You can test toxic people by self-praising. If the other person looks uncomfortable, struggling to ‘look’ happy for you, and the only words that come out of their …
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HOW TO OUT A NARCISSIST – – TEST THEM!
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Thank You…I Really Needed to Hear This Information. You've touched on something's I haven't found in any other video..
OK but in lovebombing phase they might praise you as well you know
Your enthusiasm is infectious. Thanks!
They also do it if you've got an interesting or odd story to share!
So right!!!
I really like your videos.. Also, I think you are very pretty.
if my boyfriend is mad at me our discussions usually occur with me standing out side the bedroom door and im locked out. he will tell me how i made him feel (alot of times im confused cuz what i said isn't obviously hurtful) i have said " wow, i feel like that too." and befor i can say anything else he tells me im "flipping". my intent is to recognize the feeling itself then try to imagine how it feels in relation to what i said, like try to figure out how what i said could be preceived to cause him to feel that way. but before i can validate he accuses me of "flipping" then i get frustrated and just defend myself. to say immediately "im sorry i made you sad, i understand how you feel." just feels fake to me, especially when i have not processed the emotion of sad, how it feels, and how i could have possibly made someone sad with an innocent comment. any suggestions?am i "flipping"?
this is on point. another thing they do is constantly remind you of your past failures that you've shared with them, and put behind you a long time ago. they remind you of it in a "positive" way, and it seems to always happen when you're happy about something new.
the only problem with doing this is that they might "fake" happiness for you because they might be pulling you in just to chew you up and spit you out at their preferred time. This method only works half of the time. There are some narcs who are so conniving that they can catch on to this and deter your "narc detector"….. some narcs are such professionals at being hateful that they only show their hate at certain times only controlled by them.
Totally my mother. Thing is she can be the total opposite too…and praise me!
Hello they are always playing there game …. Learn the red flags like you are doing …. Ones you spot a Narcissus…. When they throw there little seed of conflict on you …… ((Reminder theses creatures are not in the Webster definition of what is human ,they have no compassion for other living things ))they are expecting for you to ether get mad or hurt …. After there seed of conflict is thrown at me ….. I'll have there 100% attention ….my answer back will be Out of the blue ….. I would say something like ….. Have you ever eat a pickle sandwich watching a raccoon wiggle his fat ass up a tree …… The Narcissis or psychopath wants to hurt you …. It wants to win not you ….. In its twisted mind you are no fun game over ..it May come back to test you again….. Be ready to make your self happy again
Try getting them to read apiece of your poetry.
I can tell Sacha really enjoys her hobby! I sure enjoy mine! The tactic of self-praise would be appropriate, but only to determine for yourself whether the person you're interacting with is afflicted with a toxic personality.
You are so pretty
yeahh ive met a lot of toxic people in my life…One of them kept asking about my boyfriends car, plate number, height, and details…I winded her up and told lies to annoy her…She even asked whats the size of your bf penis which i got annoyed bec its a private issue…So i annoyed and told and demonstrated to her by hand that its size 10 which made her more jealous…So when she left the staff room feeling jealous i kept on laughing…my stomach was aching laughing ha ha ha….
I once told a narcissist that I had a wild dream. They responded that you are sooo negative. LOL I didn't even tell them what the dream was about.
Ha, ha. How true. I got an article published in a Oxford Uni Press A level textbook a few years ago. When I showed it to my C-NARC, he just left it on the table unread, which sparked a row between us. The only time he has every been praiseworthy of any of my achievements is if he knows or believes he has had a major input into it -'I made you what you are' style. Now I play games with him. At Xmas when I saw him I asked him if he had received my birthday card a few months before. He said 'yes, I did.' I smiled to myself them because I sent him jack all. Meanwhile, I was opening his Xmas gift and card when I said it, which I felt was thoroughly deserved considering he could 'bore for England' with his pretentious, conceited, bigotry. I only have anything to do with him now because he is good in a crisis. Otherwise, I would have ditched him a long time ago – permanently. Now I just stick him in a social cupboard and bring him out and blow the dust of him when it suits my convenience. Payback for all the lies, deceit and fake friendship he gave me when I actually believed his warmth, concern and caring was true when all he was doing was keeping me away from more worthy friends at a time I was at my most vulnerable (NARC parents, but that's another story).
oh this is so true, i recall offering to my sister a beautiful shawl that I knit out of very expensive alpacca, she made some weird ass remark about how she wouldnt wear it. Such a bitch all the time, I never could figure it out and blamed myself for years. Thats what I get angry about, years stolen.
