In this video, I talk about how being rejected by the narcissistic abuser is a blessing. You are no longer a “suitable” victim and no longer entrapped in their mind …
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Why Rejection by the Narcissist is a Blessing
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This tutorial applied to me in the friend manner (I suffered the discard part by narc parents)so in relationships at the point of devalue (idealise, devalue, discard) I'm quite slick at dropping, but with friends because I want to believe the best in them I stick around till the discard stage, I also let them back because I want to believe they will be different /changed, I knew before watching this tutorial it wasn't a realistic expectation, but friends are so important (someone said to me once -a partner is like flowers it brings beauty into your life, but quickly dies -a friend is like a house plant, it needs careful attention but lasts so much longer), but a narcissist friend wasn't the friend you made friends with -I understand that now X xx
Excellent, well put. Was married for over 20 years. Pretty much no contact (even before I knew of this concept) over the years except for when we needed to discuss kids. He married within a year after divorce, does seem very happy with her and she seems to be able to provide his supply,also materially. I only see them at my kids' weddings or graduations, as I don't want anything to do with them barely acknowledge them it's just too painful.
I enjoyed this video as well…thanks for recommending me to watch this one it helps give me a better understanding why no matter how many times I kept going back it was never meant for him to be in my life. Now I been no contact for only a month and it has been the hardest thing to do but with your inspiring videos it definitely helps…
the use of they.so. many refer to men only there are women also .nice use of intelligence.. thanks.
You're an angel.. thank you so much.. I found you by accident then realized there is no such thing…. thank you for giving me hope with dealing with my mom……by dealing with myself…….. I realize I can't change her so I must change "me" so it doesn't hurt anymore… it sure is hard to change though but you make it seem easier.. thank you again…….
Thank you for this. I'm recovering from a toxic work environment and narcissistic boss. My main question right now is how to forgive myself for having been so blind for so long. I can't believe I fell for this act.
So glad i found this video!!! Trauma Bonds…wow
Thank you… This brought clarity to mE… I left a narcissist whom I thought I shared a bond and was rejected when I decided to make the first move of leaving the person… I thought the "friendship" could still be salvaged… But the narc flat out said that its my fault and all and that once I leave everything will change to the point of the friendship will be severed… At first I am hurt but then again if the friendship means being bossed around I'd rather not…. I am healing now and moving away from the narc.
GREAT TITLE and Content.
Thank you so much for sharing this. Just got out of narcissistic situation with a narcissistic leader in my religious and spiritual place of worship. I've instituted "no contact," and it's difficult because I had many people I truly cared about at that place of worship, elderly women I'd visit and friends. It hurts badly, especially because I came to that spiritual place to heal from other trauma. I was open and honest about my wounds in that space and only got wounded further by a wolf in sheeps clothing. I have to maintain "no contact" for my own safety–your videos have really helped. Thank you. *Please remember that Narcopaths–Narcissists/Sociopaths aren't limited to just being partners, spouses or friends–sometimes they can be clergy, or your boss, or someone you work with who is equally evil and no good.
Thank you so much for this video. It really helps hearing the words fleshed out. I'm moving on myself, even though each day is a struggle after the insanity of experiencing this first hand. Only a truly deranged person does this to another human being. For me the idealization phase lasted for a whopping three and a half years, after which the NPDs true colors/devaluation/discard/total lack of empathy emerged in only a couple of months. To see someone "change" from person A you thought you loved and shared your life with to person B, who's a total stranger to you before your eyes is nothing short of traumatic and life-altering. Respect and strength to all you warriors out there fighting the good fight!
what do u make of a narc family member that continues to harass me online…I block all their accounts and now three years later she has made videos about me and says she disowned me…yet she continues to harass me via online. it doesn't make any sense…don't know what to do
These videos always make me feel so much better.
what about when u have kids with the Narc? u can't NC
#NoContact the ONLY way out. The improvement is immediate!
And after the grieving process the point that they are not the person they made themselves out to be really sinks in. I found that video reminding one of observe but don't absorb helpful.
My partner rejected me last week, blocked me on FB, and moved back to Brazil. I was devastated, but this video totally helped me. Bless you!
I know that for me to break no contact would be foolish ,You are Right, No Contact,is helping in the Healing process …Thankyou
Thanks
i'm new to your channel but i love how you talk about narsissist because all of my friends and people say that my ex is a narssist and i still don't understand but i'm definately going to watch a lot of your videos because i love how you're explaining things
amen to that !
