Fifty Shades of Narcissism Q&A: Does the narcissist ever think about old supply? Not in the way you may think. Find out more in this video. Learn more at …
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Fifty Shades of Narcissism Q&A: Does the Narcissist Think About Old Supply?
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Wow your super good I need to be with a girl that knows lots of knowledge about narcissist personality disorder.but that she is not screwed up else where worst.I also think their human parasites.reason why I need a girl like you because she wont fall for Narcissists or any other garbage I hope.and excuse my ways its been a bit rocky.well to think that a normal advance human wont ever catch up to their lies.so the lord said let their be light.and light it was.something like that.it will shine even in the darkest places but in time.my mother is narc.my father is a narc.my step mother is a narc.my 2 brothers are also narcs.plus meany more that I cut off and don't talk to unless other wise.but it is best to avoid with no contact of any toxic narc.the other is my mother told me that when I got older. I will realize a lot of things.( me ) I was like o.k. didn't think much of it. but it did stay stuck in my head obviously.no doubt it had lots of truth in that for once.how I was the normal one. because they see that and know that from the jump.that at the time I really didn't understand much.I was confused about a lot of things how they acted especially.but I learned alright. how meany snakes I was playing with and how meany I was surrounded by.( me ) with no bad intention of course.but they did have plenty of bad intentions.I'm 38 and I still don't know personaly the truth of real love between a girl and a guy.the only thing I know and herd give or take that is very addictive. I have been with other girls in the past narcs that is.I even married one but divorced her.but yes not so long this came to light on me. I didn't know squat about a N.P.D.well keep up the good work. here are some links test for N.P.D. the other take a look at the gallery. http://personality-testing.info/tests/NPI/ edwyncomicartist.deviantart.com
Thanks a bunch. I have to keep watching your vids repeatedly in order not to slide into denial thinking my ex-wife is not like this.
~ You're incredibly insightful & wonderfully wise & express yourself extremely eloquently! 🙂 I've recently ended my relationship with an abusive covert narc & your brilliant videos are helping me through this distressing time. Thanks loads! Celestial blessings to you xxxx
yes, brilliant vids
my 51 year old narc hoovered some beat up old supply last year from 30 years ago!…good riddance !
the big joke is she has been trying to text me the last few weeks..
no contact is the only way to go…geese ..no narc like a beat up old narc !
is there some kind of narc factory that produces these zombies …???
Just wanted to make it clear that not all narcisists are cheaters. I think some ppl have been miss lead. She is simply talking about one case study, one persons story. The narc i know has been married and faithful 30 some years. Deep down she knows no one else in the world would put up with her bull shit.
Do they change for the next girlfriend – did she get my "great" guy I was waiting 4 years for him to follow through and become?
"Let's not be too empathic them." You are so right. Wow.
thank you soo much for these vids. I really struggle with no contact and obsessive thoughts about the narcissists I've encountered and your insights, encouragement, and experiences are very helpful.
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Hey there; thank you very much for this video. It has so much affirming info in it.
I am 57, and My (long term separation) 60 year old narc princess has been playing said game (hoovering) for 2 years now.
I will never be Her or Her Jocular Witless religion's supply :)
omg i fucking love you….this is helping me so much! bless your lil heart!!!!!
being on a very similar mission to you in terms of helping people and spreading awareness on empaths and this particular dynamic that so so many of us experience. i have to credit you on your bravery and well spoken and highly informative self. its inspiring to see someone so young doing such important light work. Keep going power soul, this work is crucial for global healing. x
How do I distance myself from Narc brother? He treated me poorly and did my narc mother's bidding when we were little. Narc Brother's narc wife left him, and after years of ignoring me, he started calling me. He cries that he is all alone. I try to limit time with when he calls me on phone. He wants me to go down for dinner to his house, I really don't want to go, but since he's alone, I feel obligated. BTW narc brother abandoned me to take care of narc very elderly mom.
Can a person have a lot of emotion but lack empathy?
I have a child with a narcissistic drug addict. We were together for 5 years and he started to get physically abusive and we have ended it. I want to move forward but it scares me to start a custody battle because he's such a manipulator. He even manipulated the police officer who responded to my call when he punished me in the face into believing I was crazy and that he didn't hit me even though my face and body proved differently. Please advise me on what steps I can take to keep him away from us. And what I have to do to get supervised visitation for my daughter.
I just want to say, i think u beautiful
The narc also does not like losing an audience member.
Btw Denise thank you for your comments …you really know as me how is deal with this kind of personality and how their behavior destroy our lives ….yes I'm a survivor of a narcissistic but the sequels and the damage is done…the sad part of this is even he is remarried he still thinks I am his possession …we have to be in contact because the custody of our child ….he sadly manipulate my daughter also a agghhh…the nightmare doesn't end for me ….he is very controlling and a pathological lier ….who never will forget I left him…he is doing all in his hands to punish me …he has financial resources and lawyers so it's battle custody …sometimes I just want to give up …its a real nightmare
Thank you for talking about this devastating issue…I have been with narcissistic men most of my life…starting with my father who is the most coldest man in the world ..living his abandon and never find in his eyes and hearth any kind of regrets …married really young with a narcissist man who abandon me with our 2 kids …re-married with other narcissistic who the label of his manipulation almost put me in a mental health place …scape home with my kids ..I had one with him…my older kids where very emotionally damaged as a result of this crazy manipulative man….and lately after long time without relationship I meet this french guy who is other master in manipulation and committed phobic/narcissistic …who was so intense in pursuing me to withdraw and be distant…he did not put me dawn with words or verbally compared me with other women but he look other women insistently all the time …after the pursuing face …he was cold and distant …..now I know I have been dating the same behavior in different in different men how I can do to broke this pattern? Thank you for your help !
