Are You A Narcissist or A Codependent-or-Both? https://lisa-a-romano.mykajabi.com Very often times codependents can be just as aggressive as they can be …
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Are You A Narcissist or A Codependent-or-Both?
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Lisa thank you so much for clearing that up. I identify massively with co dependent symptoms. i did think because of my anger that I was narcissistic. Sam vankin speaks about inverted narcissism have you watched that stuff? I do identity slightly. however I am not one bit jealous or envious of others. its a hard one like you said. I was like a nodding dog when you spoke about your child hood. I would stay in my bedroom and day dream about my prince coming to rescue me at around seven I had an infatuation with a boy in my class. I've been a love addict since then. I attract abusive men all the time. I so want to change that. I can't take no more pain. I think narcissists run this world. politicians are full of these people. I wish with all my heart this stuff was more out there. can you imagine how the world would change. your one of the great teachers out there trying to get this stuff recolonised. this stuff is killing our world. I have read the celestine prophecy where it speaks about energy and higher vibrations. I think my first love needs to be a higher power. I think if everyone had that and had self awareness it would change the world. I am so glad to be on this bitter sweet journey. I have a lot of work to do. I would like to become a life coach myself. do you have any tips? any info would be appreciated. much love and hugs for your massive contributions. X
when I was a teenager I dated a guy like that… if I was happy he found a way to make me sad. most of it was a bullshit story.
Very good video very sad and true, but ultimately VERY hopeful! Thank you so much, ☺!
you're amazing. thank you x
I only discovered you recently.. I was looking for answers to such deep pain and confusion because of the web of lies and deceit I uncovered from the man I loved and trusted. He didn't seem to care that I was in pain which was the biggest hurt of all.. Of course it all mirrored my early life!.. Thank you so much… You're such an inspiration! I'm going to tell all my dear friends to watch you.. Love and light, Daisy xxx
15:45 "when you are a true codependent you are miserable but you do nothing to leave the relationship" OMG I did exactly what you described. I used to pray for my BF's death because I was too chicken to leave him and MAN I felt like the lowest human being for doing that. OR i wished he would cheat on me so I could easily kick him out without him having a leg to stand on when the fighting began. I never thought that other people felt like I did.
Hi Lisa, you rock. Can you tell me if someone can be a codependent in one relationship, but narcissistic in another? I had a friendship where she was the codependent to her spouse. But in her relationship with me she was the narcissist.
Thanks
Oh my goodness, I have been listening to you for literally days along with another lady. I am growing, growing, growing. I am almost 67. It is so funny to think that because I don't feel that age. I realize I am a co-dependent who is healing. In this segment above, when you speak about when we get around someone who is like our parents and make us feel the way they did, which is familiar and you went beep, beep, beep, love at first sight; it so resonated with me. That and make me laugh. Finally a way to think about it which is so visual and helps me understand why I have attracted these unfortunate characters in my life. THANK YOU!!! I am going to listen to the rest of your segment now……..
I am wondering if you could do a video for people who recognize that they are codependent with some narcissistic traits and now feel hopeless that they can recover? I run into a lot of people who think they are too far gone or too damaged to even try to heal and it makes me so sad for them.
stunning video. thanks again.
I wish I would've found you earlier. I'm 30 minutes from Garden City.
at the end of this video you said listen listen listen you are enough i cried Thank you
Lisa, You are such a gift on the path…. Thank you for your unique insights and delicious blend of metaphysical and psychological view points that intertwine on a journey into self discovery and evolutionary development. Have learned so much from your golden nuggets. Keep up the great work and look forward to seeing more of you.
In Gratitude! ~C
My parents, particularly my mom, over cared. Both parents are dry children of an abusive alcoholic. The world, outside of my parents, told me I don't matter. My parents, told me I matter the most. It was a very confusing message.
Don't ever change !! Can you feel my light, it's because of you :)
Holy Crap. wow. Thank you. ! No words. But thank you. !
Wow!!!!So glad I came across your videos! Sharing like crazy with everyone I know who needs it. Thanks so much Lisa!
Matthew 5 ( If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also.)
"38“You have heard that it was said, ‘Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.’h 39But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also. 40And if anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, hand over your coat as well. 41If anyone forces you to go one mile, go with them two miles. 42Give to the one who asks you, and do not turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you."
I've been watching all your videos. They've been helping me realize the situation I'm in now and how hard it feels like it is to get out. He tells me he'll take revenge if I leave and also tried to kill himself. Now he has been admitted in the hospital and has to stay for at least 72 hours. I feel like now is the best time to break up because he won't be able to act on emotions. Another thing I've learned about myself is that I'm scared to be alone and get depressed when I'm alone and feel like there's nothing to look forward to. I have a daughter that I need to rebuild my bond with.
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When you've been 'raised' abusively and you struggle to survive, don't be surprised that you took on strategies that are abusive to others, as well. It's a hard truth, but recognising and acknowledging this is not only nessecary but helpful as well.
Lower Spectrum narcissists can be codependent. Higher Spectrum narcissists are counter dependent.
I'm a codependent. I am pretty sure I suffered NPD abuse from my mother and father. I know I was abused heavily as a young child. Then I am pretty sure I married my wife who's mother and my wife were a team tandem narcissist psychopath. They used not only religion to manipulate me constantly. I didn't realize what was going on until about 9 years into marriage. I tried to get help from different people but no one would believe me. I did everything wrong. I began trying to expose them, believing that like normal people when you confront them on the BS they would admit or say sorry. Never happened, the sorry's that I ever did see come from them were superficial and the environment was completely controlled by them. The abuse that started during the couple years I started confronting the manipulation was horrendous. I realized later all those days I woke feeling like I had gotten beaten all night was because I am pretty sure I was. and Then I woke up one night to me ex whispering in my ear, don't know what exactly she was whispering but I realized OMG she's been brainwashing me. I still couldn't just divorce her, I live my life by Jesus. She attempted some horrendous things against me that didn't go through and I know only by the grace of God, but I was so afraid to call the authorities. At the end of our relationship, I followed the Holy Spirit to a job a couple states away, which gave me time to heal and strengthen myself. I went to visit her after getting her to realize I was stronger, confronted her face to face with out fear on the stuff she knows I knew happened and she filed for divorce. I moved back for my children. That was difficult, I realized there was still a control she had over me and I would still get manipulated by her. Just the sound of her voice, her tone and its almost like certain words and phrases would weaken me. I finally realized that I had to completely cut any communication. I communicate as little as possible regarding the children. I know my children are confused too now. One of my problems is, I tried to have a new relationship but I fell right for another Narc. I think I realized it, instead of just leaving I just did everything she wouldn't like, and didn't succumb to all the gas lighting and criticism and she finally broke up with me. But, if wasn't really careful, there were certain phrases and words similar to those of my wife, that would almost put me into a trance state of being willing to be almost a slave. Can you speak to this at all? Is there hope to over come this? I do fine in business and I am a professional. I do have a few clients that are likely Narcs and I find those relations tend to cause me to argue with them or be very defensive with them other than that my business world seem fine, its in my personal life. My middle son is 13 and he's exhibiting the narc behaviors and I find that sometimes his attacks can almost paralyzing me and my defense used to be to argue and win. I found just ignoring the attacks and just walking up to him and giving him a hug completely changes his demeanor. Well I am rambling now. I haven't found a counselor or therapist that can even really discuss the brainwashing and paralyzing effects, so I though I would try here. I've watched a lot of your videos and have been helped by many of them. Thank you
i agree with your wisdom. i call the grid our astrological birth chart. it's in there.