Does this apply to Dating? For example…. whenever i give this girl my full attention.. shell only sees me as a friend and wants nothing more… however… when i decide to remove her from my life… shell contact me and do anything to gain my attention again… yet i realized that being in the middle got me places with her… not too much contact and not ignoring her entirely neither… is this considered narcissistic? and if yes who is narcisstic there?? both? me ? her ? no one?
I think we have ESP again – I watched this today and a few more !
Omg!! I really wish I'd seen this video when it was posted but I had know idea what she was actually doing too me so I would not of understood these horrors of people but six months no contact getting better every day and I sure know what was happening too me now! Thank you for your videos and help xxx
Hello can a Narcissits have a family that are all Narcissits. Such as 8 brothers and sisters and the parents mom and dad especially apparent in the mother and two sisters and two bothers and the narc himself.
I don't know if the Narcissists is connected to Satan or what it's more a mental psychotic manifestation in them. Because to enjoy hurting others is really a sign of being demented.I never in my life knew anything about a Narcissits. I didn't even know what it meant.Only until the day my husband suddenly just out of the blue told me that he would go his way and I should go my way. I should have listened to my intuition during my relationship there were at of signs he would degrade me in bed talk about how I wasn't tight like a younger woman . He would drop subtle hints but I would just ignore things and tried to love him more. Well when he broke up with me I had just been out of the country to see him .I bought a refridgerator, a washer and helped him with a project building a barn . My wedding ring was in the pawn shop for 60.00$ bucks. The receipt was in his name and a few days before he broke up with me he told me he had paid the interest on my wedding ring. I had two piglets and he sold them too. I GUESS IT WAS TO IMPRESS HIS NEW SUPPLY BY FLASHING A FEW BUCKS. AND TAKING HER AND HER CHILD OUT TO EAT. WELL I HAVE NEVER BEEN HURT SO BAD IN ALL MY LIFE IT WAS THE WORST THING THAT COULD HAVE HAPPENED. I DON'T WISH THIS PAIN ON NO ONE JUST ON HIM. HE BROKE UP WITH ME LIKE I WAS NOTHING LIKE HE DIDN'T KNOW ME LIKE ALL THE THINGS WE SHARED AND FOR HIM TO TURN ON ME WAS SAD AND UNBELIEVABLE. I KNOW I WILL NEVER BE THE SAME MY SADNESS IS IN MY SOUL. BECAUSE HE WAS MY EVERYTHING AND I WAS HIS NOTHING.
you must be a genius you look no more than 17yrs old and no all this wow. let me ask you this what if the Narcissist is your mother,and u live with her.
It's a natural human compulsion to reach out to the narc, to see if they missed you or just care about you. Short answer no they don't. Any self serving feelings the narc had for you evaporated the second they started devaluing you. Now you are separated you are actually the enemy.
He humiliated me in front of my family by leaving me, and they do NOT like him right now.
Thank you so much for your research and insight on narcissism. After a whole childhood i now have a word and a community of people out their who apparently know well my personal struggle with this type of abuse. I am excited to watch more of ur videos and learn how to handle this relationship into my future. I thought there was no hope.
Couldn't some narcissists remain in the relationship so that they can keep abusing the victim because they don't think they could find another victim that is such a perfect victim (ie so easy to get other people to gang up on them, not able to expose them, no close family in the same country, no support network, foreign in a racist country etc.)?
I dont understand how these Narcissits learn how to play all these mind games . Some of them havent even gone to school. To be so nasty and to just lie and cheat and then act like you didnt do nothing is so creepy and beyond me.All I did was Love this Narc. and he turned on me overnite. I was married to him .And I never got no respect.
wonderfully said
You have a lot of valuable information for people in this abusive situation. Thank you for sharing and compassion!
Very very good thank you
after more than two years of breaking up with him…after a year if zero contact with…after being in therapy for years , I broke no contact. I called him I ,met him, and went diving deep into that addictive negative whilrpool….but now after 2 months of it I tell myself not to beat myself up for contacting him again…it was a relapse . that's what it was.i shudnt feel angry guilty stupid. …a relapse was a relapse…n I forgive myself for having one. Thank you for this beautiful message. …there allways someone out there who needs this message <3 thank you
Thank you!
You are a beautiful person..to help others understand what they have been through. I have experienced and now know I met a Narc. 7 years and 2 kids..It does depend on your own journey..so so true. For me it was trying to understand that this was really the man I fell inlove with. Now I know I fell inlove with an illusion. 3 months after he leaves..he has another supply.