In today’s episode, I’m answering some big questions about narcissistic abuse and narcissistic abuse recovery, including topics such as the silent treatment, …
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Answered: Your Questions on the silent treatment, narcissistic rage, covert narcissism and more.
My mum is covert and my ex wife overt, currently I don't know what the hell I am other than screwed up and needing therapy which is difficult in the UK as they don't believe in this sort of thing.
Angie, can you message me your email address on here. I must be misinterpreting the spelling of your email address because it bounced back undeliverable.
Hello Angie, thank you for answering my questions. Here are my response to your inquiry on clarifying my situation. When my narc made that statement about "I'm not a nice guy. I think you know that!" It was during an attempt to see him unexpectedly. The text conversation started like this….I was helping a friend move and my brother text me asking was I home. I accidently text my narc instead of my brother. He replied with a text saying "It's ok. I know it was meant for your other guy." Now Angie, he's always making remarks like I have someone else but I know it's projection of himself. I had my gf send a picture of herself and told him I'm helping her move. Angie, he sends her a text saying "Oh, I know how a move can be more than expected." Then, I sent him a text saying now you have proof; I'm with my friend. To make a long story short…I text I was coming over and he starts making up story about not being home. I told him I'd just wait for him. Then, he said you're coming on your own decision; without my ok. I'm out with a friend and doors are locked. I told him, I was coming with my friend and he said "I don't think you want an arrest record." I told him…listen, I don't think you will arrest your own girlfriend. Besides my friend wants to meet you and know this great guy I told her about. Angie, that's when he went into saying…I am not a great guy and I think you know that. I replied with…my friend is interested in maybe having you do some work for her.. Then Angie, he does a 180 and says…" See you soon." Angie, I was simply yanking his chain because I didn't have any intensions of coming with my friend. I wanted to have him tell on himself without knowing it. He wanted to make me think a woman was over but the real truth was he probably was playing on the internet looking for the next victim. When he text me back saying "Where are you now?" I replied with "Sorry my friend didn't feel welcome and we are going to a club." Angie me and my friend died laughing. The last thing he typed back was "Have fun." I didn't answer back to him. Angie, you're right about him not being able to believe praises well. He will harp on being old so many times and I keep telling him you're not old. Then, he will say…Ok, if you say I'm not looking old; I'm not old looking. Angie, I don't have any kids with him and I'm with him by choice. The reason is for what I relayed that I know he won't stick around and I fear a commitment with someone. Yes, you guest right that a previous narcissist before him caused such fear. Along with being abused sexually by male family members as well as beaten by family members who made me feel ugly. I reconnected with my narc as a means never having to really commit because I don't trust. Yes, my relationship with him is just the need of having someone to talk and somewhat closeness without worrying of leading to marriage. My past has a history of my mom leaving my abusive father and we moved constantly. We didn't have a permanent place to stay until I was age 12. Yes, I was always picked on as a kid and left vulnerable to someone beating me up. My mom is a perfectionist and always thought her way is the right way. I think all this plays a role in why I am this way. I'm being completely open on here to help others who may have the same self problem. I want them to know they are not the only one who feels and deals with troubled soul. Thank you Angie and I will email you.
i highly relate to mason… ive found im now addicted a high anxiety environment and if we need counseling where do we go
can you please do a video on what kind of people do narcissists go after and why?
yup, first clue was right after he moved in he says "im not a nice guy." and of course i argued the point. but at the same time i self deprecate alot cuz i simple dont' have any real proof im lovable. and he never argued that point either.
to the person who asked the 3rd question…..i watched a great video on the topic that you have a concern with…..it is by Alan Robarge called Does Love Make You Do Crazy Things? Primal Panic….he says hormones are released in our brains under certain exterior conditions and this causes us to seek out the narcissist again to relieve the primal panic within ourselves…anyway, i know my description is vague but go watch it and it may spark a moment of brilliant enlightenment within xo
I appreciate your vids. I'm going through it for the first time and it's killing me to even explain the situation. I'm just going crazy though.ugh.