Your narcissist parents never loved you.
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Your narcissist parents never loved you
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Thank you <3
Also, did not have bandaids, nothing. Poor Poor Golden Child. Did the dirty work, then be punished for it.
I want to spue hurtful painful words. I don't like this vid. GD was taught to put my fingers in the door frame of a 1953 Studebaker. I was three y/o. fucking tore my fingers up. Bloody, narc would scream and run away " you know I can't stand the site of blood "
Then brother who was taught to hurt me, had to try and fix the fucking blood. Just a little note…toilet paper does not work. Good god if he didn't do it right. Some fucked up narc.
You are "dead on" James… thank you so much!
James, thank you for all of your videos. This is exaxtly what i went thru as a child and now i know why i cant get a man that doesnt quit his job or doesn't beat me. It's embarrassing because I try so hard to be the best person that I can be. I never understood why I'm not worth working for or worth kindness or worth love. My mother is a narcisstic psychopath who let her father sexually abuse me and then smear campaigned me to everyone and turned them against me when I finally told at 16. She said we could inherit the apartment complexes. I was so hurt and shocked and never wanted anything from him. It's ruined my life and my sex life. I'm beyond shy to the point it cripples me. I have spent a decade in therapy and never learned about this. You have helped me more in less than an hour that a decade in therapy. Thank you.
I have soo much I would like to say to you Mr. James about how you've been an instrumental, epyphanal eye-opener for myself but I'ld rather not write out five pages worth of comment to you. I think you know too well that victims like us and soo many in your comments-threads on all your vids are people who've ended up overly keen on the body language of others. I think your some kind of genius for keeping your vids in this format of lego-style characters and such. Because watching an actual person speak on PD abuse, a lot of us can end up reading too much into a persons face. Your a genius and I for one am a better person today because of your empathic thinking and exactly the way you choose to articulate your wording. Can't thank you enough, your'e at the top of my list along with Sam Vaknin and Ross Rosenburg and Teal Swan and others that've helped me understand myself like never before and I only came across your extremely helpful information by Oct 2015, just passed 38 yrs old. I simply combined your info on narcissism with my memories of my mother's body language and realized she had always been lacking true emotion or rather no empathy for her conscious thinking to connect with! Only cold, purely consciously thought-out empathy if ever from time to time mostly towards her cats! That's where the addition of Sam Vaknin's crucial perspective comes into play for me.
This is my resonation station, thank you James. Stand strong beautiful soul.
Thank you! Incredible insights. Extremely helpful.
Thank you. I experienced this my whole life.
Also if you seek therapy to heal from narcissistic abuse it is extremely important to vet therapists. They absolutely must understand what narcissistic personality disorder is, as well as family scapegoating/golden child dynamic. Trying to convince a therapist that your Mom doesn't love you when they're saying 'oh I'm sure that isn't true!', is pretty draining!
Thank you
Thank you for this, this has been exactly my story, and now I have a narcissistic daughter who learned from extended family to treat me in abusive ways. Everything you said in this story has happened to me.
I think it goes beyond them (the narcissistic parent(s)) not loving us. I think they also hate us.
I have come to accept that my narc mother never loved me. The problem I am still grappling with is how much she actively hated me. Intellectually I can see so many of the things she did to undermine me both to myself and to others, how hard she worked to sabotage me (and how hard I am now working to overcome her influence). But, emotionally and at that 'deeper' level, I still have a great deal of denial about the fact that mother really, truly, actively hated me. :(
My father would make fun of my congenital disabilities, claiming to love me and driving me place to hopefully forge a career in order to get a pat on the back. I never made a degree and haven't worked since '07; I had a lot of seizures at work due to stress. He wants other to perceive him as a good father. He and my mother never had friends; their siblings who are an hour aways haven't been here much the last 30 years. I'm glad to have known at age 9 that this was wrong and stupid. For 12 years my parents allowed my sister to shoplift and steal at the house. I gave up on them in 1984. My sister is dump trouble having mistaken some welfare guy for rich and nothing to call her own other than gtroublel
At least when they die, these "mothers" will go straight to hell.
That was great!! I needed to hear that. I hope my mother will pay for what she did someday. In the meantime I am healing..
Thanks James from a victim of 50 years :(
Our parents would make us out to look like these INGRATE
CHILDREN who don't care about their parents-who neglect
their parents since we're sO "westernized", while they them-
selves are out to look like these frail immigrant parents who
work SO hard for us and care about us SO much! …Peace…
I blamed it on ignorance but after listening to this I'm wondering if I'm just in denial…. OMG it hurts so bad!
My mother hated me. My Dad told me she didn't want me. I used to wish he would leave her and take me with him. Never happened….
Beware this killed my brother. He was the golden child and did not want to agree with me that we were being abused. He died complaining about his chest for weeks, my narc parents never asked my uncle who is a heart surgeon about it. Meanwhile they were seeing this heart surgeon every day – he's their closest relative, he lived two blocks from them! James, you saved my life last year when I found you. Literally saved my life.
I have decided no contact with all my narc relatives but it's horrible that i can't even go to the birthday party or holiday invites of any decent relatives i do love because i know the narc vampires will be there, as they were invited too. I also have two horrible narc younger brothers and contact with them is so toxic and poisonous but they are all i have in the world. The no-contact rule is never as easy as it sounds.
My "mother" did a very cunning smear campaign against me, going to anyone who would listen to her "victim" story, complaining that "____ doesn't love me". She conveniently failed to mention to them the WHY and the fact that she used a baseball bat on me, whipped me regularly even across the face, degraded me in every way she could, would sneak into my bedroom late at night after i fell asleep and steal things from me to hide in my sister's room so that i would blame her, and was basically a sadist.
At her funeral i had to listen to idiots come up to me and tell me "what a sweet lady" my "mother" was, and how supposedly "nice" she was. They talked about her like she was a saint or Mother Teresa.