Helping to identify personality disordered people versus those who struggle with maintaining their emotional balance.
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The narcissist mirror – mirroring the narcissist
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hi James, what is it your studying in school?
My experience is, when the narc "freely" gives something to me….it will come back in the future as how I owe them. ALWAYS!
I am so glad that I have found this video because I was thinking I have become a narc through having to live and deal with so many around me
How about narcs or narcs' enablers who can (some times) give and show true love?
Are there levels of narcissism?
Are some narcs becoming Alzheimers (for many years before Alzheimer is diagnosed, they "forget" real situations happened in the near and in the distant past)?
Does smoking play a role in the narc disorder?
Thank you James. Your videos on narcissism are excellent, I wish I had discovered them earlier this year. I am trying to sort out the dynamics of a relationship I had for eight years. I was with a woman who exhibited symptoms of co-dependency, NPD and BPD. However, in another video you basically said that a narcissist will NEVER say "I'm sorry." The person I was with WAS capable of using those two words when necessary, but an apology from her rarely went beyond "I'm sorry" and if it did, it usually involved some kind of deflection, for example, "I'm sorry your feelings got hurt" or "I'm sorry those things were said." Another thing I question is that she would often cry during the sad parts of movies, showing far more empathy and emotion for characters in a movie than she was able to show in most everyday, real-life situations. I don't know her background well but I get the impression that she was raised as the "golden child" of a narcissistic father, the youngest (and prettiest) of three daughters. There were two boys in the family as well, but I get the impression there was a lot of competition among the daughters for daddy's attention. She has always spoken of her father as if he were the greatest guy in the world, whereas her mother has said he was a pain in the ass sometimes. I would welcome your thoughts on this question: Is someone who can say "I'm sorry, BUT….", and show empathy for people on TV truly a narcissist, or do you think she is mirroring behaviors from her childhood?
They will try to reduce a person to a shell. It is like they have the mentality of a small child, and they want a stuffed teddy bear / punching bag, to have in their life. They do not want an autonomous human being in their life.
Every time my NARCISSISTIC soon to be ex-husband tries to berate me, via text, I respond: "Okay Psycho"…."Okay Psycho"…"Okay Psycho"….it drives him nuts
I am a codepent son of a narcissist father. First time I had my heart broken a friend gave me narcissist lessons and I made a great one for years, single twenties but the pain I was causing others was a burden I couldn't bear and I literally blew up.
I'm sitting here binge watching all your videos and this one hit home! I was involved with one for three years and I finally ended this last week for the 15-20th time. This time I was ready to go " grey rock" but I'm left wondering if I am a narcissist. Or active co dependant. Something was wrong with me too. I'm glad to see that maybe I was mirroring to cope. I don't want to be hurtful or mean to anyone
Hi James, I just watched this vid again. I don't know if you weren't able to access an email for me, so I'll just ask again here. Please answer if you like? You mentioned school, are you studying psychology? I'm very impressed with your knowledge of narcissism. I remember you saying before that unfortunately you have this because of your experiences, and it is the same for me. I have to be careful what I say here, because I would not be surprised if narc family somehow would find it and put two and two together…. Due to my experiences with narc family and relationships, my journey has taken me to completing my degree in psychology with the goal of going for my M.A./Ph.D. after. I totally agreed with you when you said thank god AUD and other drug disorders are now in the DSM, not to mention that so many narcissists have issues with dependency. So much so that for me, it has become a red flag in choosing a partner if I see that someone has a dependency of any kind, I'm gone. I would like to use my knowledge as you are or in some capacity before finishing school. That's another reason I ask about your background and if you're a life coach (not sure how one gets started doing that). I don't think I could do videos, because again, narc family. I have to be careful, so I stay anonymous as possible. My story in learning about narcissism and getting here in life would be pretty recognizable. It's so ironic that some, including a psychologist, have wondered if I'll write my story. I'm concentrating on school for now though, as I take beyond a full load so I can finish sooner. Btw, I love Cesar Millan too. I have a dog, and I've often applied his knowledge to life and human relationships as well. 🙂 I think he is still on TV on Nat Geo though and not as "The Dog Whisperer." Hope you're doing well. I've been waiting for another of your videos, but I guess you've been busy too. Take care, Cali :)
when they nearly kill you,send you to hospital,cheat lie,and then look at you and say"that never happened,and you see there is no concience,,no guilt,no shame,you know they are a malignant narc psychopath.
