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Old-age Narcissist
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Let us love all, for we don't know our own future circumstances. For the devil is seamless, for the lessons are infinite for our time is short. I match all these traits, and only acquired them through honesty and fooling myself for solutions to see logic to pitying others. Yes there are acts as external information in this world. If we set the pessimistic playground of relations, we fall easily into the incapable. We are the ones who we're told the biggest illusions, and first we we're gullible and afraid. Just destroying yourself for curiosity, to know what you're made of, uncritically to others. and social bilabial laws. What's the only thing you got, when ppl think you're lying. Aggression, contempt, understanding of your situation, and progress to constantly change evolve and experience the fragility of your best good purpose.
Sam Vaknin, Narcissist seems to equal sociopathic behavior? which is sad.
wow amazing video, and explanation! I know my ex narc, now 53, will end up alone. He has burned so many bridges; sad…
This is the best and most succinct description I have seen. I have several Narcs in my life and all are following the same path. I have hope for one of them but she has already lost the love of everyone that ever mattered. The weight of her constant betrayal is crushing her soul. Good. It is about time.
Yeah this is so well put
"Eternal malformed child in the sagging body of a decaying man"…..
That sums it up!!
You have saved me with your sage advice and expertise. My life has been filled with these men. The last one has done the most damage. Thank you for your articulate and informative postings.
My dad took a teaching job and worked his way up to principal, once he got there he became the big man on campus in a way that he never was before, he refused promotions so that he could stay in his position of control, he is a big baby, a big angry baby
wow and wow again …. This is so filled with a horrible fate but its so truthful and thanks for saying it the way it really is Mr Vaknin ……. Thank You Kaleb
So can they see the world the way others do? I was thinking they were replaced by their disorder and completely lose their sense of self. and have no ability to change.
Mom is 81 and will pay my sister with my heritance as she wants her to take care of her and knows my sister will not do it for free. After all my thinks has been alwsys hers. Of course in order to do so she has to make her previous smear csmpaing in order to make others believe that I do not disrve better treatment. She is getting worse as time pass by
My 'friend' is always saying about his trophy accomplishments. He lies constantly even about his former marriage. She divorced him because he wouldn't consumate the marriage. He lies to me about everything and only refers to our relationship in the terms 'I/we' context… He's pathetic…
No wonder I'm alone now…
I have seen narcissism in old age and believe you me…they don't give up on the adulation..adoration..this person continued right up until the end of his life. He was 84 when he died. This person continued to seek the admiration of women (seeking that narcissist supply) even though he had a good woman by his side. So I am sorry if I don't show compassion and sympathy because I have seen the destruction into old age..
Such sad people
Old age, God's last offer to the narcissist for reconciliation.
Sam's a good writer.
This makes me feel very sad for my ex. I wish I could fix him, but I know that it cannot happen, This suffering you describe is so sad.
Annie
it seems as though the narcissist is the one who gets all the crap in life. he/she never asked to be a narcissist they were abused. why is it life seems to punish someone for being a victim of circumstances they had no control over?how can someone be critical of a person like that when all they know is dysfunction.
Perfect timing for the victim…..thank you
Good one Sam,
But consider nursing homes; that is where most narcs finish up, in fact the concentration must be 50+%. They lose their power and their social masks slip off and so they get arsed out of their families' life.
So consider the plight of the nurses… Fortunately, they clock on and clock off and seem impervious to Narc bullshit. They have their tea breaks in the common room and put the narcs in nappies… sucko and then they die…
Thank you, so much I have my Popcorn ready, and I am the baby sister lol, can't wait.
It sounds to me that old age can also be a release from the narcissism. I see that as a plus.
WOW! isn't life a bitch! FOR THEM FINALLY!!!
mommy's mother is 85. She is still ever the SAME. She didnt lose anything. Shes evil manipulative toxic.same.
How long must others pay for trauma incurred from childhood? I'm 55 and am still trying to have a relationship with my older sister. I finally had had enough of her cruelty when she told me my Christmas present was an old dried out pack of cigs found in the glove compartment of her van. ???????. She can no longer physically abuse so she finds "quieter"ways to hurt. I am expected to be her psychiatrist, best friend, sounding board, punching bag, housekeeper, etc. Struggling to be free has been a life long effort and I am starting to understand that I like me very much and am ok with that. This keeps me from getting too close. When the time comes for her to reap her bitter harvest, I hope she "gets it". It can only go on for so long.
