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Warning Signs Of Narcissism
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It was a relief for me to hear you say that these traits are, in small amounts, a normal part of being human. I am one of those narcissistic millennials, and, with all the talk about narcissism lately, I had become afraid that I was deeply flawed somehow. However, I'm learning the value of shifting from pride in my identity to pride in my work. I got a little banged up, by failure and disappointment in myself, when I started actually DOING things instead of trying to work out what I AM, as a thing separate from the rest of the world. But I've begun to learn that the value I can offer doesn't really come from ME. There are resources–mentors, tools, the mind and body I've been given–and I have choice whether to make good use of them. If I use them wisely, maybe I could become excellent at something. It's like, the excellence is already there, existing independent of me, and I am simply stepping into it. I get the privilege of taking part in the wonders that I admire.
With all due respect, Gods word says it is (vain) the person is vain who has those traits, because of their delusion of grandeur they prefer to believe about themselves, they are constantly feeding their delusion by (clever craftiness) believing themselves superior to others because of their ability to deceive, with each betrayal and deception they pull off, they pride themselves and believe they are more intelligent than the person who is betrayed by them. It is a vicious cycle with the person who only delights in the delusion they like to convince themselves of. It is sad for them but if you get caught up in there cycle they are priding themselves at having you fooled by their cleverness in their insincerity about you. Run! Remove yourself from that person who shows no true remorse for their anti social mean spirited hatefulness toward you when they reward you evil for your kindness, it doesn't make sense to you because it is non sense they want to convince you of.
thank you for this contribution. I lived with a spouse like this for 27 years and was codependent. In the end I took a lesson from others: I stood up (focused on myself). His response 1) physical abuse and 2) he ran away from the family
I have a narcissistic mother and it has been very difficult to say the least. She constantly blabbers on about how her sisters have wronged her and how people hate her. She's always the victim. I'm the real victim there. She's really damaged my social. I can say without a doubt all of my problems in life are her fault. She ruined me. Now, I'll have a menial, low paying job thanks to her abuse. It's too much with her. College is hard enough without her getting in my way. I just want to leave.
What happens if alcoholism combines with narcissistic tendencies as in the case of my difficult colleague whom I would like to fire? I fear the repercussions.
What happens if alcoholism combines with narcissistic tendencies as in the case of my difficult colleague whom I would like to fire? I fear the repercussions.
I have narcissistic mother. I am very blessed to have 11 siblings who can all she her as she is. Most of us are codependent or have have some problem. I would just like to say it is getting and it will get better. Half of my siblings have moved out and now finding love in friend and other family's. She is still as bad as she was and it was terrible because we were homeschooled and had no friends. Just remember when you leave don't EVER I ME IT turn back.
One question. Can she be helped?
Thank u for your video
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According to authors of "The Narcissism Epidemic", narcissism has been on the upswing since the late 70's and early 80's. Many of the children who grew up during this time are now self-absorbed, narcissistic adults who are in their 30's and 40's.. It is interesting that this same group of adults are the ones who are now heavily invested in judging, blaming and ostracizing their parents. In many instances, they demonize the parents and cut off all contact with them. And, it is done with complete self-centered indifference to how their actions affect others. That, however, is typical behavior of a narcissist. Because narcissism has ballooned in the last thirty to forty years, I would like to see the subject of adult narcissistic children addressed.
I've only met one narc my entire life and I would really rather never meet one again. Are there any signs you can list that will actually help a person avoid ever allowing one in your life again, or do you have to become a victim before you realize it?
For some reason, I can't "reply" to anyone on this channel (?). I wanted to reply to Cathie Romero: Showing compassion to a Narc is like showing compassion to a poisonous snake. You are gonna get bitten sooner or later. Mark my words.
Narcissists get worse with age, at least the one's I've seen as well as numerous stories I've read. I've never heard of any getting better with age and those that do are probably not full blown Narcs.
Add Stockholm Syndrome to the list above (Narcissistic spouses can and do cause Stockholm Syndrome in their enabling/co-dependant spouse). I've witnessed it first hand.
i should of known that the person i was talking to was a narcissist. cuz after she played me i literally thought it was all my fault. that i did everything wrong. i started to hate myself for it.
Where is the list?
Very funny horns!
Ive been going to the London Narc group its quite good
I think my new coworker is a narc and i totally ignore him only because he makes me uncomfortable. I never talk to him except for hi & bye even though he constantly tries to talk with me.
Then i looked at some of the narc videos and found out im doing the right thing, not trying to, by avoiding contact with him.
thanks a lot
Yes, extremely damaging. Insidious and soul destroying. Thanks you
Hello. I want to ask the following: If my mother is a narcissist (at least I suspect so), what help could I search for? I see my mother does not want to change.
This is a good video. I can testify to the emotional damage a narcissist (or similar) can do to a person, especially over the long term.
Whether it's friendships or family relationships, the best thing to do, if you can, is to be on your own. Your gut instinct or 'inner voice' that has always been there, warning us, will grow louder and become clearer.
Being an empathetic person, it makes it more difficult. I really believe in gut instinct. It's there for a reason.