More are moving into their Golden Power … and by this time, they're incredible.
Right now I'm looking for my garage door opener that stays clipped to my visor. I soooo hope that I'm wrong but I can't help but feel that my CN husband has taken it to "F" w/ my mind!!
He'll even offer to help me look for it and ask me "…where I usually keep it?" Huh???? He knows where it's kept.
James Kristian, can you please talk about the rationale as why THEY take your stuff?
Why do they LIE ABOUT EVERYTHING?
WHEN THEY start a fight, and then ONLY remember your (my) reaction, as the cause of the fight?
Do they KNOW WHAT THEY'RE DOING? I realize they don't have the empathy component, but does he really know that he's the one who started a MAJOR FIGHT, (over dinner not being ready by 6:00pm)? Thanks!!
Thank you. I did find this very helpful.
Why do the houses in most of these type of videos feel like the 1980s?
Hi James, I a big fan of your channel. Sometimes when i can't sleep (due to my cptsd from living with NH) I listen to the stream of all your videos (and a few other fave channels on Narcissists) to learn. Sometimes I relisten a few times over time. It's helped me a lot. But anyway, this was the 1st of your videos I didn't care for. I have been with my NH for 23 years and always knew something was wrong, but didn;t know what, and he always made my reactions to his behavior the problem. He may just have fleas from his mother's serious NBPD disorder, but I have suffered gaslighting and so much crappy behavior over the years from him, and so has my son….I found the "stay in the now" and forgive and forget in this video tough to tolerate bc I have to look back at all this to move forward and save myself…my husband "may" have a capability for occassional empathy, but I cant distinguish if it is real or just covert narcissism……so I found this video a bit invalidating to much of what I already learned from you and my other fave channels. Please know this was constructive criticism from a fan who likes you…not an attack. Keep em' coming please.
I like your new paint colors.
I think I read an article about this where the blogger described it as having "fleas" from the narcissist and it made a lot of sense.
superb thank you.
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaa james you are so handsome :3
I had and have to mirror them sometimes in order to survive in a strategical way. Because, when they start to see who you are, they want to destroy you, trust me.
fun way to deal with this serious subject..I always crack up…THX♥
love your angle on the Narc subject…THX♥
I really enjoy listening and I'm thankful for your words of wisdom. You are so good at helping me understand what this disorder is in a true and honest way. You have an amazingly positive vibe!
Thank you much!
I really enjoy listening and I'm thankful for your words of wisdom. You are so good at helping me understand what this disorder is in a true and honest way. You have an amazingly positive vibe!
Thank you much!
I really enjoy listening and am thankful for your words of wisdom. You are so good at helping me understand what this disorder is in a true and honest way. You have an amazingly positive vibe!
Thank you much!
I really enjoy listening and am thankful for your words of wisdom. You are so good at helping me understand what this disorder is in a true and honest way. You have an amazingly positive vibe!
Thank you much!
I really enjoy listening and am thankful for your words of wisdom. You are so good at helping me understand what this disorder is in a true and honest way. You have an amazingly positive vibe!
Thank you much!
I really enjoy listening and am thankful for your words of wisdom. You are so good at helping me understand what this disorder is in a true and honest way. You have an amazingly positive vibe!
Thank you much!
I really enjoy listening and am thankful for your words of wisdom. You are so good at helping me understand what this disorder is in a true and honest way. You have an amazingly positive vibe!
Thank you much!
I really enjoy listening and am thankful for your words of wisdom. You are so good at helping me understand what this disorder is in a true and honest way. You have an amazingly positive vibe!
Thank you much!
So here we go …I've got all answers to my worries ,Thanks James.
Thank you! This really helped to ease my mind, and gave me much understanding.