Toxic narcissists can be incredibly difficult to deal with on their own, but it only gets worse when they get other people involved to do their bidding for them. In this …
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Flying Monkeys: The Narcissist’s Secret Undercover Agents of Destruction
Wow, so many and still to some extent. Most I have had to just cut off.
Some flying monkeys like my sister actually voluntarily do the bidding for the narcissistic knowing full and well that the narcissist has an agenda to destroy you. Its the worst kind of flying monkeys. My sister is sick almost like she gets off on being a cunt to me saying things like I will never "have a baby (referring to my miscarriage) get a job etc because of the 'poor' choices I made" via text. idk how you can smile and nod to that but man I sometimes feel like I can never "fight" them back by being the bigger person because I feel defeated but also if I react I end up feeling like I stopped to her level. There are some people out there who are just so skilled at fucking with your head and make you feel stuck with what to do next, I think its the most sadistic thing to experience from them and they relish every second of your humiliation
my life is full of flying monkeys being used against me….it has just occurred to me that he sees females as things that are easy to lie to and manipulate….he learnt this from his father…who is one of the single most horrible people i have ever had the misfortune to have ever encountered or known in my life…..
during one of my many break ups with my ex narcissist, he had me tracked down, followed and they took pictures of me.
6:25 lmao oh man… yep I've really got a problem
I want to be a flying mumpy just so I can have something on my body break , as it often does and I can say … Oooo nOOOOOO my mumps my lovely lady mumps 🙁 yes i just wooke up lol but that was funny i couldnt even laugh my laugher stopped working but inside i was .. watched the 103 ways vids and felt sick but vindicated hearing it, soooo… right..on ughhhhh. Mumpys!
My flying monkey is my niece. She is young and naïve. I love her and adore her and my mother knows this. She calls me and send text for my mother asking me to do things that my mother want me to do and to suck me back in to the drama and abuse. My mother will never call me but will have her to do it. At first, I thought it was my niece wanting to have a relationship with but when I realized what was happening, I had to stop responding. It hurt but it was good for my own health.
I'm experiencing the dual narc flying monkey scenario involving my daughter. One is my ex and the other is at work!!!! I literally had a stroke (recovered) due to the stress. $$$$ and control
now the situation makes sense. my ex narc was manipulating my current ex, with lies and he became abusive. too many similarities in abuse situations. the real evil thing is not only was it a gang up, it was also a situation of one narc being manipulated by a better narc. the first narc's manipulations caused the second narc to act in such away it got him arrested twice. i tried to point this out and the second narc only got mad at me. i wasted 2 years of my life trying to prove myself to the second narc. he dumped me so i don't have to worry about him comming back. as much as everything hurts im narc free, the one gift the second narc ever gave me.
So good!
Flying monkeys is such an appropriate name for these people.
my adult daughter has been used as a flying monkey against me. before her dad,and I had broken up and gotten divorced she used to ask me why I put up with him, why I married him and why i stayed. he was verbally and emotionally abusive to me and the kids. and there were other more personal things that were going non between he and I that the kids didn't even know about . I tried to keep my kids out of our business. But he has told them lies about me and now I'm viewer as the horrible abusive one. My daughter verbally attacks me and acts like I'm an idiot and have no sense. We also have a 13 year old daughter who has epilepsy. I have always been a stay at home mom and taken care of my 4 kids and the house. All of a sudden I'm incompetent according to my ex and my kids, especially my oldest daughter.
I don't know what to do about the situation. I have taken up for myself and told her that I always took care of them before I'm more then capable now. But u see, my ex and I share custody 50/50. He three fits and threatened to drag kids through court. My youngest daughter , 13 at the time, he was even saying wanted to live solely with him. So I caved, for the sake of everyone. Well that was a mistake . now he has more time to brainwash them and alienate me. When he and I were discussing terms of the divorce, he would bring my oldest daughter with him and together they would jump on me and they became blame fests instead of getting anything accomplished. My oldest dsughter and I used to be close now I feel sick when she is around. I was their caretaker from the moment they were born. even breast fed them. AI had no idea that when I left my narc that I would have my kids attacking me. It has been almost more than I can bear.
Ahh yes! My ex has used her new partner, who I have known for years as her flying monkey. Her new partner contacted me trying to get me to stop disrespecting my ex, which apparently I have been doing by ignoring her and being smug. Spot on!
because she thought he was just "troubled", his mother made every excuse for his behavior.
Been one, trying to help. But having become the target after almost a decade of being nothing but good and helpful to this helpless poor girl who was abused and wants to be a better person and some confidence. I WAS SOO WRONG. It all changed once she clawed her way into my life ( after several failed attempts) She almost ruined my life and my daughters. She has been gas lighting me physically for over 5 years. When through all of my belongings. Sold what she couldn't keep and broke everything. Even just removing a part that's needed to operate something so you don't notice until you go to use it. Constantly, moving and hiding things that I need to prevent me from getting anything accomplished and cause me to come off as someone who can't remember my damn name. I was spent and things have not gotten better. Less frequent is all. But when she ran out of other ways to hurt me or get her high. She resorts to using my allergic reaction to a chemical to get to me. Puts me down for days
Great video, as usual! Informative too.