The narcissistic compulsive giver would seem as altruistic but he’s compensating lacking intelligence or looks with money. The compulsive giver gives always …
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The Narcissist as a Compulsive Giver
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I discovered this by trying to gift back….It seems to be an insult to them. Turns out it wasn't the gift but the fact i gave one… really sparks the mind on how this is perceived by them.
This guy really makes you think about things…. thabk you.
omg. again. this is infact my mother !!! i started to become extremely apprehensive only a few years ago because i noticed a "pattern" of her supposed selfless giving, her "insistance of giving" which, if accepted ( especially if i was extremely vulnerable, sick, trauma etc) if indeed i accepted, there would ALWAYS be a price to pay "emotionally" down the line. ALWAYS reminders, negative gossip etc about me to others and alot of negative gossip especially to my siblings) all i believe as her deviant plan to convince others of what a piec of garbage i was when in fact, i NEVER asked for any of her help as an adult after being constantly thrown out of the house since approx age of 15 years old, i spent alot of my adolescence living with my best friend and her lovely family (thank god) therefore, as an adult…i always was kind of suspicious of ANY sort of help she offered. especially if she was pushy about it. gladly, a few years ago when i was at my worst, i gave her "one last chance" to keep good on her so called loving help and it ended sadly just as it did many many times prior. this was my lesson. a lesson to ALWAYS TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS even if it is a parent.
If compulsive behavior involves compulsive giving to one's 'inferiors'…well…that sounds like philanthropy. Giving because it doesn't hurt that much to give…and the narcissistic supply is increased! Always keep the checkbook handy?
narcs give gifts to set you up and use it against you later.
He is narcissist himself, and the foremost authority on the subject.
So friggin true
Can you do more videos on the stingy N? I've been trying to figure out why "my" N, who has tens of thousands in the bank, believes he is impoverished and obsesses over every penny spent. What's all that about?
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The simple truth is that we all have negative narcissistic traits, but that in the course of relationships that are dysfunctional the other persons negative traits can become magnified. Whether this magnification actually occurs in the other person (as a result of projective manipulations?) or whether this magnification is purely in perception is an on going discussion. Perhaps the truth is that it is a combination of learned ego defensive styles, projective manipulation and distorted perception
But, you know, he has done more for more people than anyone I know. Those of us stuck with blaming, hating people can now breathe free — we have learned that we are not to blame, all of the problems of the universe are not caused by us. Having found his and other videos and articles, my life is changed.
I think this dude is way off. And why is he so obessed with narcissism anyway?
This sounds like my dad.
You never dated one. Consider speaking only about that which you know for certain.
"Forgive them, Father, they know not what they do"
I don't think this is accurate. I've met two and gotten to know them fairly well. They were obsessed with impressing people, but did it in the cheapest way possible. Like buying a $10 bike at the goodwill to give to a neighbor kid, so people would think he was wonderful. The other one would hoard all his money and spend it on cosmetic treatments, haircuts and clothing for himself…
so it seems ….
im always saying,im not doing it for u,im doing it for me
is it possible to be so un honest to yourself ?? in that level ? thats crazy
Did you know that it is inhuman to refer to another human as inhuman?
People with narcissisitic patterns of behaving have, both a conscience and empathy, some times so much so that they have to form ways of blocking it in the form of emotional defences because of the pain it causes. It is pain that creates the narcissistic pattern, pain and the defence of that pain result in narcissistic expressions. It is just one, of a number of so called disorders, that are derived from ego defense patterns.
Absolutely. Some personality disorders are inherently contradictory, but quite a few overlap in terms of symptoms. Also, as is the case with NPD, sufferers of other personality disorders may also experience rapid shifts in moods, similar to those in Bipolar disorder, but much more frequent and less severe. This shift may contribute to multiple possible diagnoses of various personality disorders which normally may seem contradictory. To answer your question, YES. It is absolutely possible.
hahahahah. you are the best
he has 9 out of the 9 NPD traits. he was in a narcissism documentary
If he walks on cracks in the pavement, he's a narcissist.
If he blows his nose in public, he's a narcissist.
Sam Vaknin should not be taken seriously. "The Narcissist" is a myth. It's a distorted magnification of negative human traits and nothing more.
The Narcissist; one overcoat that fits all.
i swear all his talks are about my mother 🙂
Excellent, excellent vids tho
LoL
after watching these vids i feel awful for the hurt i cause my gf, which wasnt physical btw and im going to hug and apologize to her right now, but the disorder in me made the mutual agreement that this relationship is mostly based on mutual needs and without me she'll get along fine, in very saddened that im almost certain that i have this disorder.
@logotrix, Sam is a self-disclosed narcissist.
It is completely natural (normal) to expect acknowledgment and appreciation for good things one has done. Our society is based on string (more or less) attached favors therefore according to Sam Vaknin we are all pathological narcissists. Ridiculous.
LOLL
Why do I always meet the cheap narcissists?
Money is EVERYTHING to my ex. Part of that is family history, mother obsessed with the holocaust and growing up in the depression before marrying an attorney who made them wealthy. He would do anything to protect his inheritance including pandering to his completely evil and castrating mother. (literally…long story) Never allowed to grieve his father's death at a young age, he uses his victimhood to have mum pay for everything including catching a partner and then bankrupts the partner. Sick.
This is so on the money its scary. He has really got this disorder pegged.
Here is a good video on two classic narcissists watch?v=dKRQskaPsFQ amazing disorder–thanks for posting
@barbarabell2011 He would. He's a narcissist.
@acquisces that is exactly my experince, they give as a cover up of what they are doing in secret, and yes incase they are caught they can lie and accuse,and then they also will devalue you and show that they are the givers and not the ugly destroyers they truly are, They use the appearance of goodness to harm people that love them, they are the definition of evil in many respects, i read a description of evil in bible,It was all the traits of the NPD I have known,they come as Angels of light,
Oh my…."he rejects any attempt to rob him of his sacrificial status" That's it, that's exactly it. This is the person I've been dealing with to a T. This video explains it all.
my brother is like this, he's always offering me stuff and gets really offended if I refuse or he will use the fact later to try to get whatever he wants from whoever. He freaked out one time when I wouldn't do what he wanted he took the thing back like a child tantrum. I had to shun him, he just has no clue how abusive and off putting he is or he just cant help it.
i think a very important point is that the psychopath gives to manipulate the public… so if in private he uses and abuses, beats and steals, nobody on the outside would will believe it… everybody will think: no, he couldn't do that, he is so kind and generous… he actually gives as a form of insurance to have a whole village supporting him when his pathological abuse gets exposed…
Just experienced this type. They give, with strings attached, so I deceide to disconnect them, forever, I have no time for these type of individuals in my life. Thanks for your videos, you have much wisdom.