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Question for all of you watching this video or who have watched it in the past: WHat is it that you especially liked about the video that you'd like to see included in future videos. Which topics can I expound on and explore more? Comments appreciated and welcomed!
Alma, I can't take it anymore either. it's so ridiculous that I have to laugh at myself. EVERYTHING they say about narcissistic behavior is true with my man. Hang in there. You will laugh one day too.
not true that narcis like sex alott my husband realizing l loved sex with him soo much. that he withheld for 5 monthes l thought he must have some one else .but no he just didn't have a need for it like a normal person that exercises sex with there partner to buid that bond ..to feel connected..he didn't understand that part.l tried to explain it an we went to therapy for a while where he admitted to the therapist that he had mentally abused me for years..it hit like a ton of bricks why would he do that .to me ?? .he discoverd severe abuse on his grandmothers part she hated him an told him she put a curse on him when l die she said i'm takeing you with me so she basically helped form him into a selfish person afraid of loveing after 9 tuff years he is finally recovering .an treating me as a equal not as a competitor..or inferior ..thought he would never get better l had given up an so to speak wanted to go to higher ground felt l was drownding in his self absorbed problems..he surprised me …
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Your list of possible reasons for having sex omits the very real possibility that you might enjoy it. Is this a red light?
delusion dispeller, do you feel you are an expert in what narcissists want in bed? its pretty clear to me, having had a relationship with a narc, and i am a bit of a narc myself so being rejected was a bit of an injury to me to and very effective in making me feel and intense bummer… its clear that sexual attraction is in the eye and mind of the beholder. narcs like to feel that they are in a GRAND AFFAIR and being able to turn it on sexually is important to them, its important to all humans and all humans have some narcissistic traits… we all do have an aspect that knows how things look, and its hard to make ourselves feel sexy if we just are not and neither is our partner….. truthfully, id prefer to chase a hot narc who likes sex, than try to have not very compelling sex with a regular guy who had let his body go an doesnt take pride in how attractive he is. i have to tell you, if i were a lesbian, i would not be attracted to you. you are not fit and you are into your own mind and opinions without being very conscious of your own sex appeal, which i think is non existant. instead of bitching about some narcs that didnt find you attractive, and then selling the idea of how bad narcs are for wanting to avoid sex with unsexy ppl, youd be better served by hitting the gym, taking up some strenuos sport, and making yourself feel healthier and hotter. then maybe you would have the energy and drive to DUMP THE FUCKTARD MAN WHO IS NOT APPRECIATING YOU AND GO FIND A BETTER MAN. if you can stop blaming the narc and face up to your own flubber… and we all did that instead of looking to the guy to make you feel sexy when objectively you are NOT, we would all be better off. its not up to men to pretend that we are sexy… they can only pretend so far and thats true for us too. we dont have to look like a fashion plate or be skinny to be sexy, but obesity is not sexy, full stop. voluptuous is great, but you dont even look like you could run for the bus without having a heart attack and i know, cos ive been fat too. and i didnt find myself sexy, and i didint act sexy because i felt sweaty and heavy and without energy. and i expected the guy to do all the work in bed. and i will tell you soemthing else for free… narcs do work hard to avail themselves of sexy ppl and sexy adventures. they wont apologice for it and not recognising that, and accepting that that is valid for them, is the biggest problem we women have…. they made us feel sexy for a time and pretended to love us. accept that we play a role in that, and they can shine a light onto aspects of ourselves that we have forgotten or never realized in the first place. if we want to MOVE ON FROM THE PAIN we have to find a way to fulfil our own needs, and to fill our own holes, so to speak. personally i think id be better served, now two years down the track from my own horrible narc experience, to try to be more narc like in how i focus on myself and getting my own needs met. and not on pulling the wool over my own eyes, no one is going to come along and FIX things so i feel sexy if ive not been taking care of myself, and making sure im READY or at least trying to be, for whats coming next.
The narcissist I used to date would tell me things like he loved to talk and spend time with me. While that was going on a voice in the back of my mind kept saying: 'His words are fake'. I should have listened… Now I'm working on getting over this once and for all. It's been 3 years of being on and off with each other. I can't take it anymore.
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What about a narcissicist that witholds sex- says he is celibate and won't change for anything, knowing his girlfriend is asking him to work on it for her, that its important for her to feel that intimacy. I think he is a narcissicist.
I'm so confused. My Narc only had sex w me a few times, then he couldn't perform and avoided it ever since. We married and he wouldn't even consummate it… Married for 5 years… I lost my femininity and self esteem…but I loved him… He acted like he loved me in every other way … He wasn't interested in my life, though …. We went to a sex Councelor and she told me privately that he masturbates ALOT!!! Doesn't use porn though… Weird … Anyone else have this awful experience? I feel like I'm the only one…. DD, do you have any insights to share that can help me heal? We split up 4 years ago and he is now with a new fiancé and is happy as a lark … I'm embarrassed to say I want him back and think about it every day… Please help if you can… I'm wasting my life over these obsessive thoughts…
Shortly after we connected, my ex the narc told me that she had cheated on her ex husband. She proceeded to tell me all the rotten things he did that "drove" her away. ( she cheated, and it was his fault)
So one month after she discards me to spend as much time with the kids as she can, I find out that she is in relationship (Sexting) with some guy. Used, abused, dried up spiritually, discarded. My life has to start over now, I have visited her and her kids. I kind of feel bad for the kids, but I cant fix anything there. We had fun vacations and good times but the damage had been done when she discarded me. I can forgive, but I cant forget
They are NOT in love with you!
I know this is off topic, but Narcissists don't like to see their SOthers having a good time chatting with their friends or anyone else so they'll come barging in to rage at you, accusing you for forgetting about them or you "flirting" with the guys. They are SO irrational and will hold a horrible grudge against you for doing so.
This Narc I was with certainly had such awkward movements that it was so boring, very little communication, and no endearments. It was a total turn OFF for me and a waste of time so I decided I didn't want to see HIM again.
They are incubus and succubus. The somatic narcs at least.
HI Delusion Dispeller, could you put links to the next 2 videos in your video description?
Good video so far and glad to hear you're doing well. Sounds like a good topic. I never ahd sex with a narcissist and don't intend to as I hear they can be quite "stalkerish" if it's good to them. I was tempted to meet a narc women a month or two ago as she wanted to meet me so bad (she lives on the westcoast) but I never made it out there. She knew I had plans on coming not necessarily to meet HER though. But she texted me anyway figuring I was out there. LOL. But since she told me she was bisexual (which is a no no to me) and she said she turn down a man who wasn't "big enough" in size (penis) I figured she wasn't worth my time besides her doing all the other narcissistic thing before hand.
Glad to hear you're doing well. Good series by the way… something everyone should be aware of.
Cyrano De' Bergerac was the guy with the large nose who helped his friend woo a girl. Is that the one you meant? or possibly Don Juan who had many many lovers? I'm not sure if either of them was real but both are pretty well known.
So happy to hear that you're ok! I'm impressed. This shows how much you 'walk the walk.' God bless.