Please note many of these predators were in truth abused in their childhoods. Oftentimes abused children develop in two distinct directions. Direction One: …
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The Narcissist, Malignant Narcissist and/or Sociopath Predator Playing the Victim While Abusing
I have lived, and continue to live, through the "victimhood" that my soon-to-be-x played. Yes it was I who had the florid mental health issues, the violent nature, the abusive tongue, the substance addiction, etc. And how opportune it was that he did in fact develop cancer mid-way through the disintegration of our relationship and while he was desperately rallying for support as his mask began slipping. It was genuine and he had surgery but then used this to illustrate to people how cold, unempathic, insensitive and disturbed I really was for not genuinely caring for him. He further decompensated and Police issued a restraining order and subsequently arrested him for breach of this. He played the innocent victim of a woman gone mad who had gone to the ends of the earth to hurt him and involved law enforcement to "get even" with him. Every video of yours is completely spot on and helps to heal my wounded soul. Thank you.
Sereena Nightshade, do you believe the stories they tell about being abused in childhood are true? Do you think those were true at least even though so much of what they say is always a lie? Something must have made them what they are. In my situation, I am highly confident my ex partner's mother was exactly what he is. Interestingly enough, when we first met, he told me his paternal grandmother was a horrible wicked manipulative woman who tried to pay his father to divorce the mother. In retrospect, I now realize my ex projected himself onto his grandmother, and if she DID try to pay her son to divorce his wife, I now believe it's because she saw the truth exactly as I did. I believe the mother raised him brainwashing him and triangulating that entire family—placing the blame on the father and her mother in law when, in actuality, she is the evil manipulative one and has been all along.
I wish there were a data base where people could document and name their abusers.
Projection is a very common defense mechanism used by narcissists in an attempt to deceive others and to preserve their belief that they are superior and special. It is themselves they are actually describing.
A victim's cell phone can be easily remote hacked. The material on how to do this as well as software to do it is easily available via a Google search. Victims need to be aware of this technology in order to better protect themselves from their predators. Here is a excerpt from one of those Google searches (what I found within only a few minutes this morning after learning last night that my own cell phone was remote hacked): "http://www.gohacking.com/spy-on-cell-phone-complete-guide/
I want to let anyone know…who has come to the conclusion that. ..they may be living with …or are the victim of a narcissist. ….that…
You are not alone.
You are not crazy
You are worthy of love
You are worthy of being Believed
You Are Worthy…no matter the lies that have been told about you . No matter what you have had to do to survive !…..but most of all that…
You Are a Survivor!
I know it may feel as if you'll never get through this
but I'm here to let you know that you can!
You see …I was the child of a narcissist in mom…and the wife of one for 34 years.I am now a 53 year old survivor!
You Are Not Alone.♡