Grey Rock Technique. “Is my ex girlfreind a narcissist or a borderline? How do I get rid of her?”
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I find myself getting stuck in the diagnosis phase – maybe it's this, maybe it's that… But it really doesn't matter, if someone is targeting you for abuse then you're under attack. The person is toxic regardless of their diagnosis and motivations.
I'm a magnet for these types of people and once I started going no-contact to protect my boundaries I found out that the sun still rises and my life goes on, just without these people in it.
Yes totally agree. Define- yes! Heal- no! I delved into holistic therapies, nutrition, reiki, yoga, meditation. NHS falls short!
Wow auto correct never corrects…meant thanks for the videos in previous post
Grey rock tech….damn used that in my mid 20s when ex BF kept calling, leaving notes, came to my door numerous times never opened, one day I did ….stoned faced said absolutely nothing he went on and on …I never said a word or reacted finally calmly closed the door. Solved the prob he quit bothering me ….now I know what to call it but have always recommended this tech for breaking off or away from toxic people. Thanks for bidets cheers K8
your washing machine is on a spin cycle
IMO many in the mental health community would rather label a person no matter how stigmatizing it is because they are too care or do any better. Few will keep up on the research, but get angry shpuld you know more than they do.
Why do you care so much about going over your time?
you just playing into her birth trauma, and potentially your own , if you use this kind of language "get rid of her". Negative on Negative, is both truly believe they are bad. They haven't flicked the switch and gone through the ring of fire, refined and purely defined. Whenever you want "someone gone", just know that your really trying to parcel outward, something deep down & disagreeable in your self. Please, talk more about the cause of these conditions and try and rescue the true person in there distorted form you/we are so entertained by.
How you define variables in math is insignificant. How you define terms is insignificant–to the extent that meaning is consistent and coherent.
You're too cool. Let's pretend to get married.
I told my ex I thought he was a narcissist. I said he was a hollow shell, a fraud and not really human. I had reached my breaking point. It was the only time I ever saw fear in his eyes. I don't suggest anyone doing that, especially if the other person is prone to physical confrontations. I also cut him out emotionally as best I could. I stopped hanging out with him. I mentioned divorce. He eventually connected with an old girlfriend and started an affair. He moved in with her and we divorced not long after that. He left me a voicemail on my cell of them fighting a few months ago. I thought to myself, thank god it's not me anymore. The sad thing is I have to share custody of my very young children with him. I worry about his affect on them. I already know which one is the golden child and which is the scapegoat.
My experience, if you are able to raise your consciousness to the level of altruism (sincerely keep love and compassion in your eyes at all times) … its like it withers them… they look for pain, and you demonstrate unconditional love and they are like the witch in wizard of oz "melting…I'm melting, melting!"
my ex is a 38 year old histrionic, using her sexuality constantly, since being divorced three years ago has constantly dated guys and never been happy, she craves attention and uses her looks to get it, i never thought a woman that age would be so unhappy in her day to day life, the relationship was a lie and used me for her emotional/ego, i think she will find it hard to settle down.
How do you navigate around these toxic people when they are in the workplace? They are everywhere and there are only so many jobs you can leave. I am new to your channel and am working my way through your videos. If this is answered elsewhere please let me know. Thank you.
Hahaha Max!
Thank you bro, helped me a lot!
I just saw this mentioned on a Reddit thread about Narcissism.
I will be employing the Grey Rock technique as much as possible in the future.
I got rid of my 'narcissistic' bf by 'calling him on his crap' and he argued stupidly for awhile, but his behavior became very idiotic & made no sense….Also, accusatory too! Sick person. So glad I am not with him anymore…Entitlement is a clue!!! Am getting smarter as I listen to you as well…Will not be able to 'be fooled again'…as The Who sang year ago!
Thank you SLC. Now let me count the ways in which you are sexy.
you are helping so many people. So happy! ThankYou!
Attachment Disorder description was extremely informative .
I think anti social term makes perfect sense ppl just don't understand most things
you're so right about psychology letting us all down.
Is it possible for a narcissist to be bipolar 2 as well? How could these co existing personality disorders effect each other?
What's your email? :)
At seven minutes in that Venn diagram is a good way to explain co-morbidity to people who don't know about the concept.
There's no reasoning with an alien. They don't speak your language. Just stone them!