Just curious how do you happen to know so much about the topic of a person who is Narcisstic and not just have narcissitic traits? Were you in a family with a Narc parent or in a relationship with one. Thanks for answering a personal question.
Since they talk about all of their exes all the time, I'd say yes. Here's something I noticed with my ex and her exes. She'd go through an idealization, devaluation, discard cycle even with exes that were no longer around. An ex she hated earlier in our relationship would become one of the loves of her life (she's had lots of those) later on.
Can a Narcissist give real love to a pet and receive it back? Today I realised that both my children love to have the cat on their lap, stroking, patting. whereas my ex wife could not display this. Can this be used a diagnostic tool? To put it different do narcisissts avoid pets.
Thanks sister ;)
Sam Vaknin has a video about how the narc sees life as a film; a film they are watching. It is their own life, but they view their life as a film. I have noticed this for years; they are disengaged. I highly recommend trying to view this video; it all helps in the narcissism survivor community; it offers some sort of diagnosis to why they treat you and others the way they do. The just don't "feel" it; they cannot. It is sad, and I understand that you are involved deeply with this narcissist, but you also have to remember that before you met the narc, you felt normal. There is nothing normal about this. In fact, if you offered them some popcorn and watched the movie of their life, they would be the first one to criticize the actions of the star. They cannot see the that see that the star is "them." It just does not connect.
One more thing; a trait of a narc, is that no matter what they do; no matter how much they may hurt other people, they expect total perfection from others; undying love and devotion; it does not matter that they have not earned it; they expect it. If you try to talk to them about why they are not receiving that undying love and devotion, you will get a blank look back. They honestly believe that they have gone out of their way for other people; that is the self-love of narcissism. Yeah, maybe 10 or 20 years ago you made a "phone call" or gave money to a person who really needed it, but they will always bring it up and use it and use it until the "love" is just gone; it was about receiving, not giving, or it would have never been mentioned again.
Another observation; another "hint" that you may be with someone who is not able to see clearly or make clear decisions, is that they will make impulsive decisions that will eventually destroy them in the end. They do not possess the clarity of mind to evaluate their decisions. That is where the "nagging" comes in; "what the heck are you doing?" They become angry if you criticize them in any way; but if you do not challenge their decision making, everyone pays in the end. Years pass; you are so paralyzed by the relationship, that it is hard to make decisions any longer. And don't ever think that they would ever let you leave; you are an "object", not a person who needed to be loved and nurtured. They have no clue what you are talking about. Even their children eventually disappear, which is what has happened in my case. They just gave up, and I don't blame them.
The part that is confusing in the beginning is that they state "they care." Actually, they don't care about anything, in reality, not even you. They live to get through the next few minutes, each and every minute is plotted to maintain their equilibrium. As years go by, and you are totally destroyed; sick, alone; manipulated to death; and everything is gone; welcome to life with a narc. Somebody should do a movie on this; it is prolific and getting worse daily. More narcs are being born and that means more suffering. Where has society gone wrong? I am an empath; my family is narcissist; what polarity! How does one survive this without losing the mind? And, if you do not have any money–good luck with that–you are stuck. God has helped me so much with the word, but I am not in Heaven yet. I pray I can survive this, and if I ever get the finances to get out I am doing that–after all, the narc won't remember me in 5 minutes. What cannot miss what one never bothered to get to know.
What I have experienced with a narc is that they are terribly irresponsible. They actually destroy their own lives because of their constant need to satisfy themselves devoid of the ramifications of being satiated immediately; their decisions have long-term consequences. The definition of a narc is multifold; it isn't just self love, it is self destruction, in the end, and those who are involved with the narc will ultimately be destroyed along with them. Please do identify the signs and avoid any person who displays them. If you do not avoid them, you will crash with them; it is the only outcome.
As a narcissist ages, people have probably all disappeared. They do become wise to the narc, and even though they most likely do not know the person they love is a narc, they see the behaviors, and it hurts them, just as it has hurt you. The narc is so completely unaware of their behavior. Narcs tend to live for the next five minutes of comfort, and it is very hard for them to reflect on anything; they do not possess that concentration, perspective, or self-realization. So, actually trying to have a discussion is impossible; they are blank, and lose interest quickly. This truly is a disease. And, it will spread and infect everything. I spoke to my husband's sister today; she told me he has always been this way, so it is not from trauma or experiences in life, it is who they are.
Thank you. This is really helpful. I'm "old supply". And I'm having a hard time since he got a new girlfriend/ fiancé.
So well explained, this will help a lot of people who need to understand the reality of dealing with this kind of person.