t this point the narcissist will often include the children in order to quell his unmanageable internal anxiety, and this is how it is done. The narcissist can cause a …
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How the Narcissist turns your children against you. So subtle and devious.
Narcissistic grandmothers will also turn your child (ren) against you, and the covert ones will do it very sneakily so that you don't have a clue what is happening until it's too late! BEWARE
I feel for you.
sounds frightenly familiar. My ex referenced many times about her childhood claing some kind od deviant behavior on the part of her grandfather. The sibs deny the allegaions, ut what is new with narcs…SOMEBODY IS LIEING. She had differences with the family, some more than others. I wouldn;t know where the psycho thoughts start or end. My kids were taught to back talk me all the time,,,but'nobody talks to her that way. When she did the final axeblow to the marriage, the arrogant and delusional grandiose and self appointed false prophet ultimatum''My kids aren't going to have a childhood like had..No clue to this day WTF she ever was talking about…. nor the references to that I was like her father. NO resemblace in personity whatsover..But since hav'ne had any contact with the kids for years by her effective hitler brainwash methods..the lie cheat steal tactics appear to be alive and well. After reading many of Hitlers quotes, it;s scary to know I may have been married to one of his relatives. The real truth will never be known,,,or believed if it was
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This was an interesting perspective. Thank you for sharing it! My ex still plays this role. Interesting that they see the other parent (us) as the abuser from their childhood…Wow. this answers some crazy questions about WHY these Narcs do the things they do.
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Mother's Day Without Mother, A Holiday of Loss
According to social science research, many parents that
psychologically abuse their children have a – Borderline
or narcissistic personality disorder … did you know that ?
For hundreds of thousands of mothers May 10th will pass
like so many of their other days without their children. It
can happen if a child is programmed to hate by a favored
parent seeking sole custody, and frequently during a time
of separation and divorce. Weaponizing a child to hate or
reject a parent for unjustified reasons is called – Parental
Alienation. The most severe stage of this alienation now
has a diagnostic term – Parental Alienation Syndrome or
PAS. The American Psychiatric Association, uses a DSM-
5 V-code diagnosis to correlate to this condition. The cod-
ified diagnosis is Child Psychological Abuse.
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There are polarizing opinions between mental health and
legal professionals about the validity of PAS, but nobody
disputes alienating behaviour is a form of child abuse; in
fact many examples of alienating behaviours are discuss-
ed in court orders in Final Judgments for divorce and in a
number of divorce education programs.
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Unfortunately, child protective service ( CPS ) workers do
not yet have the training to identify parental alienation or,
Child Psychological Abuse ( 995.51 (T7 4.32XA) so what
happens in these cases is decided in family law courts and
many mothers are losing custody because their cases have
not been effectively litigated by lawyers and mental health
professionals who are unqualified in the services that they
provide to their clients. One of the major reasons for this
is a lack of continuing education in the form of workshops
and conferences offering CLE's for lawyers and CEU's for
mental health professionals.
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Mother's Day will be a memorial of loss for so many moth-
ers struggling to protect their children from child abusing
dads, fathers using a form of mind control to seize physical
custody, but it is important to state, that an equal or slightly
larger percentage of fathers, are also suffering the loss of a
paternal relationship for the same reason. Perhaps it is even
more painful for mothers to admit their loss because moms
are thought of as the traditional caregivers and to lose such
a relationship leads many to wrongly conclude it must have
been for a good reason. Sadly, so many suffer in silence, so
on this day I encourage them to speak out and “ come out “
there is nothing to be ashamed of when you are a parent that
has been targeted with hate.
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An organization that has worked tirelessly to bring attention
to parental alienation is the PAAO, and although April 25th
is Parental Alienation Awareness Day, I think that Mother's
Day and Father's Day should both be dates dedicated to a
mass public outpouring of support for alienated children and
for their parents and extended family members.
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“ You may say that I'm a dreamer, but I'm not the only one. “
John Lennon
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For all the mother's that have lost a relationship or now feel
the struggle to hold onto their relationships with their child-
ren, try to remember that no matter whoever may be around
you unconvinced or doubting you as a mother, it's really not
your fault. Parental Alienation is the invention of a personal-
ity disordered individual and what comes around -also goes
around. I know from social science research and from all the
work I do as a consultant in these cases and in education that
even the most hopelessly lost relationships can or, will come
back … if you don't give up hope.
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My Mother's Day message to targeted moms is a reminder
that you may not be with your child today but you're still a
great mother and don't you forget it.
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SHARE THIS LINK
and refer a mother or a father that needs help with Parental
Alienation to:
http://www.parentalalienation.ca
The way to help anyone see the truth is to question them. People have a tendency to not want to be told the truth. But they can be lead there if they have been told something by someone else and then you question them on it. Do not question what they believe, the more you do that, the more they hold onto the belief. You question using what you know about a subject that they also know which is in opposition to what they have been told. That way they see it for themselves as it can be demonstrated by their own observation.
Girl, If I have this right::
1. YOU ARE GETTING DIVORCED FROM A NARC.
2 Your whole family are Narcs.
3. Most of your friends are Narcs
You have woken up to this clear light of day truth. Welcome to the world of reality- which spells SURVIVAL in the long run for you and your kids. It happened to myself in my mid 30's but I never got the truth out for many more decades..
It takes mind bending strength, but clear light of day honesty above all and I think you have both!
It is just another game that has to be won at all costs. Narcissist = control freak. Winning the kids over, controlling their outlook on life, and making the kids reject their other parent makes them them feel like a supreme winner. They win, everybody else loses, so what. Twisted.