Spartan, I agree with you that many therapists can label people but don't know how to help. There are some people who can NOT be helped; largely because they do not WANT to be helped. People will argue till the cows come home for the right to stay in the victim state because it brings them attention. Not saying everyone does this but MANY do. I have tried to help people but the truth is, the best one to help another person is that person him or herself.
Thank you Richard. I worry that as a narcissist, I may be pointing the finger of a narcissist label on others to keep divert the attention away from the true abuser, myself. Is this possible and can I change my behavior? Is there any actual recovery for this disease?
I'm not sure how much of what your questioner wrote you didn't read on camera, but it seems like you have a lot of judgment about the girl he was dating based on very little information. It just takes me aback when I hear of one adult setting behavioral adjustment standards for another to which that person was expected to adapt…that smacks of narcissism to me, and you gave this guy a green light on it. I hope you know more from him than what you read? I agree with you entirely about his friend. Also, did I understand you to say a woman's sexual value starts to decrease at 29-30, and by 50, it should be completely off the table? That's not a very positive message to send given we can live to be 80-90 years old.
@spartanlifecoach
good day, so in watching this video, why won't the narcissist come back? I'm hoping she doesn't but in ways she does, again, people pleaser here. I'm guessing she has to make me be the bad guy right now, tells her husband, I charmed her, and pushed her, even though she lied to him about how long we had been together etc. if she ran from him, why is she trying to latch back on? is it because he's feeding her ego? She cheated on him, twice! why does he want her back?
LOL I love the way he talks about nerds!
This was a great video – somehow Spartan LifeCoach – is able to diffuse the nasty and cut straight through to the reality – in a very human manner – that leaves me w the comfort/feeling like "I just watched a football game w my buds!" (American – Go Notre Dame!)
Great gift to add the light humor and blend it with sound info on such a pain causing subject
Mercy – it is nice to witness normal. What a tragic time we have had.
Completely Correct – they "traditional subscribers" appear to be on a "paid long-term research project" and it appears – that the MSWs are doing tbe morw applied theraputic measures to assist healing.
Your videos are changing my life. Can you please make a video on how to deal with a narcissist who is the father of your daughter. I have filed protection orders against him to ensure the no contact as he would send 3rd party people in to help him and keep me in a place where I thought I was literally going insane. However I know that my daughter needs her father and one day she will learn all about him herself I can not justify keeping her away just to prevent the future. I need help dealing with him as I have no choice for the next 17 yrs my daughter Rayna will be 1 yr old in September. Please help!
Might you argue there's a ''double bind'' going on in the field of psychotherapy?
easy to get rid of a narc, simply address the narcisism lol
Thank you
04:18 So true
This is true for ex-boyfriends/husbands/mother and her "flying monkey's" as well. I find myself surrounded by them after 40 years of this abuse. Now, I'm going NO CONTACT with all of them! Yeah Me!
Spot on! Re labelling and abuse of terms, plus some therapists taking definition to be treatment.
Going no contact is a way to turn a normal person into a raging borderline look alike >:,(
You so funny! That voice. LOL
Richard, your videos just get better and better and better – you were BORN to do this mate! Thanks again!!
Hahahahhaa you are HA-Larious and Helpful simultaneously as usual……as always,TY!!!…TY as I am about to be exploring and utilizing THIS advice ASAP and AGAIN UHG!!!….I mean I've watched and re watched "Don't get Fooled Again" what gives!?!….HahahahaahA Whoops!!!…..TY TY!!!….
Any thoughts on guarding yourself from possible covert narcissist impulse & abuse trauma in a working with offenders context? In trying to reduce 'hurt to others' by bringing about behaviour change in a forced context how are you not just expressing covert narcissism? How do systems contribute to reinforcing a covert n outlook? People on probation have upset/hurt enough people and been caught out. If you used probation assessment tools on the whole populas with a green sustainability outlook as the measure of anti social behaviour we're all pretty narcissistic. Balancing sustainability with individual needs and ability to be sovereign, guarding against exploitation and abuse is going to be tricky.
Don't you think being judgmental is just creating a meta veil over what really is. I mean there is who we think we are or what others are and what we actually are. Just feel it is like trying to put a label or template over a caleidescope. Then in judging others were fixating a relation to them and judging ourselves. I don't know it just don't feel like the actual real formless. From watching a lot of Buddhism on YT personal judgment seems somewhat deluded. Not saying a group label for a set of given behaviors may not have its use in predictability sometimes to stay one step ahead of a player.
Is this channel for narcissistic supply? :p