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Narcissist in Court and Litigation
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I'll make this easy for everyone, as much as I can:
hold your own court in common law
Thank you so much! You have no idea or I should say you do! My ex wife tried to dis assemble my very being lucky I had enough sense to heed my own warning. Cause of you I understand now Before I was asking why! I will read your book.
mine would flip till he was blue in face lol i would not be allowed to say any of this
drugs aren't the answers
Sam vankin thank you you have helped me. I am tired of being blamed for choosing him he was a master of disguise. I didn't know people like that existed.
I need luck!
God bless you! Thank you for this video, it is very helpful.
Malignant self love is nothing short of brilliant, helped me understand husbands family with a clinical diagnosis of NPD.
brilliant .. omg.. this would so work for the narcissistic I know. wow
"Or" not it typo !!
I would have no clue it dish sans
Your work .
When , I serve "ice Cold"
As "Melville" wrote …..
"Revenge is a dish best served Cold" hmm in my case
"restorative justice" six years I
Gather ….for court…will be 7
When I serve "my dish" ice cold.
This is brilliant
Excellent! I know one such lawyer…perfectly fits in in this description and , yes, he is easily gets out of his comfort zone when criticized.
He loses his temper fast when negative comments made about him…now i know how i can drive him insane…hahahaa..
Judges and attorneys should have ongoing education focused on NPD and other personality disorders. It took me 6 years to finally convey to the courts how dangerous my ex-husband was — the amount of suffering that my daughters were subjected to during that time is unacceptable and disheartening.
Dr. Vaknin is world renowned. He is articulated and astute in his studies.
It seems because he is hitting the nose right on the head, and his studies are probably more advanced than American Psychologist that it's not acceptable to the American perception.
You need to remember, in January of this year the A. P. A. wanted "pedophilia " to be acknowledged as normal.
Expose them to their faces if you like, but don't expect them to look you in the eye again.You'd be more dead to them than you was before, if that's even possible.
Successfully Dealing With Narcissistic Witnesses
I don't endorse everything that Sam Vaknin says about narcissism, but he has a helpful video about how to deal with the narcissist witness. He suggests that these topics of questioning prove devastating for narcissists:
1. Statement of fact that seems to contradict witness's inflated view of self.
2. Exposure of fake achievements.
3. Belittling of talents and skills.
4. Hint of subordination to someone else.
5. Suggestion that witness is mediocre.
These will anger the witness, and this sort of anger never helps them with the jury.
Now all I need is to convince my attorney to watch this video. That will not be easy.
Dealing with a narcissist in your life is no easy task. Now, I'm not talking about someone who displays some of the traits, but rather one who has a problem with narcissism as a mental condition. Trying to convince one of your point of view is fruitless because not only does only their opinion matter to them, but they recognize no ones' freedom or Independence other than their own. Apply Narcissism to a parent, and you have a factor to which is even more frustrating as well as scary. The hardest part for me dealing with a Narcissistic Mother is that she plays her role in society so well, that people tend to only hear her side of the story most of the time. Nobody sees that she has a problem. She denies that she has any issues herself, and quickly discusses with others whats wrong with all her kids. Within minutes of meeting someone, she will find a reason to produce tears and get a hug from the person, thus putting that person on her side no matter what. I have a hard time believing how well she pulls this off every time. Any decision that I make on my own without her is wrong. Nothing I will do will ever please her. If what someone does really goes against her grain, she will attempt to "punish" their actions by either ruing their rep, or resort in finding ways to turn the legal system on them, with moderate success at times. My actual mistakes will be rubbed in and exaggerated by her to the point of making me look and feel like a horrible person. Bringing up anything she does is also frustrating because she denies everything and turns the negative back on me. There are many people within my family who only see me through her tinted and warped lenses. She makes me out to be either a horrible person on the verge of emotional collapse, or a very 'special' guy who is gullible and cant think for himself. I once had this stuff drummed into my head by her so much, that I believed her myself for a long time. Now, I've shown some narcissistic traits within myself as well in the past, but whether due to having it myself, or merely displaying some of the traits due to my mother's influence, I can identify those within myself and have much better control and focus over my own urges. I must move beyond these growth limiting ways. I've recently ended communication with a narcissistic guy who was very overbearing and bullying to my friends and I. This took much study to be sure we could oust him from our circle properly. After the success of this, I revisited the frustrations with my mother. I think the best solution so far is for me to cut ties with her. She will never change, it seems, and I can't allow such negativity to effect my decision making. Family, friends, I hope you don't hold this choice against me and that you take what my mom says about me with a grain of salt. There is motive behind everything that woman says and does. As for me, I'm done with tolerating narcissism, within others as well as myself.
here here!
