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How to Stop Loving the Narcissist & Love Yourself (C Theory)
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Thank you!!!!!Jimmy
I wanted to say thank you for your videos. Two years ago I ended a long term relationship. We were together for 20 years. Once I realized that my boyfriend was a 'narcissist' and that narcissism is in fact a "psychotic disorder". Everything became clear. I had to end the relationship for good. I relocated and cut off all communication. It also became clear that my mother is and has always been a narcissist. What you said about giving your love away and getting nothing in return hurts me because I know it's true. My mother and my ex got so much love from me and I am left with the hole.
The circle is a very good analogy, in my opinion. This enables us to think long and hard before we decide, once again, to throw ourselves under the bus because we think we "need" relationships with emotional parasites, whether we were born into such families, in a friendship or in a romantic partner. Always look for the red flags and go with your gut feelings!
thank you!!! so much..
Thank you for all you do!! I can so relate to everything you say and I am very grateful for your words of wisdom. Thank you so much! I have just begun my healing journey and this video is completely true for me. Yes, I never received the love and nurture that I needed and yes, I do long for someone who is just like my childhood…she represents it all…not just my parents, but the whole dynamic in my household. It's too weird and I find myself wanting almost the abuse that she gives and begging for it on some level. This is the most painful experience I've had. Never met anyone who represented my pain to this degree. So I am trying to close that circle, but it will take years. In the meantime, I hope to be able to move on without this person.
thank you
thank you so very much
Wow, this video's and everyone's comments are so helpful. Thanks for your labour of love Jenna! ♥
So clever
selfloveyou it's nice to know that some people do care & try's to help out people with this life struggles
I just love you Jenna. Your insights and this brilliant C analogy, OMG, just great. I thought I knew from reading so many books and articles about this that I knew a thing or two about the why of toxic shame. But I always learn so much more watching your vids, and they ring far more true that the books, because you learned this stuff the real way, head on dealing with it from birth. While I'm so sorry you had the experiences you did in your life, your courage and hutzpa is a shining light. As is your determination to heal. What you are sharing with others is just priceless, as are you. I once said to a friend, it feels like I pour out ten tons of empathy, and get half a crumb back….no matter where I am or what I do in life. I just give myself away until I fall down exhausted, and the toxic foo has me under one of those life-long smears where they tell others I'm selfish like they are. Darn projection city. Your mean step dad can shove that okra right up his arse. Good for you and your positive loving journey. Thank you for this labor of love that you are doing, and that we are privileged to go with you on. <3
Your C example was extremely helpful to understand why do we tend to give away everything for free…
Thank you so much Jena!
Omg…I resonate so much with you, Jenna!! You're perfect! Thank you so much for sharing! !! Much love to you!
That was special Jenna, thank you. It felt like you knew me!
2 videos in 24 hours what a treat!
Love listening and learning and thank you for sharing.
Hello Jenna, I know that you have a mostly female audience, but I appreciate what you say and offer very much.
It's a long and difficult path to our true self. Listening to empowered people like you gives me confidence and validation.
Thank you.
Your genius in that C & circle illustration! thank you.
Love you Jenna. I appreciate your videos so much. I'm right there with you on this journey to turn that C into a complete circle. Peace! xoxo
Thank you
As I listen over & over to all your vlogs the core truth is made strikingly apparent. The roots of accepting appalling behavior. A complacency of repetitivness. I can remember being in "shock" & unable to think let alone respond to a surprise attack N rage. Appropriatley numbed up for then more immeadiate mind fucking. It doesnt even matter to the aggressor if your cognitively in tune. As long as the N can spew their toxin. It's all about mental masturbation to them and ofcourse that only takes a source of inspiration but only one to complete to mental orgasism. We were just a dumpster to unload their build up of toxin. What total clarity no contact brings. I totally believe any healing of Narcissism must be through a person who lived it. All of your vlogs are the right blend of personal experience, realization, deep thinking & a resolve for a plan of action. I love all in the N community but Jenna, you reach people in ways unlike any other. I feel humbled by the worse mental atrocities that many have had to experience. You've identified it, give ambitious course of action & a challenge to all who are ready to dump the toxicity. There's really no thinking required on our part, if it's too painful. just follow your directions. One full circle in progress that will also include genuine others but no mind fuckers allowed. Your "labor of love" is good ! Very good.
I think this video is GOOD TOO! Thanks for the encouragement/ pep talk as i start this day in a not so great mood. Today i plan to be mindful enough to "catch" the negative self talk and, using your circle method, turn it around to self love. Been feeling "people don't like me". Changing it to " I love who i am. I know God does so why shouldnt i". Thanks and hope you have a great day- you deserve it.
Tell the assholes to eat their own mother fucking okra!
…your "tattoo" is so nice! too bad it isn't permanent though! i am so proud of you for overcoming a horrific childhood. thank you for sharing your healing gifts with us….you are definitely one of my YT role models! much love xo
tattoos are ugly cookie cutter type of stuff. you still hot thou
Great video. It's so hard to integrate yourself when much of the pain is coming from experiences in your subconscious from when you were so young. … It's difficult to connect with the original abusive experiences when they were so long ago.! And it is especially hard to recover them when you are still in the throws of a relationship with a Narcissist; and or have an elderly parent that is a Narcissist. !.. Maybe more ideas on how to connect with and retrieve the toxic shame that is so far hidden in your subconsious to uncover it and heal??? idk? Also more about this circle you were talking about. It sounds very interesting. !
Thank you Jenna! This was exactly what I needed right now.
much love for you from brazil. you are an angel
Fabulous! Looks like you had a good vacation. This was really awesome as are all of your videos' I get so much from them, thank you!!!!! This has been a very difficult month of realizing I am capable of my dreams without the family that has only pretended to be my family. Finding out they are a threat to my very existence and literally leaving them completely, not returning calls etc ….has been extremely painful….because deep in my inner child I kept thinking….just hang on a little longer….the love will come. but it never does , it never did. and it won't. I left my mothers house last summer knowing. …I would never come back. Its like experiencing the death of my family…the loneliness is beyond….and Im trying to be brave..this has been …scary..Im a positive, industrious soul…..but my shine has been dulled lately……so I am doing what you say, bringing it back around to myself….bringing it back around. Ok Ok Ok…..I am getting it….thank you. Thank you! I am also scared Ive been wanting to do this for a year but haven't been brave…Im going to start my own channel. Omg. I did it twice then deleted it. Also a childhood fear of speaking my truth and having that be enough.
Your videos seem to come at just the right time. Thank you again for sharing:))
Thank u!!!