This is too funny, I love your videos.My ex use to put down my intelligence, any way he could. It was so bad I started college so that he would be proud of me. Ya, this was prior to 4 years of therapy. Anyway, I scored 395 my first semester. My ex nearly crapped his pants and was speechless. Three months later, we divorced. He went on to find another young women without an education and low and behold, she out shined him as well!
For years, I wanted to leave my Ph.D. bcz of lack of funding and a bunch of political reasons in that lab. My narc encouraged me, humiliated me in fact to stay. He told me I didn't know how Ph.D.'s go and I didn't want to work hard enough for it. In the long run, for a myriad of reasons, that Ph.D. didn't work out – mainly for the funding reasons, but also because my adviser didn't get tenure and he was a nut case afterwards and I saw that clearly and wanted to get out THEN… but there were reasons that perhaps were my fault as well – whatever it was, within ONE year, I wanted out – and my Narc Husband encouraged me to stay for another 3 years. In the end, all I had was NADA because that was all I was ever going to have in that lab plus coping with a narc. It was the same conversation every weekend – I want to leave, there's no money, I cannot communicate with the adviser, It's not going well, all I do is the same thing over and over and I cannot get what I need (I now know that was IMPOSSIBLE for reasons too complicated to get into), etc etc.
I should have just listened to my gut within the first year and made the move irrespective of what the Narc thought, instead I was told I didn't know – he has a Ph.D. and that's how Ph.D'.s go. Yeah well, I talked to his Ph.D. advisor who reviled him and said that my husband only flirted with girls, did nothing in the lab but disrupt and manipulated everyone else to do his work and write his thesis. THAT'S HOW HE GOT HIS Ph.D. Silly me, I didn't think to use and manipulate my lab mates. I thought I was supposed to do it on my own. 3 – 4 years of my life, wasted right there, because I didn't KNOW how to get a Ph.D. properly… hmmmmm……. NO, because I listened to my narc who lied and portrayed himself as the great oz and all knowing, when in fact, he only knew how to manipulate to get a Ph.D., not actually do the research to get one. Fact not fiction.
brilliant ….self researched I escaped :)
Very good video(s). You have a really sweet heart, and I can imagine that a lot of narcs tried to glom onto your in your life because of that.
Thanks–Will try the self praise. Like your furry coat–did you make that too?
If you are too kind to a narcist then maybe you are a masochist. Learn about yourself and start to love and appreciate yourself more!
Or: they bring you down and praise others.
Sounds like my ex husband..,I am so happy I kicked him to the curb. I am happier than I have been in years.
I think I will try this out. There is somebody I work with who thinks I'm too cocky all because I said "I could've ran a one man show, but I'm glad [other coworker] was there to help me," on a day it was moderately busy. She completely ignored the second part of my sentence and complained to my boss that I was being arrogant. Thanks to your video, I think I just might try showing her my YouTube viewcount and see how she responds!
Whenever I self praise around my narc mom, she always needs to out do me or claim she's done it too, and goes on talking about herself. OR asks me further details so she can say oh no, you should have done…. blah blah blah
Yes…agree…can't handle self praise and think what is wrong with you if you can't get along with others. Yes..they can't be happy for you and may say you don't need a need to be met etc.
you are so true
I just want to say one thing here: Thank you for providing an actual example with the pillows. It instantly helps to grasp the concept more profoundly. There are many other youtubers on the topic who are very clever and offer valuable advice but annoyingly fail to (or are afraid to…?) reveal any trace of an example. You just made them run for their money. :D
Love this! Ever since I married him, I haven't had one original thought. Every idea I have he says, "I was just thinking about that…five minutes ago."
geez I'm trying to get rid of one now. pure narcissist….help!
This is a good tactic on a lot of levels. It revels if the person appreciates you and your feelings and if they are happy to share in your joy. And with toxic draining self centred people how they cannot stand other people being happy. Still, a covert narc may still get past this one if they have you as their target, they have an agenda just for you.
I sent an e-mail to you, in case you could answer it <3, I will appreciate it…
I was raised in a sarcastic cess pool. As a child, even successes were minimized and disqualified. I find my negative self talk creeping back in, in the margins…It turns out, I align myself with people who do the exact thing Sacha is describing here…What I learned "Love" was…