What narcissist ever thought they were a narc and wanted help? Never going to happen. Narcs are just too perfect for all that!
I was in relationship with a woman, a corporate executive who was the primary bread winner in the house. She has two kids from a former guy who is most definitely a narc. The toxicity the kids came home with after a weekend at Dads was aggressive and violent. As step dad I tried to hold boundaries and administer love as I know it, but I was constantly demeaned by Dad. Well the old saying " Blood is thicker than water" came to mind when dad decided to confront me at a school function, rip some papers out of my hand and storm off. When I asked my wife to stand up to him and let him know that's not ok, she refused. That was the beginning of the end of the relationship. I was far from perfect as Step Dad, and I have my own bag of childhood karma to grind through, but I am identifying narc tendencies in myself, and am also seeing that my wife was dealing with the residue of her ex. Now I have been discarded. I was totally codependent upon a codependent victim of Narcissistic Dad. The tentacles reach beyond the immediate family…Sad AndAlone
Can someone whom you work for a narcissists. If so how do identify those symptoms?
As Sam Vaknin points out in his interview, "10 Warning Signs You Are Dating a Narcissist: Sam Vaknin Interview" narcissists are a double-edge sword. They tend to do well in career and such, but in relationships? Well, some do well. He also deals with what you get when you elect a narcissist to high public office. That is where it gets scary because there are a lot of them you see on TV every day, making laws and such.
thank you, great insight here….I dated a narcissist, he made my life very unsettled…I felt like I was doing something wrong constantly. I finally realized it is not me it's him. And I pulled the eject button…I am thankful I got out to this very day.
very dangerous, very serious damage for people around, very true
I was unlucky enough to marry someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and after many years of emotional abuse and varying intensity of brief episodes of physical abuse, I decided to end the marriage. Here he is on a rant after finding out I could not afford to pay a $90.00 vet bill, after I had already given him my extra money. A week later, I moved out. This was a common, everyday occurrence, and I am happy to say I am on my path to healing and thankful that I found out the evil that is NPD and saved myself and my daughter. I would just like to say that I recognize the whiny nature of my voice. It is embarrassing to listen to how weak I had become. It is something I am working on and continue to work on. This was a very dark time in my life. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jAMkGDiqnsE
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Narcissism as a personality disorder is currently untreatable. Though symptoms will improve as the person gets older. Medication may help for some of the symptoms such as depression and anxiety. There is evidence to support Borderline Personality Disorder being treatable via DBT. (useful information here, http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Personality-disorder/Pages/Definition.aspx and also here http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/personality-disorders/what-is-personality-disorder/#.VLK8JcZq3GI )
People can and do have narcissistic traits which are not a personality disorder and that is treatable. I treat people for that, and also for borderline traits, codependency etc. Many active addicts for example are narcissistic in their relational patterns.
Personality disorders however are by definition resistant to change. This is the definition of PD from DSM 5:
"An enduring pattern of inner experience and behavior the deviates markedly from the expectations of the individual's culture. This pattern is manifested in two (or more) of the following areas:
1. Cognition (i.e., ways of perceiving and interpreting self, other people and events)
2. Affectivity (i.e., the range, intensity, liability, and appropriateness of emotional response)
3. Interpersonal functioning
4. Impulse control
B. The enduring pattern is inflexible and pervasive across a broad range of personal and social situations.
C. The enduring pattern leads to clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning.
D. The pattern is stable and of long duration, and its onset can be traced back at least to adolescence or early adulthood.
E. The enduring pattern is not better accounted for as a manifestation or consequence of another mental disorder.
F. The enduring pattern is not due to the direct physiological effects of a substance (e.g., a drug abuse, a medication) or a general medical condition (e.g., head trauma)."
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Did he seriously say that if you are in a relationship with someone with narcissistic personality disorder that you should 'get out'? I mean aren't you a psychotherapist? Don't you realise that this is a DISORDER, i.e. something they have no control over and have genetical predisposition. Thats akin to saying something like 'if your partner has depression then you should really get out now to avoid having to deal with their symptoms'! I honestly can't believe any mental health professional would say something like that. How about try to help them cope with their issues and shortcomings? How about how to support both them and yourself since you obviously care for them because you are in a relationship with them… I'd love a reply from you Noel with your opinion of this point that i've raised…
There's nothing wrong with narcissism. It's just one of many life perspectives. I'm sure most kings and rulers were narcissistic. I'm sure they led comfortable lives. So this raises the question that our society has no tolerance for these bold eccentric types, food for thought. Individual vs. Current societal moralities.
A red flag is someone who constantly puts themself in the role of victim when telling stories, especially of their past relationships, jobs, etc….it's always someone elses's fault, and "poor-poor-me." This is also the mindset of many a criminal.
Best advice . Don't be friends with a narcissist . If someone insults you and doesn't appreciate your friendship cut them off . Nobody deserves to be mistreated by selfish people who always want attention . I see narcissist for the real pathetic people they are . They are leeches.
Thank you for putting this out there. This is such a nightmare.
yep,my sister! and a bit of my husband's know all! controlling and self-centered all the time!and yes, damaged!