One of the most common traits of the Narcissist & Sociopath is saying one thing yet doing another — essentially, the words they say very rarely ever align with …
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Narcissist / Sociopath Trait: What They Say & What They Do Often Do Not Match!
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about the 90 year old woman story why would you how could you possibly care about someone you don't even know that guy is a moron
what about if someone's reactions are more severe then the original action
They promise the world, but deliver nothing.
I remember spending… no wasting hours trying to explain why the things he did was wrong and hurtful..He would listen but of course he never stopped the hurt
Having a problem..trying TO read my OWN comments and phone will Not allow me to do so?
i wonder what's true? what they say or what they do? as for example I truly love my grandma. I truly do. Seriously. But sometimes when she does something caring for me to show me how much she loves me I can be just nasty person to her. Like for example she came from Germany to Monaco just to make me feel not so lonely when I was in the hospital and my mom was out for her vacation with her friends. Then my grandma started bringing me her homemade food to the hospital as in her opinion I needed to eat more, she spent hours with me in the hospital and so on and then I simply got tired and my reaction was " why you even came here? I didn't ask you to come." I know how badly it hurt her. I saw it in her eyes. I don't know why I do stuff like this and it makes people think that I don't love them. But i truly love them. I truly do. Seriously.
during my seven month relationship with an N i only realized afterwards i was always influenced by her words, texts, selfies, and fooled by the whole thing, her actions were minimal.. or only for her own gain.. my actions were always trying to prove my commitment and how much i cared for her, and not really expecting too much in return.. i did notice some sociopath tendencies, mostly when she was driving, complete disregard for safe driving. i have a whats-app log from day one, i had to go through it and understand how things changed from how it was to how it ended, its like a big case study, interesting elements, and do believe the last month is full of gas lighting comments, i didn't see it coming, convinced thing were fine, and even told after questioning her, it ended like id never existed, gone, finished, no explanation, only for the fact id confronted her over some strange behavior… she found it as the perfect opportunity to run..if it had turned into an argument it would have only been the first!
Once again would love to comment then I remember …watching
OMG!!!!!, this is totally my ex!!! NOW, I know what was going on with him..So true, brow beating you until you see the lie their way, them thinking you accept it…so glad I am free of him. And if I meet a man that shows any of the same issues as my ex…all they see is the bottom of my shoes,,
I was in a relationship like this
wow I did not realize how uneducated I am I just went to a narcissistic relationship with a young lady and it just ruined my life and I watch three films and have a nice education I had no idea where I was that totally blindsided thank you ever so much opening my eyes to what a narcissistic person is and a little bit of codependency and terms like gas lighting thank you very grateful Kevin
he's words and actions never added up, in all areas of he's life. found out to late. when I confronted him he totally would twist, lie and spin it onto me. I ended up getting the blame for everything, also he was so good I actually started to believe it was me. he was a parasite as well. do these psychopaths know what they are doing? or is it an illness where they are not aware of what they do to people. he did this to me while I was looking after my terminally ill mum. can someone be that cruel? I'm so angry. found he was going on porn daily. while I was looking after he's kids. Craig list etc. I don't even know who this person is that ive been seeing for the last nine months. really want to contact he's ex to ask questions.. not sure if that's a good idea? just feel in a mess. we broke up 3 weeks ago. he showed nothing and disregarded me like a piece of rubbish.
Its like you climbed into my mind. Amazing how these people exist, but we dont have to be victims. Were armed with the knowledge
An example of 'Gaslighting' my narcissistic psychopath gf used to use..
"Your kind, but your NOT thoughtful."
"Your thoughtful but your NOT spontaneous."
The cognitive dissonance! The vast chasm between words and actions took my breath away. Unlike anything else I have ever experienced. Thank you for highlighting this very specific aspect, one that doesn't receive as much focus as some of the other signs and symptoms…and yet the one that stood out to me the most. You also articulated exactly why I started to feel immoral for staying…I chose option 2…constant confronting with the truth and arguing. And the only other option was to be complicit in a lie.
Everybody is an Asshole, get over it.
I couldn't understand how my narc ex could possibly believe that the windmills created too much wind, something she swore by and repeated often. I knew she was a little off but had no idea how bad it was and the windmills were the type of the gaslight iceberg.
You're so right.. I always WANTED to be believe I was wrong when he would mind f@ck me BC then I could do something to fix it!!! I wanted to believe he was the good person he originally made me think he was for the sake of our 3 children. Family is everything to me and of course in the beginning he had all the same morals and values I did!! I was his "soulmate" he would always say "we are the same person" … No dude.. you're a scum bag who never cared about his family at all! His entire existence is dedicated to finding or securing whatever desperate whore will give his sorry ass attention. Good riddance loser
Dont expect anything from anyone and youll be less disappointed in life. You absolutely cannot expect another person to do anything based on your own personal and practiced values.
My father has told me all of my life that he loves me. Hwever, every action contradicts. This man can't accept my disabilities: epilepsy,visual impairment and a learning disability. I'm not every handicapped person. I have always had ambition, morality and a sense of self. I love to being self-sufficient as I can. I'm surrounded by lazy abled-bodies. My father yelled at me when I misunderstood homework in the 80's, so I stopped asking for help. He knew I was trying, then he acts as if nothing happened like a man into domestic violence. The honeymoon stage. All my life it's "I love you",but he has no sense of self. My mother and he let my sister steal from 1977-89. She, like my father was making fun of my congenital disabilities out of the blue. He never encouraged me to to anything, takes no interests in my stuff. I never needed encouragement. This man will lie saying my sister has a job, net never acknowledged my winning a Stacy Lattisaw cassette, in 1990, for answering Billie Holiday question. I have a voracity for history and various music; I have Glenn MiIller and Nelly on my ipod. Now, via Facebook everyone knows my talents and the abuse inflicted upon me by family, classmates and teachers. My father has always taken credits for things he's done and always vague. I don't know where my mother or he grew up. The two have made fools of themselves since Hound Dog. I'm 47.
wow this is true!!!been through this it is horribleeeeee!!!!