zink in and become the truth instead Off all the lies I believed in
I love your videos, but no contact is not an option for me. I am in almost daily contact and daily pain from it, but in my situation all I can do is work on myself to not absorb the venom or let it penetrate me. Now, though, I understand them better, and don't seek nor need their emotional connection with me, because I understand they are not capable of that, which is very freeing. I have to maintain appearances and I have to continue to practice the ability to not absorb the venom and maintain my inner light. This is very hard, as I know you understand.
thanks so much for all these videos…. My heart has been crushed and I finally learned to AVOID AVOID AVOID them…Silence is golden with these snakes.
Is there any point in calling a narcissist a narcissist in front of others (siblings/siblings in law) before establishing no contact? Through therapy my partner and I have discovered his mother is gas lighting us and using triangulation but at the same time she has acted loving towards us. It's hard to wrap my head around. But she has slandered our names to siblings and the police over things that didn't happen. We want the siblings to know the truth…
Thanks so much! just broke up 5 weeks ago whit my covert narc. i made the mistake the last weeks to email him and telling again how everyting made me feel, hoping that he understand me finally , but no he always put ONE WORD out of the email ore never react how i feel, i rought yesterday the final email and say how everyting made me feel, afcorse no answer, maby i needed this for the final "now i know he is a big covert narc! now its time to heal and be happy and relaxt again! i will take you advise not to write anymore to him!
A bad day today here in England my grown up daughter is showing the signs of being narc as she continues to be the flying monkey for my narc no contact older sister . They collude together and I'm the victim . I had to ask my daughter to leave this evening ; so sad as I love her with all my heart ,but she cause me pain and upset . My sister poisons her mind against me . I have done no wrong but feel I'm all the problem . It's sick. I feel more peaceful now she has gone away for a couple of nights X.
I just had to add to my previous comment, If you can't walk away from the parent narcissist, as was my situation as he was very old and needed care at home, the only way to stay in contact with a narcissist is to power yourself with the knowledge that you know who and what they are and always tell yourself it is not you to blame. Be strong. Love from Scotland
Dear Survivor, I am a 65 year old man and married to my lovely wife for 38 years. I knew her for a few year before we married and unknown to her her farther was a narcissist of the worst kind. All the traits you describe in such detail we only linked to his narcissism by chance after seeing a TV programme on the issue. She is only healing now as he died last year. My wives good heart and love of her mum and dad didn't allow her to walk away. However, on discovering he had the condition it helped her to understand what had been going on all her life and she finally realised it was him and not her or her brother and sister. I wish you well and only wish more people were aware of what these people are like, they are total poison. Take care friend. Love from Scotland
Thank you so much …… you have no idea how much you've helped me………….. Gods bless you!!!!!!
THANKS…
I freaking love you. lol
my son's mother to a shining T
I love that all 10 are no contact actually made me laugh even though this subject is not funny. I'm divorced 9 months, married 12 yrs. He says I'm the worst thing that ever happened to him, that I am 100% responsible for the divorce, that and I quote " 12 yrs of hell". Even though I twisted myself into a pretzel to try to please him, walked on egg shells daily. No matter what I did it was never enough, never right, he would rage, demean me call me stupid ( I have a masters degree) said I was a shit wife. I lost myself. Every time I would correct the thing he didn't like there would would always be a new set of things that.i wasn't doing right. I have a six yr old daughter with him so I have to have contact. To this day he still wants to hug me grope me, try to kiss me, and despite me telling him we are no longer anything, and I resist. it's like he feels I'm his still his is some messed up way. He does not respect my boundaries. He says"oh please it's me".
Omg I have a 6 yr old with him I wish but I can't do no contact!
I've just come across your videos on YouTube and I really would like to thank you for posting them, they really help. I only learnt about narcissism 2yrs ago and came to the realisation that not only do I attract narcissistic men but have a narcissistic father. 10yrs ago my father cut all contact with me and last year tried to reestablish contact after tormenting my siblings! I was distressed when he did this but he really gave me the most perfect gift ever, he thought it was 5yrs and even he was shocked. No contact is the best policy and once you get the hang of it it works. Thank you again for posting and I am now a very grateful and appreciative subscriber. X
No, no… THANK YOU!
Thank you for this. I will have to listen to this over and over and over to stay strong in no-contact. It's been tough, and not really what I expected…. But it's only been since mid-February. I sure hope it gets easier…. Thank you again, wish I could give you a huge hug :)
It's a bad time here . I'm so sad. I've had hell to pay cos I didn't lend my daughter 25 yrs my car for two days over the weekend , I lent her the car only once . She went mad ( as she was sure I was lending it twice) and told me I was controlling sick and manipulative . She's told my narc sister and sent me fowl cruel texts. NC is the answer! My daughter lives at my house but now I want her out . I can't bear any more drama cruel words and unkindness. I've tried to make her leave b4 but she won't go.