I have had to deal with a narcissist in court since 2011, my sister. Narcissists will take an oath swearing to tell the truth in front of God, the judge and everyone then proceed with the most blatant lies imaginable in order to have what they want or feel entitled to have.
I would like for you to do a video on the Narcissist and Parental Alienation or Parental Alienation Syndrome. I enjoy your videos and would like to get your perspective on this topic.
So grateful for all of your understandings. I was at one time young and abused and walked right into this trap. I did not know that anyone would understand my situation and life dealings so well. A million times thanks to you!
But if you succeed in breaking up a narcissist you should also shield yourself, depending on the potential of rage or violence within the narcissist. As the narcissist might want to restore his self-image he might want to seek revenge on those who destroyed it. Only those with strong narcissistic tendendies really do it, but you never know.
Thanks so much for this information I feel so much more prepared facing court against my X now…
But doesn't this also put the victim's character into question? I just can't bring myself to act this way anymore. I tried it a few times and it destroyed me even more. He takes advantage of my good character.
It prolly also draws the views of the narcissists as well because they can't resist listening when someone is talking about them. LOL
Notice the HUGE gap between views and likes.
The NARCISSIST in COURT !
they are superhuman in their endeavours in concocting stories and make belief !
How can you BREAK a NARCISSIST !
(Any belittling of the narcissist….any suggestion of dependance or showing them as being used, owned, dependant on a thrid party or calling them, boring, weak, deficient, slow, naieve, manipulated or saying they are mediocre.
THE NARCISSIST WILL REACT !)
No wonder they change their fleeting interests including work, spouses, homes, etc !
The NARCISSIST believes SHE is THE GREATEST, MOST INTELLIGENT< MOST ACCOMPLISHED, BEST PROFESSIONAL etc. !
Thank you for your posts. Your information is priceless and I am very grateful.
he had help from a narc girl who is cheating with
i had to deal with one in court a month or so ago, the law was blinded by lies and decided to go on the narc's side
my life as well has been a lifetime movie of the week nightmare.kidnapping my son, false accusations, sabotage false incarceration,etc. finally on 4/17/13 his mask has slipped. failed U.A in court. now hes back to accusing me of things hes done…this took 6 long years.. as a pro se litigant ive gotten farther in 2 months than 3 attys and 25000.00$ if we had not had children i would have moved to the fl keys 6 yrs ago!!! do the best you can with what youve got to work with
Brilliant series on NPD! Thank you for sharing your knowledge, experience and wisdom. You have made a difference in my life, Sam.
Good to know.
I've seen the disabled insult people when denied accommodations for their disability. Without the special accommodations, they would end up being excluded in some important way. Most time accommodations is not so huge. It could be as simple has a stool to sit on, or a sign language interpreter.
Trying to convince myself to. It feels like cutting off a limb in a way. A mangled gangreen limb that is. Its gonna hurt, and its gonna take time to heal, but I will be healthier in the long run.
good advice for lawyers. You should post this onto the Legal 500 website
obviously lots of people viewing this means lots of people thankfully freeing themselves from narcs…
You are amazing. You are doing such such good things for those of us who have nowhere to look for answers.
Sam, I like the little spark in your eye at the end of this video. I'm going to take that spark to my world.
Wow did you give some great advice that will work on a grandiose pastor and other pseudo obnoxious control freaks who make up fake stuff, and whose kids would tell the truth about their dad. You are so right that they have a "hiss y fit" if you question their obvious lack of ability, or deceitful misuse of their position, or of God's word.
Thanks for the ammo. This will be fun!
You'd do well to anticipate the narc's actions and find a way to let them happen in the worst way possible so that they are self-incriminating and so that you have nothing to be guilty of. Use their words against them. Quote them verbatim within a different context, especially just after they have said it. This takes the ownership out of their words and to them is extremely demeaning and will prompt reaction. Remain as neutral as possible throughout your cross exam
Watch the narcissist immediately squirm within the cognitive dissonance you have presented and thus inflicted. It will not be long until they figure out a way to stonewall you. In a court of law or in a setting that is conducive to friendly interactions and leaves little choice up to the narcissist or has them stuck within an obligation or legal agreement, this is the perfect trap. Just expect them to do something passive aggressive or just straight up aggressive when the venue has changed.
In dealing with my father and other narcissists, one might do well to understand the philosophy of the martial art of Aikido: how to use the attacker's energy against them. It literally means 'way of the circle'. Basically, you ingratiate the person and flatter them, get them to go the way of their most grandiose form of assessment, then you state a fact in direct contradiction to the emotion or information of the story. You pull a 180 and leave them out there on that limb.
Very helpful.