I've seen it with my own eyes. Some call it "karma." The wheel does come around.
Wow, in depth and very informative. Thank you!
my sister abused both her children by over control and expectations. She was a phony , thief and liar by the age of 3 always crying for attention and smiling with the little she got from dad. My beloved mother died when I was 11. My sister appeared elated she had dad all to herself. That was explained years later by a psychiatrist that helped me become a bit more socialized than I was only interested in art and science.
The one time I had a heart to heart with her, I told her I felt abandoned by everyone when my mother died, but always felt loved.
SHOCKER; My sister said she never felt loved, only abandoned.
Wonder if that's why she is incapable of love?
Having a narcistic passive aggressive jealous revengeful sister who I've watched over the years (at a safe distance) deteriorate to old age without her entourage of handi wipe friends. Her thug son is dead and her trained seal daughter on another coast. Whats interesting is she is addicted to pharmaceuticals and once called me a addictive personality though I'm squeaky clean and joke I could sell my urine to an athlete.
Fascinating video – I was thinking that the narcissists' inability to age well could be connected to the trauma they experienced as children. It makes sense that someone who experiences severe trauma as a child develops a brain which is not prepared for or anticipating long-term life on the planet. The brain is being sent the message that there is danger in the environment and that a "haphazard" reproductive strategy will ensure the best chance of the genes being passed on. Thus, when the narcissist becomes old – the brain is confused about why the body still lives.
If the narcissist is confronted with the gap between their fantasies of eternal life and health and the physical reality they live in, they will almost by definition automatically double down on the fantasies (i.e. plastic surgery, dress younger, etc). It would be so painful for them to acknowledge their fantastical views of reality that do so is not an option any longer – akin to how it is not an option for me to leave my hand on a hot stove. So the only strategy they have is to double down on dysfunction.
wow- well done
This post is pretty harsh. Everyone is narcissistic to some degree. Old age is a bummer for everyone unless you're a saint.
A former friend of mine is a chronic narcissist. He used to go out of his way to fawn over senior citizens, homeless people, alcoholics and anyone who looked like they were struggling to survive. He only did it to extract attention from them while pretending to be altruistic. He as also lived with his parents his entire life. He got engaged last christmas and was last seen at the bus stop with a small rucksack containing his lunch. He was wearing black shoes, black trousers, a black jacket, pullover & white shirt. Basically he's going around dressed as a schoolboy. A 53 year old schoolboy who has alienated and pissed off his friends with his obnoxious behaviour. He won't be having a stag night. There probably won't be a best man at the wedding, and the wedding reception is bound to be a sad affair too. He has turned his life into a ridiculous travesty.
That is so true ~ yet sooo very sad to see. It breaks my <3 cuz statistics show they became narcissistic to begin with due usually to childhood trauma, which is most definitely the case w/ the one I know. Now he is pushing 50 and very much alone. My prayers are for all ~ those whos liveswho have been scared by one and the narcissist him/herself. No one wins ~ all must be forgiven.
This is poetic justice.
..old age is the Narcissists ultimate punishment and purgatory on earth." love those words.
VERY interesting. Hmmm.
can they fell emphaty then?
Youth is the narcissist best friend it seems.
Senite democrat …HARRY REID! 2013 narcissist of the year!!!
My husband of twenty years looked in the mirror, saw his father and lost his mind. So he became his mother.
yayye
Great video Sam.
As my mothers aged she got more and more controlling and manipulative, so much so it has impacted my adult life in horrible ways that I am now dealing with as I know why, finally. Aging is a big problem for the narcissist. So much so it enabled me to see it for what it is. She became unable to hide it anymore. And hiding it is always the goal. Which is why I was blind to it for 44 years. It is a vicious and insidious disease especially when the subject is so unaware.
Dena, I am 44 and just realized my aging mother is also a raging N. I have found great support online for daughters of narcissistic mothers. I urge you to find one..you are not alone. Love and light.